[Part 2] Why does the gap widen at a "certain moment"?

Good evening, everyone!
It's your behavioral psychologist here.

Last time,

• that the body reacts before words

• that explanations are constructed afterward

• and that, as a result, a gap is created between words and the body

were the points we organized.

So this time, we will look atat what kind of moments that gap widens.

⚠️Caution⚠️

The gestures introduced here are not "definitive proof of lying," but rather examples of signs where true feelings might leak through.

In the research of psychologist Paul Ekman, basic facial expressions such as anger, joy, sadness, fear, surprise, and disgust are considered to be universally recognized across cultures.

In other words, "facial expressions and gestures are universal human clues."

Symbolically speaking, it can also be expressed as "the truth is etched on everyone's face."

However, please do not forget that the goal is not to "suspect the other person," but rather to understand them and provide "hospitality" that leads to better communication, and above all, that sincerity is what matters most.

1. Situations where gaps are likely to occur

The gap between words and the body becomes stronger in specific situations.

For example,

• topics related to one's own evaluation

• situations where one is asked about responsibility or failure

• the moment when human relationship issues are touched upon

• when explaining events that are difficult to talk about

In such situations,

When these two move simultaneously, a discrepancy is born.

2. Discrepancies expand in "explanation mode"

What I want to focus on in particular isthe moment when one switches from a state of recalling and speaking to explanation mode.

When recalling,

• the narrative is natural,

• there is little movement,

• and one speaks while searching for words.

However, when entering explanation mode,

• the speech suddenly becomes smooth,

• gestures increase,

• and one begins to recreate the situation with their body,

such changes may appear.

This switch is often the true nature of the sense of discomfort.

3. Use it for "understanding" rather than judgment

What is important here is,

to understand it.A discrepancy is not a sign of a lie, but in many cases,

it is a sign of a point where the heart reacted strongly.

Application

Daily life

👉 Observe the moment when the conversation suddenly becomes smooth.

Work

👉 Observe situations where the explanation becomes suddenly too polished.

Partner

👉 Observe the change at the moment the explanation becomes long-winded.

Next time preview

So,

・Why do people try to protect themselves?
・What kind of behaviors appear unconsciously?
・In what forms do defensive reactions manifest?

Next time, I will organize the self-defensive behaviors that people show unconsciously.

References

Ekman, P. (2003). Emotions Revealed.
Ekman, P., & Friesen, W. V. (1978). Facial Action Coding System.
Navarro, J. (2008). What Every BODY Is Saying.
Morris, D. (1977). Manwatching.

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