The Love-Struggling Virgin Around 30, Having the Best Virginity Graduation and Being Doted on by a High-Spec Boyfriend ⑥

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I'm Yuri, who graduated from being a virgin around 30 and started being doted on by a high-spec boyfriend.

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Last time, I wrote about my experience with a "person of concern" I met just as I had started looking for a partner again.

Luckily, I was helped by friends and avoided getting too deep into it, but I used this as a lesson to strengthen my crisis management!

I did everything I could, like sharing information so I could ask friends for help in an emergency, and reading about others' experiences to keep dangerous situations and patterns in mind.

I take crisis management measures, but I still wouldn't say, "It's scary, so I'm quitting everything."

Because my goal was "to graduate from virginity happily and be loved by the best partner for me."

I met the person who became my next boyfriend four months after breaking up with the previous one.

What I did until then was increase the number of encounters while working on self-improvement!!!

• Meeting various people through apps and parties

• Exchanging messages & trying out tea dates

• Self-improvement (inner and outer)

• Body care and preparation

I'll briefly introduce what I did♪

This time, it's about "increasing the number of encounters."

Increasing the number of encounters | What I did before graduating from being a virgin around 30

First, to increase the number of people I meet, I went to various places and tried meeting many people.

Matching apps, love-hunting/marriage-hunting parties, social circles, hobby workshops... and so on.

Now that people are marrying later in life, society as a whole is cooperative with "marriage hunting."

I used to think that was "unsolicited advice" lol

Local governments and companies are providing places to meet in all sorts of ways, which is convenient♪

If you look, there are plenty of "places to meet" prepared, so I think it's good to just dive in.

Increasing the number of people you meet is to raise the probability of meeting a "good person"!

If you narrow down the number of people from the start, you end up having to find your best partner from a very small pool of candidates.

It would be great if there was someone who could be your "partner" among those few candidates from the beginning, but if not, you have to go back and find candidates again.

For an older virgin, wasting time is fatal!!

Even without that, there are plenty of sparkling 20-something girls who are invincible in love on apps and at parties, you know.

I'm not just inexperienced in love, I don't even have sexual experience (sad

<I have no choice but to hit the numbers and get used to it while practicing>

Thinking that, I met more people and exchanged messages with them simultaneously.

Time is even more precious for an older virgin

The reason I decided to <meet as many people as possible> was because I was conscious of the "battle against time."

Women have a shorter "deadline" for the age at which they are in demand compared to men.

Of course, many women also think "younger men are better than middle-aged men," butwomen are more sought after for being physically younger than men areright?

When searching for a partner on an app, you search by narrowing down the "desired age," so every year that passes, you stop appearing even as a "candidate."

You should think that the higher your age, the more your demand will disappear.

This is a cruel fact.


And that's not even mentioning having no sexual experience?

If you don't have more time to spare than the average girl looking for love or marriage, it's hard to correct your course if something happens.

Not just a year, even half a year is precious!

Because you aren't conscious of time, your age becomes your virginity history

It is not just older virgins who are conscious of an "age-related deadline"; women in general who are actively looking for a partner are, of course, the same.

I believe that it is precisely because I was not conscious of this "age-related deadline" that I kept dragging out my "age equals years of virginity" status.

"I'm busy with work right now."
"I'm taking care of my parents, so I can't think about that."
"I'm having fun with my fandom activities and hobbies."

I would use something as an excuse for why I "couldn't think about it now" or "couldn't take action."

I thought I would eventually "get in the mood" for it, but by the time I did, it was (age-wise) too late.

When will you ever have free time from work or taking care of your parents?
Your fandom activities and hobbies will probably continue into the future, right?

If you keep putting things off until "someday," your chances will continue to disappear.

To tell you the truth, I also had a very demanding job.

There was a time in my 20s when I became a manager and spent all day working and studying for my job.

Even on my days off, I would spend time studying or gathering information for work, and there were years where I had no days off for an entire month several times.

I kept wondering, "When will I be able to escape this situation where I have no free time?" but when I looked at my seniors, I realized that ＜nothing will change unless I change my environment＞, so I made a big change to my environment.

What will you choose to get the future that is truly important to you?
What will you spend the most time on?

If you feel like you "want to change" but can't move, it might be good to ask yourself this question. (I asked myself this many times too!)

Caution! There is a gender difference in the sense of time

I wrote that "it is important to be conscious of age deadlines and not waste time," but I want to be careful because men often have a different sense of time than women.

If you try to progress a relationship according to a man's sense of time, it might take a considerable amount of time before you meet the perfect partner.

For example, on matching apps, there were men who preferred to proceed with one person at a time rather than messaging multiple people simultaneously.

"Are you messaging other people too?"
"Are you meeting other people too?"
I was sometimes asked these questions.

(Obviously!) I thought to myself, while asking back, "How about you, [Name]?" Haha.

There were even some people who said, "I want you to only talk to me while you are talking to me."

Men, who don't have to worry about age-related restrictions as much as women, probably don't suffer as much as women if they take their time with each person.

Even if you spend time only on that person to get closer, if you don't end up dating, you have to start searching from scratch, you know!?

[Message exchange → Meet up → Meet a few times and think about dating]

If you only deal with one person at a time before dating, you can only interact with about one person a month, right?

12 people in a year.

If you could find a partner among 12 people, you should have been able to find one in your current environment without using an app... is what I end up thinking.

By the way, I met about 50 people.

If it were just messaging, it would probably be more than double that.

While some people might say, "I want to take my time and develop a relationship with one person at a time," I proceeded with interactions "in parallel" until we started dating.

Since marriage agencies also use this format under the name "provisional dating," I think you can see that <it is important not to spend too much time on just one person before you start dating>.

If you have a sense of time where you take it slow with one person at a time, years might pass in the blink of an eye!

That's fatal for a woman!

"If I'm a virgin even at an older age, there must be demand for me"—cutting through that naive thinking.

It seems there are opinions like this out there.

"Men are happy when a woman is 'tight during sex,' so isn't it possible that even an older virgin would be sought after?"

I have indeed heard things like "it feels good if you're tight."
(Useless internet & friend knowledge)

However, I thought this was a huge mistake.

I think the "tightness" of youth is like a gummy candy—full of moisture and elastic.

When you get older, it becomes a state of being dry and shriveled, right?

Like the image of rubber, like a tire. *This is just my own personal image.

Physically, the inside of the vagina tends to become looser as you age.

I think the older a virgin gets, the more likely they are to be in a state where the "entrance is tight, but the inside is loose."

That's different from being "tight," isn't it?

Of course, there are men who are happy that they are the first for someone they love.

But it is a fact that the vast majority of men are basically happier with women who are physically younger.

(Even if you are over 40, you can create a certain level of tightness through training, so I added that to my self-improvement tasks.)

For that reason,it is better to be aware of age limitations and use your precious time effectively—that is my opinion.

No matter how youthful and beautiful you look, and even if you edit your photos, you cannot fake your physical age.

I think there is hope even after your 40s, but it seems necessary to make an effort to raise your other conditions as well.

If you are an around-30 virgin, you should take as much action as possible before you turn 30; if you are an around-40 virgin, do it while you are in your 30s!

Well, next time I will introduce the <self-improvement> I did and the <body care and preparation (unique to older virgins)>!♪