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The harder I tried to "do things right," the more I somehow lost sight of myself.

Letting go of expectations, turning the struggle of living into the power to notice, and writing to return to myself.
I write with these three themes in mind.

1. Living by your own standards instead of meeting expectations

• Why "I'm counting on you" somehow doesn't make me happy. The true nature of that discomfort.

• [For those lacking confidence] Why do you smile and say "YES" when you really want to say "NO"?

• For the nights you can't say "I finally finished it." To the heart that feels down for not being able to self-promote.

• To the me from back then, who believed I could become "someone" when I started my career.

• I want to rest, but I'm afraid to. The curse of productivity.

• The modern religion that worships the god of productivity.

• Why does life become more dull the older we get?

• At large drinking parties: those who naturally enjoy themselves versus those who try hard to enjoy themselves.

• When everyone is excited, why am I the only one who feels cold?

• Resisting a suffocating society. Insights from Nietzsche and Code Geass.

• [HSP/INFJ/AC] Finding it "hard to be in groups" is not a weakness. A story about the courage to choose "deep connections."

• [HSP/INFJ] You don't have to feel guilty about "losing friends" anymore.

• The suitable jobs and survival strategies for the "avoidant type" as seen by someone with a "habit of resetting human relationships."

• The reason I could never "let go of attachment."

• That "oh well" wasn't you becoming cold; it was a sign that "margin" had returned to your heart.

• [To those who struggle to rest] That "time spent doing nothing" was the most luxurious time in your life.

• [To those who worry too much] The "self-reflection" you do alone on the night you said no—the other person has already forgotten it.

• That "lack of motivation" was just a matter of using the wrong fuel. My story of getting fired from a convenience store.

• That idea that "AI will make things easier"—it's probably the opposite. We might just be playing a game of chicken.

② Reframing the difficulty of living as the "power to notice"

• "Maybe I'm not cut out for this job"—realizing at my limit that the true nature of "trying too hard" might be Adult Children.

• Every time I was told "you're kind," it was painful. —The true nature of "kindness" I realized as someone with Avoidant Personality Disorder.

• [HSP/AC] Why your heart gets worn down by "minor criticism."

• [HSP/AC] The real reason you lose confidence for no reason.

• [HSP/AC] I'm afraid of being scolded. The importance of boundaries to protect your heart.

• [HSP/AC] That 'difficulty in living' might actually be an ability to notice things faster than others.

• The true identity of 'vague malaise' in your 30s is pressing the brain's accelerator and brake at the same time.

• The desire to be understood by someone and the feeling of giving up because it's hopeless anyway.

• When groundless fatigue arrives, you are in the middle of a change.

• [Worrying in advance] You are already living through a tomorrow that hasn't arrived yet.

• [Introvert] Is it because your 'willpower is weak' that habits don't stick? — The real reason we overthinkers overlook.

• My self-introduction as an HSS-type HSP/AC | Living with an overthinking personality

③ Write, pause, and return to yourself

• Audio journaling called 'monologue walking' to clear the noise in your head

• What happens in your head when you feel down? A small ritual to break out of the 'overthinking' loop.

• I know it in my head, but I can't move. Stop thinking and listen to the voice of your body.

• A story about avoiding crowds and focusing entirely on getting myself in order during the long weekend

• Things I realized during a week when I couldn't get rid of my fatigue no matter how much I slept

• "If I could go back to those days"—The meaning of painful times that Re:Zero taught me.

• The reason why I still can't stop talking to people, even though AI has made organizing my thoughts easier.

• In an era where anyone can become a "good writer" with AI, the ones who still stand out are those with unique experiences and ideas.

• A place where you can gently touch the "inner garden" of people's hearts. The reason why I feel that only note is my "home".

• [For those who feel restless] Just looking up at the stars in the park at night. That was the best "recharge".

📚 Book Announcements & Reports

• Actually, I've been writing a book for a long time

• I'm writing a book about "escaping from other people's correct answers." Which title feels right to you?

• Thank you so much for all the comments on the book title proposals!

• The book title has been decided! And now, I'm struggling with the cover again.

It's okay not to have an answer.
If you read this and can pause for just a moment, that is enough.

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