The Structure of Reasons for Being 'Unable to Move'

When you think you 'have to do it' but cannot move,
there is a 'structure' to the reason behind it.

You think you want to do it, but you cannot move forward.
You end up procrastinating.
Even though you decided, your actions stop.

At times like that,
・Maybe it's because my willpower is weak
・Maybe it's because I lack confidence
you might find yourself thinking things like that.

This time, I will introduce some examples of these reasons.

▶Reason 1 for being unable to move:
　Your criteria for judgment are not yet organized

・Whether you should do it
・Whether you truly want to do it
・Whether now is the right time to do it

When your axis of judgment is not yet clear,
people stop.

Stopping is a natural reaction.

▶Reason 2 for being unable to move:
　Multiple feelings are moving at the same time

・I want to do it
・But, I am afraid

・I want to move forward
・But, I don't want to fail

・I want to change
・But, I also want to protect my current sense of security

When these multiple feelings exist simultaneously,
your heart stops to try and find balance.

▶Reason 3 for being unable to move:
　You are concerned about someone else's expectations

・I want to meet expectations
・I don't want to disappoint them
・I want to be seen as doing things properly

The stronger those thoughts are,
the harder it can become to see your own true choices.

▶Reason 4 for being unable to move:
The size of the action is too large

・I have to change
・I have to decide
・I have to start

When you think like that,
if the first step is too big,
people naturally stop in their tracks.

Stopping is also a defensive reaction.

▶Reason 5 for being unable to move:
You want to be convinced before moving forward

This might be a little surprising, but:
・You want to understand to some extent before moving forward
・You want to decide in your own words
・You don't want to be forced to move

The stronger those feelings are,
the more time you may need to start moving.

But that is not a weakness.

▶Things I would like you to consider
when you are stuck

If you feel like you are "stuck",
I know you may feel impatient,
but please think about it for a moment.

Which of these reasons
is closest to why you are stuck right now?

It is not just one thing;
sometimes several things overlap.

The time you are unable to move

is not time spent failing to move forward.

It is time spent organizing.

That is precisely why,
before asking 'how can I move?',
knowing 'where the snag is'
can be a hint for your next step.

Please, give it a try.

See you later.

Thank you for reading this article
to the end.

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