The More Exemplary the Father, the More Likely He Is to Fail
Working at an eyewear store, I occasionally encounter fathers who can't help but act like they know everything in front of their children and wives.
If it were just enough to think, 'Oh, he's doing that thing again,' it would be fine, but sometimes, as sorry as I am to say it and as embarrassing as it might be for them, I have to step in and stop it.
'You know, glasses these days are amazing!'
A father who started telling his children and wife something with the air of someone who knows all about glasses.
What could he possibly know? I don't know if he read it in an online article or saw it on TV, but he must have picked up some information about glasses somewhere.
I also took a step back, listening with excitement to see what he would say.
'It's called a "shape-memory alloy"! Even if you bend it, it goes back on its own! Watch this...'
Stop. Don't bend it. I kept every possible insult that crossed my mind to myself and stepped in to stop him, saying, 'Oh, I'm sorry, that one doesn't go back.'
'This one doesn't go back!?'
No matter which store you look in across Japan, there are only ones that don't go back. Is this the Terminator? Made in Skynet? Give me a break.
Besides, that's probably not what a 'shape-memory alloy' is.
I feel bad for embarrassing him in front of his family, but unfortunately, it doesn't go back, and depending on the metal, glasses just have a bit of 'elasticity'—and even if that weren't the case, bending a product before buying it is just...
But lately, I've started to think that these fathers who 'act like they know' actually love their families.
This 'acting like they know' doesn't seem to come from an inferiority complex or a desire to assert dominance.
Rather, it's more like performing a magic trick in front of the family, or nailing a back hip circle on the horizontal bar—that kind of feeling.
'Watch your dad do this!'
It also looked like the posture of someone trying their best.
In short, it's a sense of service.
On a day off, out with the family, he's trying hard to fulfill his 'role' as a father who is knowledgeable, reliable, and keeps the family entertained—in a way, it looked like a wonderful sight.
Perhaps it's an instinct for men, once they reach the position of 'father,' to seek the 'status' of being an exemplary person and perform an 'act' to make it look like they are.
But that act is usually obvious to everyone.
It's less tiring and less embarrassing to just admit you don't know anything, discover new things with your children and wife, and be surprised and enjoy them together.
And you wouldn't end up bending the glasses by 'acting like you know.'
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