#16 "If children are treated fairly, they grow up to have a sense of justice"
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Monday✨
Let's learn "Children Learn What They Live" together♫🤗
From the poem "Children Learn What They Live"
⭐️If children are treated fairly, they grow up to have a sense of justice⭐️
Where does a sense of justice come from?
The courage to stand up for justice✨
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⭐️A sense of justice is cultivated in our casual, everyday lives!
When parents recognize their child as an individual,
and strive to be fair,
the child learns from the parent's example✨
The book tells us that while it is never easy to determine how much one can hate injustice in the world and remain a person who stands up for justice, we want our children to know as human beings what it means to have the courage to uphold justice.
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For children, fairness and unfairness are a simple and clear world.
Fairness is right
Unfairness is wrong
Real life is not that simple,
and there are no simple, clear-cut rules in life.
Adults have experienced the ups and downs of life,
and understand through experience that life does not always go as planned.
Children do not yet understand that...
They honestly think, "That's unfair."
Parents sometimes do not take them seriously.
"It can't be helped. Sometimes things are just like that."
They may not be convinced, and their feelings may not settle.
Listen to the complaints and dissatisfaction of how the child felt.
Ask them what they think should be done,
and the book says it is important to guide the conversation
so that they can feel motivated to try and do better next time.☺️
It is important to listen to a child's dissatisfaction and anger,
and to properly discuss each other's thoughts and requests.
⭐️Children have their own side of the story
Even if parents think they are being fair,
it may not look that way to the child.
The important thing is
⭐️To communicate your feelings to the child so there are no misunderstandings!
⭐️To interact with a flexible attitude!
What it means to be fair to children is,
to listen to children properly,
and to respect their opinions!✨
That's right, isn't it?✨
Even adults want their side of the story to be heard properly.
Just that alone makes them feel like they have been treated fairly!
That is how it feels to be treated fairly!
Children, who have not yet experienced the ups and downs of life,
must feel that even more.
By being treated as an individual,
they likely learn to feel fairness and equality in their own bodies, don't they?✨☺️
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How should one treat children fairly?
Every child has a different personality and character!
It is impossible to treat them all the same.
The important thing is
⭐️to treat each child in a way that suits them!
What is enough for one child
may be insufficient for another.
You should think about what that child wants and what their state is,
and treat each one accordingly.
No matter how careful parents are,
rivalry is likely to arise between siblings.
Children are very sensitive to
which child their parents show interest in and spend time and effort on.
Every child wants to be valued and loved
just as much as the others✨
Through my work and my own experiences,
I feel that very strongly☺️
I am also one of those who felt very lonely.
I strongly felt that I was not being treated fairly,
and that I was not being respected...
If a child complains,
the parent must reflect on themselves.
Parents may be cornering their children
without even realizing it.
This is an important point☺️
To resolve dissatisfaction between siblings,
I suggest that creating time to be alone with each child is a great idea.
By being alone with their parent,
a child can truly feel that they are valued by their parent.
Getting away from the house is the key!
It is important for the child to feel that the parent is making time just for them,
and that they are looking only at them.
As a personal experience, I have memories etched into my young heart.
I used to look forward to being picked up and dropped off at kindergarten.
My mother was very busy with my two younger sisters,
so I felt that the time we walked together alone was time I had her all to myself,
and it was the only time I could hold her hand and touch her.
It was a time when I felt so lonely
that I wanted to disappear...
With that experience in mind,
as written here, I made sure to
create time just for each of my daughters and go out with them often ☺️
Having time just for yourself is a happy thing, isn't it? 💕
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If children's concerns are listened to at home on a daily basis,
they will try to properly express their own views outside as well.
This is because they have learned through daily family life that if they properly convey their side of the story to others, things can be improved.
When a child comes to you with a concern...
⭐️ Parents, let's properly face our children!
If you don't do that,
children will end up following what their parents say while harboring resentment.
A rift will form between parent and child...
It is not good to impose household rules without listening to the child's side of the story.
(It reminds me of myself when I was little...)
If raised in a home where their opinions and thoughts are listened to,
children will become people who can express their own thoughts and proactively improve things ✨
My father, who was often away for work, used to listen to me!
He would listen to me, reason things out, and explain them logically.
He was a very strict and scary person, but he was someone who would listen to what I had to say.
I realized that it was thanks to my father that I am able to improve things proactively ☺️
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Courageous action! ✨
The habit of properly resolving unfair situations when they occur!
If this is cultivated at home on a daily basis,
children will be able to act the same way in the outside world, it is said.
Children do not tell their parents everything that happens in the world outside the home.
Children may also witness injustices in the world that they cannot do anything about.
Instead of giving up, thinking that the world won't change no matter what they do alone,
they can become children who think about doing something for the world in their own way ✨
Let's nurture such wonderful kindness and courage within the home ☺️
A sense of justice is cultivated in the casual, everyday life! ✨
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[Summary]
⭐️If you are fair to your children, they will grow up to have a sense of justice⭐️
Acknowledge your child as an individual✨
⭐️Listen to your children properly!
⭐️Respect your children's opinions!
⭐️Listen to your children's side of the story!
⭐️Communicate your feelings clearly to avoid misunderstandings!
⭐️Interact with a flexible attitude!
⭐️Interact with them in a way that suits each child!
⭐️Face your children properly!
If you strive to be fair,
children will learn from their parents' example✨
Lessons from "Children Learn What They Live"...
Deep in my heart,
an unforgettable thought...
That is why I
listen to my children's voices a lot
<Back Issues>
・"Poem 'Children Learn What They Live' ~Introduction~"
#1 "If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn"
#2 "If children live with hostility, they learn to fight"
#3"If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive"
#4 "If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves"
#5 "If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy"
#6 "If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy"
#7 "If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty"
#8 "If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence"
#9 "If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient"
#10 "If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate"
#11 "If children live with acceptance, they learn to love"
#12 "If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves"
#13 "If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal"
#14 "If children live with sharing, they learn generosity"
#15 "If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness"
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