"It Will Be Okay, I'm Sure" Magazine Introduction & Table of Contents

"It Will Be Okay, I'm Sure" is

This is my membership magazine sent out with that concept.

Although I am not a medical professional or a counselor, I have suffered from mental health fluctuations ranging from depression to bipolar disorder, and I have lived my life with my antennas always tuned to mental health care.

This magazine is a collection of over 300 articles focusing on techniques and life lessons that have actually helped me with mental health care from my perspective, and content that I find truly valuable.Sources are books, papers, or my own experiences.

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"It Will Be Okay, I'm Sure" Table of Contents(Updated periodically)

Guide

• For first-timers: The "Even So" starting point you should grasp

I want to improve my relationships

I want to get along with someone / I want to be liked

• When relationships aren't going well, review your interpersonal patterns.

• Relationships that lead to happiness: When a rift forms in a relationship with someone important

• What is a true best friend? Conditions for deep bonds learned from early Buddhist scriptures

• "Could it be that I'm hated?" That anxiety might be your own "assumption." The mechanics of the heart and tips to feel at ease

• [Why are you hated? ①] The way of thinking of that person who suddenly hates you

• [Why are you hated? ②] They see "someone else's shadow" in you

• [Why are you disliked? ③] Your actions are touching upon the other person's emotional wounds

• Before worrying that you aren't getting through. "Delivering thoughts gently": Assertive communication

• Valuing yourself and others: Assertive communication practice ① Workplace edition

• Valuing yourself and others: Assertive communication practice ② Home edition

• Valuing yourself and others: Assertive communication practice ③ Partner edition

• Is it painful because you can't fit in? Just as you are, you will surely be alright.

• Can those who cannot love themselves not love others? — A recommendation for loving-kindness meditation [Self-Compassion]

• "Is that an insult to me?" That anxiety might just be an assumption. How to deal with the cognitive distortion of "mind reading"

• If you can also be "kind" to yourself, kindness will circulate and turn into a "bond."

• You cannot change people. But if you change yourself, the other person may change too.

• The psychological reason why speaking your "true feelings" when asked to "speak your mind" actually leads to misunderstandings

Having people you dislike / Having people who exhaust you

• Requests you should refuse — To avoid becoming someone's slave —

• Points to be careful about so you aren't controlled by others or dragged into crimes

• Is there someone like this around you? The "energy vampires" who drain you when you're with them

• To protect your heart: The "enemies in the guise of friends" that early Buddhist scriptures teach us to keep at a distance

• 3 perspectives for letting go of "hatred" [Self-Compassion]

• Why does that person try to one-up you? Their psychology and how to deal with it

• Why doesn't that person understand? The truth that "you cannot control others"

• The only thing you can control is yourself.

• When you get frustrated with people close to you

• Does that "envy" help you? The boundary between jealousy and resentment

• The art of "interpretation" to gently change your world

• How to listen to complaints without hurting others or exhausting yourself, making relationships a little easier

• Drawing the line between kindness and endurance. Because painful relationships aren't "kind" to either party, even if you keep them going.

• I feel miserable when I talk to that person. How to protect yourself from "gaslighting"

Getting angry / Speaking ill of others

• Does anger trigger motivation? How to turn the energy of anger into creativity

• Losing enthusiasm by making too many excuses (Self-handicapping)

• The thought that "life is unfair"

• Stopping the criticism of others also helps yourself.

• Does the gaze of others improve performance? The mechanism of social facilitation and how to use it

• Deliver gratitude to the other person while it is still warm.

• Living in the "now".

• To you who feel self-loathing, thinking "I got angry again...". How to notice the "true feelings" hidden behind anger

• Anger management. You cannot change events, but you can change how you feel about them.

• Not shouting, but "angry". We who are exhausted by anger we cannot notice

• Before you throw out the words "I can never go back". The technique of "wait and see" to protect yourself

• For those of you who get irritated by someone else's "sounds." It might not be "sensitivity," but "misophonia."

• Let's laugh off that "irritation." 3 types of humor to ease tension and regain your composure.

Wanting to support/help a loved one

• What we can do when a loved one is struggling.

• 4 things to avoid when you notice someone is struggling mentally [Mental health care for workers]

• "4 types of social support" to help those close to you [Mental health care for workers]

• Notice and support the small SOS signals from colleagues ~Creating a happy workplace where we protect each other's hearts~

• How to boost the self-esteem of subordinates and junior staff

• The art of "listening to people" you should know to support your loved ones

• To you who "want to be useful for someone's happiness" but find your heart wearing thin for some reason.

• What is the difference between "relying on others" and "dependency"? Healthy and secure ways to "rely on others"

• The reason you can't listen to a loved one "to the end." Interrupting to give advice isn't "lack of consideration," but...

Relationship worries/Relationship psychology

• To you who are worried about the temperature difference in love this Valentine's Day. Psychology reveals the romantic styles of men and women and their surprising changes

• What color is your love? Finding your love style through love style typology

• Deepen your emotional bonds with the Lovebird Diagnosis! A partnership check for Christmas

• The changing dating market. For women, is it charm and... academic background?

• Maintaining mental health through love and admiration

• Give your favorite character chocolates for Valentine's Day. Why loving 2D characters isn't an "escape"

I want to change myself

I want to be happy / I want to feel happy

• No matter what happened in the past, people can be happy.

• Conditions for happiness

• The happiness that is here, right now

• Things to let go of in order to be happy

• A reward for yourself might actually be someone else's smile? How to spend money wisely during the year-end and New Year holidays

• The "gift of kindness" to increase feelings of happiness with your loved ones

• Creating happiness from the "body" before organizing the "mind"

• Boosting happiness with a "gratitude visit"

• Increasing happiness with your partner: Proactive ways to enhance life satisfaction

• Achieving a comfortable daily life with the power of oxytocin

• "Finding three good things" to increase happiness and reduce depression

• Maximizing joy and savoring the pleasures of life

• To you who feels, "Why am I the only one so unhappy?" Habits of the heart to find "happiness"

• Is it true that "you become stronger with every tear"? The light and shadow of setbacks and "Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG)"

• For those downcast winter days. Shall we find a "reward for the heart" together?

I want to have confidence

• To cultivate true confidence: From the comfort zone to the stretch zone

• "Lack of confidence" might be your greatest strength. The benefits of living "as you are" proven by neuroscience

I want to raise my self-esteem / I want to like myself

• Four types of wavering self-esteem.

• What forms the foundation of self-esteem

• Self-Esteem Check

• Nurturing Self-Esteem from the Roots: Self-Expansion Through the Johari Window

• Nurturing Self-Esteem from the Roots: Being Honest with Yourself

• The Benefits of Having Low Self-Esteem

• How to Boost Self-Esteem: Lessons from Neuroscience

• 3 Steps to Nurture Self-Esteem Through Simple Shopping

• When You Increase What You Can Do, Your Life Will Blossom Too.

• The Surprising Thing That Protects Your Self-Esteem

• Are You Overlooking That "Like"? [For Noters Only] How to Improve Self-Esteem

• Why We Are Bad at Receiving Compliments: How to Live Flexibly Even in a Society Where "The Nail That Sticks Out Gets Hammered Down"

• When You Can't Honestly Accept Praise, and Therefore Become Obsessed with Being "Useful"

I want to know about myself / I want to cherish myself

• Assert Yourself Without Trying Too Hard to Fit In with Everyone.

• Magic words to break free from the inferiority loop. Ways of thinking to forgive your "incompetent self"

• If you love yourself, you won't be defeated by criticism.

• Self-care work to love your own body [Self-Compassion]

• Taking responsibility for your own decisions.

• Work to look at yourself as you are

• Every time you think "I shouldn't do this," you want to do it more

• What are your strengths?

• When a dream you've held onto vaguely doesn't come true.

• Don't be trapped by the stories in your mind.

• Accepting "you as you are" is not the same as being self-indulgent.

• Learning to love yourself changes everything.

• Don't be swayed by vague "likes," follow your true will

• To keep your mind in balance, know what you desire.

• This year, let's become the protagonist of our own lives.

• A personality test with psychological backing: A recommendation for the Big Five theory.

• Is that bravado perhaps a reflection of "weakness"? The psychology of the "superiority complex".

• The real reason why we wish to "be useful to someone" when we are at rock bottom.

Blaming yourself

• Protecting yourself from self-criticism through the power of reframing.

• If you tend to blame yourself, try "gentle self-talk" [Self-Compassion].

• Perspectives to adopt in order to confront self-criticism.

• Being "sensitive to pain" doesn't mean you are "weak-minded." The surprising relationship between mind and body revealed by science.

• Why does only the regret of that day remain so vivid? The mechanism of the mind that "cannot forgive oneself" (Part 1).

• Guilt that chases you the more you run. What is truly necessary to "forgive yourself" (Part 2).

• Are you fighting the voice that blames you?

Wanting to be kind to yourself / Being too hard on yourself

• To those who think self-compassion is just an excuse for the weak...

• How kindness to yourself leads to kindness toward others [Self-Compassion]

• Recommended: A self-compassion journal to make kindness to yourself a habit

• Overcoming procrastination [Self-Compassion]

• Start with "I don't want to do it." A counterintuitive approach to overcoming procrastination [Self-Compassion]

• The Mantra of Kindness [Self-Compassion]

• The gentle benefits of a self-hug [Self-Compassion]

• The "Hand of Kindness" to heal pain and suffering [Self-Compassion]

• Treat yourself with the same care you give to a loved one.

• Three gateways to overcoming pain [Self-Compassion]

• Creating an image of kindness [Self-Compassion]

• Are those habits of speech holding you back? "Magic rephrasing" techniques to make your heart feel lighter

• It's okay to have low self-esteem.

I want to fix my extreme way of thinking/mental habits

• If you want to improve your mental habits: [Cognitive Behavioral Therapy]

• Is the "negativity" in your heart the truth? A thinking lesson to look at what is "real"

• Types of "lens distortion" in our minds and how to deal with them. [Mental care for working people]

• 4 signs that appear when you are trapped by your inner voice

• Confirmation bias to be aware of before deciding what you "like" or "dislike"

• Why not rethink the "self you want to be"? ~Lighten your heart by recognizing your aspirations~

• It's not "friend or foe." Living in a world of gradients. [Cognitive distortion and its countermeasures]

• A way of thinking necessary to escape from all-or-nothing binary thinking.

• It's better not to try than to fail. Could that be a shield for your heart? ~How to deal with the "defense mechanisms" that protect your heart~

• To you who feels "my life is over" after just one failure. Are you falling into the trap of "generalization"?

• Is your conclusion really a fact? How to deal with "overgeneralization" through a quiz

• For those who struggle to find the good. How to deal with the "mental filter" that only picks up the negative

• The mental traps that dull your judgment during a disaster. Three cognitive biases of "it won't happen to me" to remember on Disaster Prevention Day

• Do you find yourself saying, "It was just a fluke"? The distortion in the mental lens that keeps happiness at bay

• Feeling like everything is "my fault." How to deal with "personalization"

• Bad things are "huge," while good things are "minuscule"? We are the ones looking through the wrong end of the mental binoculars

• We unconsciously "label" others. How can we see things "as they are"?

• Do you believe your emotions are "facts"? Exercises to free yourself from "jumping to conclusions"

• To you, whose mantra is "I have to." The magic of words to loosen the painful "should-thinking"

• Change how you see the world, and the future will change. The meaning of a "free heart" after finishing the 10 lenses

• Labels are hard to give up because they are "cost-effective." Why we unconsciously label people [Part 1]

• When we attach painful "labels" to ourselves. Why innocent "labels" turn into "stigma" [Part 2]

• Even if we label and are labeled. Still, someday, it will be "okay" [Part 3]

I want a heart that isn't swayed by emotions

• "It's okay to be yourself, but I want to change." An introduction to DBT for turning contradictions into strength

• Don't let your emotions control you anymore. Four mental techniques to protect yourself and make relationships easier [DBT Introduction 2]

• No more regrets. What is the "STOP" method, the emergency brake for emotions? [DBT Introduction 3]

• The technique of "letting go" of an unchangeable past. "Radical Acceptance" learned from DBT [DBT Introduction 4]

• Calming the mind through the five senses. Techniques for "relaxing yourself" learned from DBT [DBT Introduction 5]

• Making your "world" kinder. The practice of "non-judgment" learned from DBT [DBT Introduction 6]

I want to be strong / I want to increase my mental resilience

• Resilience nurtured by bonds: Attachment formation to increase mental resilience

• Resilience nurtured by bonds: The four attachment styles and difficult relationships

• Resilience brought by attachment: The power of "bonds" to overcome emotional wounds

• "Attachment" and developmental trauma: Is your "habit" a defense mechanism?

• The key to achieving a "stable mind" is opening your "window of tolerance"

• The "window of tolerance" on sand: The shadows lurking in false stability

• Beyond the 'Window of False Tolerance' ~To Reclaim Your True Self~

• Resilience Through Connection: 'Co-regulation' of Emotions So You Don't Have to Try Too Hard Alone

• Even with 'Life Difficulties' from Past Wounds, We Can Surely Be Happy [Attachment Formation and Resilience]

• Criticism and Feedback Are Not 'Rejections of You as a Person.' Ways of Thinking to Accept Them and Turn Them into Growth

• Can Unpleasant Memories Change Based on How They 'End'? The Peak-End Rule

I want to settle my feelings

Overcoming stress and anxiety

• Stress Is Neither an Enemy nor an Ally

• The Scary Illusion of 'Getting Used to It': Stress Reactions [Mental Care for Workers]

• Suppressing Stress Hormones to Make Even Gloomy Mondays Easier to Get Through

• Don't Miss the Signs from Your Mind and Body! Tips for Noticing Stress

• An Ally for Tough Times: How to Use Two Types of Coping, 'Problem-Solving' and 'Mood-Shifting' [Mental Care for Workers]

• Surprising Methods for Stress Care

• Two Ways to Overcome Feelings of Anxiety

• You don't have to erase the "anxiety" of a new life. Ways to feel at ease while staying true to yourself

• For when your heart feels restless. Mindfulness to support you when you have inexpressible anxiety [Audio Guided Introduction]

Being swayed by emotions / Irritation / Feeling uneasy

• Allowing emotions, and not being swayed by them.

• The strengths hidden in jealousy and possessiveness

• We who want to erase unpleasant emotions.

• The end of the year is the time for a mental detox through gratitude [Includes Gratitude Power Check]

• Do you eat even when you're not hungry? The surprising causes of overeating

• When dark news continues

• The importance and practice of self-compassion in parenting

• Isn't it exhausting to spend money just to "be a good person"?

Depression / When something unpleasant happens

• A compassionate heart becomes a source of strength

• Empty encouragement is counterproductive

• Don't Forget to Thank Yourself: Habits for Mental Maintenance

• When Someone Says Something Unpleasant to You

• The Magic of Turning "I Don't Like This" into a "Challenge": A Recommendation for Reframing

• Things We Tend to Forget in the Darkness

• Don't Carry It All Alone: A Helping Hand for Your Heart [Mental Care for Working People]

• A Recommendation for Counseling [Mental Care for Working People]

• Exercises to Overcome Emotional Wounds [Self-Compassion]

I want to relax

• Sighing Has Positive Effects on Mental Health: 5 Surprising Relaxation Methods

• Let's Try Mindfulness Meditation Together! [Includes Audio Guided Introduction]

• An "Attention" Exercise to Incorporate Mindfulness into Daily Life [Includes Introductory Audio]

• Blissful Relaxation with a Gentle Body Scan [Self-Compassion]

• With Refreshing Birdsong: Mindfulness for Mornings When You Can't Get Up [Audio Guided Introduction]

Fear of failure / I made a mistake / I messed up

• Failure is not your 'everything.' 7 questions to protect your heart

• Failure is scary and painful for everyone.

• It is difficult to admit failure.

• How to break free from circular thinking

• Be kind to yourself, especially when you make a mistake.

• To gain confidence, try challenging yourself even when you lack it.

• Can you forgive your own failures?

• 'Bad things' don't happen. Because they can be turned into 'good things.'

• Everyone has moments where they hurt others.

• How to recover your heart, even on a morning when your 300-day streak of daily posts has accidentally been broken. (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)

Parting/Separation/Grief

• Losing someone important, and healing from grief.

• To you, who cannot stop the tears. Things you can do at such a time

• Painful memories that won't leave your head. Can that "game" interfere with "burn-in"?

Feeling down

• 5 ways to ease feeling down

• If being told "You have to be positive!" makes you feel even worse

• Overcoming depressed feelings with the power of "words"

• Set small goals precisely when you are feeling down

• When your heart wavers: 4 techniques to regulate your feelings using emotional "distance"

• Embrace yourself at the end of the year—let's praise who you are this year! [Self-Compassion]

• Always place the axis of evaluation on "yourself."

• So that your life is not controlled by your emotions.

• Using physical sensations to get through negative emotions [Self-Compassion]

• If you love your work, you and those around you can be happy.

• The emotional support brought by hope [Positive Psychology]

• Strengths are polished through focus.

Perfectionism is painful / I want to know about perfectionism

• To you, the perfectionist. Tips for accepting compliments

• "Why can't I even do this...?" To you who lost confidence while beside a perfectionist

• You have value even if you aren't perfect.

• Do you want to quit being a perfectionist? ~3 approaches to breaking free from perfectionism~

• "Giving up" on not being able to do things perfectly is different from "accepting" it

I want to increase my motivation / I want to get motivated

• Enhancing internal motivation and living your own life

• The nature of "motivation" you should understand

• Distinguishing between competition and cooperation in life [Zero-sum bias]

• "I'm not motivated..." 5 tips for moving forward anyway

• "Rewards" are important for maintaining motivation

• In an era where novels written by AI are "more interesting." Even so, what is the "meaning of writing"? (Part 1)

• In an era where AI-written novels are "more interesting." Even so, the reason why your desire to "write" is precious (Part 2)

• Mindfulness for tasks you don't feel motivated to do [Audio Guided Introduction]

I want to have a dream / I want to have a goal

• Painting your future. How to find your dreams and goals

• How you hold your desires determines your self-evaluation

• "Self-efficacy" to boost once your goals are set

• Tips for goal setting that are also useful for resolutions

• So that your life is not controlled by others.

• The power of envisioning your future self

• "What should I do for this year's resolutions?" A search for "values" for the new year, gifted to you who are feeling lost

• Because "challenge" is not something to compare with others. Searching for my own "comfort"

Feeling tired for no reason

• How to defeat "feeling vaguely unwell"

• To avoid having your freedom stolen by too many choices

• Is that choice really necessary? Reducing the number of "choices" to find peace of mind

• Is "I've researched a lot, so I'm fine" really true? The surprising relationship between information and judgment

• I can't enjoy anything, my heart feels unmoved. How to get through days like that

• From "I must be there" to "It's okay to be there." A place to belong is not about being "needed," but being allowed to exist.

I want to improve my sleep

• The "bad dreams" I want to forget. Does this mean my heart is tired?

• To you who don't feel like you've "slept well." A person with insomnia writes about the deep and important relationship between sleep and mental health

• Are "good things for sleep" becoming a source of pressure? It's okay if you're not perfect; starting sleep habits gently

• To you who are reading this while unable to sleep. A story about a charm for long nights.

• For sleepless nights. Surrendering to gentle waves, sleep mindfulness [Audio guided meditation]

• The scientific reason why "procrastinating" on bedtime isn't about "weak willpower"

All alone / Lonely

• Why do I feel "all alone" even when there are many people around? The true nature of loneliness

• Signs of loneliness to watch out for [Mental care for working people]

• Protecting Mental Health Through Human Connection [Mental Care for Workers]

• The more you keep thinking "I am lonely," the more your heart will suffer.

Feeling guilty / Feeling like a fraud

• Feeling guilty when praised... Could that be Imposter Syndrome?

• To you who find it hard to "just receive." Let go of "exchanging" and ease your mind.

Age and Life

• Positive Aging: A Rich Life with Age

• Happiness that increases with age. The happiness waiting in the second half of life

• Please tell me "habits good for the brain"! Surprising and gentle anti-aging found in the latest research

• I want to maintain my mental health with a "young brain." The correct answers for exercise and diet taught by the latest research

When the change of seasons is hard

• Is the cold wave chilling your heart too...? Warm ways to spend your time to soften low moods

• The winter shadow that attacks you ~Knowing and preparing for "Seasonal Affective Disorder"~

• Is spring melancholy caused by pollen? The relationship between allergies and mental health that cannot be overlooked

• Maybe you "can't be kind" because of the cold. The mysterious relationship between the heart and body temperature

• May has flown by. Are you out of breath? Take a breather and do a self-check.

• You can stay in a good mood during the rainy season with a little ingenuity.

It's hard to go back to work after a break / The break itself is hard

• Refresh your mind and body with an ideal vacation! The best ways to take a break from a mental health perspective

• It's okay if you don't have plans for the long weekend! Cherish the time to "do nothing" on purpose

• May's "Relationship Reset Technique": How to find a comfortable distance to heal from the fatigue of the new fiscal year

• How to overcome the post-vacation blues? 4 tips to make your heart feel lighter

• 4 ways to overcome Monday blues

• The "Opposite Action" skill to get through a gloomy Monday

• Goodbye to long-weekend blues. How to spend your holidays to fulfill yourself

• Have a comfortable year-end and New Year. Things to read during the long break to feel "okay"

I want to know about attachment disorders and attachment styles

• Understand your attachment style and apply it to your relationships

• "Why would you say that?" You can tell by your reaction to a fight! Characteristics by attachment style and how to deal with them well

• Can attachment styles change leadership!? Let's learn about your own style and your boss's

*It is recommended to also refer to the resilience section.

How to engage with note and social media

• Why are we obsessed with "Likes"? A healthy way to engage with note and your mental well-being

• Are you addicted without realizing it? A self-check for the "unconscious shackles" lurking in note

• For those of you who can't help but worry about notifications. A proposal for a "comfortable way to engage with note" based on personal experience

• Are people who are quiet on social media actually "good conversationalists"? What the latest research tells us about the right way for you to engage with social media

• Are you feeling mentally exhausted from seeing only disturbing news? Let go of doomscrolling.

• Because words that didn't reach you today might reach you tomorrow

AI and Mental Health

• Is it okay to entrust your heart to AI? Thinking about the use of AI in mental health based on the latest situation in the US

• Why are we drawn to AI's "empathy"? Thinking about the appropriate distance between us and AI through tragedy.

• Things you should know about confirmation bias in the AI era

• The latest research showing a bright future for mental care and AI. What we need to know when interacting with it

• "What we wish for" rather than "how we make it." Human potential that even AI cannot defeat

• Why professional shut-ins are prone to liking AI

• AI is a better listener than humans. Thinking about our "hearts" alongside the latest research

I want to get along with animals too

• Is a cat's "tsundere" nature not just about personality? The magic of deepening your bond with your cat, as taught by the latest research

Mental Life Hacks

• "Looks can be deceiving": How not to be misled by the halo effect and the horn effect

• Make 2025 shine brighter with a "personal ritual" to reset your mind.

• "What's the point of that?" The important things we lose in a time-performance-obsessed society.

• Exercise is nature's medicine

• For that person with a strong will, what's actually strong isn't their "willpower"...

• How the mind works when we are swayed by misinformation

• The surprising effects of strength training on the mind. The deep connection between mental health and muscles

• To you who can't keep up with resolutions to "not do X." How to change yourself without relying on willpower

• It's not just "escapism." The scientific reason why games become a "safe base for the heart"

• Is "falling in love with your captor" real? The urban legend called "Stockholm Syndrome"

• The true nature of "I know, but I can't stop." A discussion on the mental contradiction of "cognitive dissonance"

• I want to "have good luck in 2026." Probability and psychology to become that lucky person

• Before the "days when you can't move" arrive. Recommended survival strategies for getting through mental and physical health issues

• "You're so cute I could eat you up!" That impulse actually has a name

Others

• It Will Surely Be Alright [References] (Titles omitted)