For those who want to cherish themselves but don't know how | 11 small signs that your life is starting to turn around 🕊️ Listen to 'There's something I want more than words' 🎵

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"Let's cherish ourselves."

It's a phrase we hear often, isn't it?

I also share this in my notes.

Actually, though,
when you start to cherish yourself,
mysterious changes begin to happen.

It's not just a matter of mood.

From human relationships, work, and money, to how you spend your time.

Your reality starts to change little by little.

However,
those changes aren't all good.

At the very beginning,
"This isn't how it was supposed to be..."
events that make you feel this way will also occur.

This time,
regarding the changes that happen when you cherish yourself,
including both the good aspects and the painful ones,
I would like to talk about them.



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1. Unreasonable relationships decrease

Cherishing yourself means
not ignoring your own feelings and discomfort.

When you do this, you notice things
you had been enduring as if it were natural.

・People who tire you out every time you meet
・People who only criticize
・People who depend on you one-sidedly
・Relationships where only you are trying hard

Things you previously
"couldn't help"
and accepted, will naturally stop continuing.
This doesn't mean you've come to dislike people,


but is the result of having become able to cherish your own heart.
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2. Saying "no" becomes less scary

Many people
cannot say no for fear of being disliked 😿

But, when you start to cherish yourself,
there are things you will notice.

That is,
"prioritizing the other person" and
"sacrificing yourself" are
different things.

When you become able to understand this difference,
・Invitations you don't want to go to
・Unreasonable requests
・Work that drains you
towards these,
you will become able to distance yourself little by little.

As a result,
the time you can spend on what is truly important
will increase.



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3. How people around you treat you changes

People unconsciously
sense how that person treats themselves.
When you treat yourself poorly,

・Accepting unreasonable requests
・Forgiving everything
・Putting your own opinions last
you tend to end up in these states.
But, when you become able to respect yourself,

・Boundaries are created
・You can express your intentions

・You can communicate how you want to be treated.
Then naturally,


the way those around you treat you will also change.

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4. What you truly want to do becomes visible

When you are putting yourself last,
you are actually living by the expectations of others.

・The life your parents want
・The way of working your company wants
・The values society says are correct

Those voices are so loud that
you can no longer hear your own true feelings.

When you cherish yourself,
the noise around you becomes quiet little by little.

And for the first time,
"What do I actually like?"
"How do I actually want to live?"
Such questions are born.


It is the moment when the direction of your life begins to come into view.

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5. Self-esteem stabilizes rather than increases

I want to increase my self-esteem.

Many people think this, don't they?

But what is truly important is
being able to think "I have value even if things don't go well"
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People who cherish themselves
cultivate this feeling little by little.

That is why
you become less likely to be swayed
by the ups and downs of your mood.


Rather than increasing,
it stabilizes.



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6. The way you put in effort changes

The effort you put in when you are not cherishing yourself
can be born from a sense of lack, such as
・Wanting to be recognized
・Not wanting to be disliked
・Wanting to prove your value

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Conversely,
when you become able to cherish yourself,
・Doing it because you want to
・Taking on challenges because you want to growtheenergy changes.



Even with the same effort,

the way you get tired is completely different.

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This is where the important part begins🤭

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Reading this far, you might feel that cherishing yourself is all good things.
But in reality, painful changes also occur.
Many people surely feel anxious in the middle of this process.

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7. People drift away

When someone who used to take on everything starts saying no, people who were conveniently using them may drift away.
They might say things like, "You've changed lately" or "You've become cold."
It doesn't mean you've become a bad person.


It just means that a relationship previously maintained by your endurance has ended.


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8. A period of loneliness emerges

When old relationships end, a temporary void is created.
You might feel as if you aren't deeply connected to anyone.

That loneliness has meaning.
It is



an important time to face yourself.
It is also a preparation period for moving to the next stage.

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9. You see your true feelings and it becomes painful

When you start to cherish yourself,
emotions you had suppressed until now will emerge.

・I was actually hurt
・I was actually sad
・I was actually angry

You may notice such feelings.

Facing them is not easy.

However, it is also
a sign that your heart is trying to recover.

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10. Your current environment no longer fits

You may feel a sense of discomfort in your workplace, community, or friendships.
Things that were fine before are no longer fine.

That discomfort is also


proof that your values are changing.
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11. You face backlash from those around you

People do not like change.

When you change, those around you will be confused.
Especially those who have relied on you until now might say, "You were better before," but...

That is not because you are wrong, but

just that the balance of the relationship has changed.


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Summary

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When you cherish yourself,

✅ Unreasonable relationships decrease

✅ You become able to say no

✅ The way you are treated by others changes

✅ You start to see what you really want to do

✅ Your self-esteem stabilizes

✅ The way you put in effort changes

On the other hand,

✅ People drift away

✅ You become lonely

✅ Painful emotions emerge

✅ Discomfort with your environment intensifies

✅ You face backlash from those around you

These changes also occur.

However, that is not a sign that your life is getting worse, but a sign that the unreasonable demands, endurance, and unnatural relationships of the past can no longer be maintained.
Change always involves a period of letting go.
And beyond that, relationships and ways of living that continue without you having to sacrifice yourself are waiting.
That is what I believe.

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If you felt something while reading this article, please try at least one of the following three things starting today.
① Write down your feelings
② Try saying a small "NO"
③ Make one choice that makes you happy


The important thing is not to try to change your life all at once.



The accumulation of small choices leads to a life where you cherish yourself.



What kind of first step will you choose from now on?
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