Tennis Improvement Memo 539. The Power of Enjoying Solitude: 85-Year-Old Setsuko Tamura's Philosophy of Happiness in Living "So-So"
I was captivated from the morning by Setsuko Tamura, whom I saw on NHK's "Asaichi".The mystery of why the "lonely life of a poor artist" looks so sparkling and bright. I feel I saw true "freedom" in her figure, letting go of perfection and cherishing her time alone."I'm so-so satisfied"—that is the wisdom of living wisely as an adult.
▶ The Power of Enjoying Solitude: The Form of Happiness Taught by a "Poor Artist"
Setsuko Tamura, an illustrator and essayist I learned about for the first time on this morning's NHK "Asaichi".
As I was watching casually, before I knew it, I wascompletely drawn inby her way of life and how she lives.
Wanting to know more, I searched and arrivedhere.
What a charming 85-year-old she is.
She says she aspired to the "lonely life of a poor artist."
The reason Ms. Tamura looks so radiant must be because her"lonely daily life" of living alone is fulfilling.
▶ "Memo Addict": How Putting Hesitation into Words "Saves You"
One thing that left a particularly strong impression was about her"notebook" where she writes down everything.
Oli Slagter's"Super-Speed Memo" (Related article: "Memo immediately after jumping! Oli Slagter's notebook is also gold-medal speed").
Announcer Takahiko Fujii's"Death Note" (Related article: "Abilities are drawn out by Announcer Fujii's "Death Note"").
And Tennis Zero's"Tennis Memo" (Related article: "Towards Overcoming Yips 010: I felt a little saved").
I think Ms. Tamura mentioned on the program that her notebook is like a "doctor" or a "vitamin supplement," but speaking as a fellow "memo addict," it isexactly like that.
I write down questions, worries, and ideas.
Then,the original "optimal solution" for myself is derived (or so it feels).
▶ Immersion is the Secret to Keeping Your Mind and Heart Young
According to the article in question,
"I worked at a bank once, but I really wanted to do art work, so I quit the following year and became a freelance illustrator. My parents looked worried about me quitting my job. If I stayed at the bank, my income would be stable, and I wouldn't have trouble with marriage proposals, right? (Laughs)"
says Ms. Tamura.
After all, since we haven't experienced another life, we absolutely cannot have regrets! (Related article "There is no right answer, so there are no regrets").
This is because eventually,
"I was so happy and having so much fun that I was immersed in my work to the point where I didn't need to sleep or eat"
she said.
Immersion, in other words, tosubmergeone'sheadcompletely (Related article "The moment of sudden improvement").
(Contrary to common sense)people become senile by thinkingso Ms. Tamura, who submerged her head, cannot possibly become senile! (Related article "People become senile by thinking (Why tennis is good for dementia prevention)").
▶ Living 'So-So'—Those who have stepped down from perfection are strong
"If I say 'I have no regrets about choosing work over marriage,' it sounds a bit arrogant, so I suppose I'm 'so-so satisfied'"
says Setsuko Tamura.
I believe that 'so-so' is thekey.
No one has a 'perfect life,' and isn't ittoo perfectionisticto think that one wants to walk such a path? (Related article "The reason why perfectionists have 'extremely low self-esteem,' and the 'best way to improve performance' in tennis, work, housework, and creative activities").
▶ The 'Give & Give Law' I learned by trying
In the second part of the articleregarding elderly-to-elderly care, Setsuko Tamura says,"You can't understand anything unless you experience it".
Conversely, I believe that 'if you experience it, you can understand anything' (Related article "Shosuke Tanihara cuts into 'Sanae Takaichi Photo Report'—Making mistakes is hope, the power to verify for yourself").
"I learned by experiencing it, but when you take care of people and they are happy, you conversely receive energy"
The passage that says this is truly the law that giving returns in real-time (Related article "Information gathers to those who give—'The Law of Luck'").
▶ Healing the heart that thinks 'I don't have'—The habit of noticing the happiness that is 'already there'
Thinking that parting with a loved one is painful might be becauseyour consciousness is directed toward yourself.
"Your sister (the person dying) will soon go to a beautiful world. She doesn't have to suffer anymore." This was told to her by a student in her picture diary class.
It is the "self" that is sad; the "other" who is dying is at peace.
However,
"Until that day, we'd like to stay healthy if possible, wouldn't we?" (omitted) "After all, they say that even if you spend hundreds of millions of yen to build a robot, you can't even replicate the movement of a human finger. Just having a body that moves, even if it's a bit wobbly, makes you a 'billionaire'."
says Ms. Tamura.
We tend to beg for what we 'don't have,' but I think we are already 'billionaires' who 'have' everything (related article: "The suffering comes from being in 'begging for what you don't have' mode").
"Rather than worrying about such things, it's more important to live today happily."
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