The "Pay It Forward" Project: Passing on the kindness you've received to someone else. 8 note articles that unraveled my heart when I read them
Hello.
I'm Yuna, a counselor who helps ease circular thinking.🌱
This time, I'm sharing something a little different from my usual articles.
miracle_tarot315 introduced me to this, and I have participated in a project called the "Pay It Forward" project.
It's a very warm project where you don't let the kindness and support you've received end with you, but pass it on to someone else.✨
It is hosted by LaLaLa.
Details about the project are written here.👇
And this time, the person who passed the baton to me was miracle_tarot315.
Among countless articles, they found what I had written,
and went out of their way to put it into words and introduce it...
How should I put it? It's that feeling when you put something out there while wondering, "Is this okay?"
and someone reaches out and says, "This part was good."
It made me happy and I was very grateful.🧡
So now, it's my turn to pass it on to all of you.🤲
From here on, I would like to introduce 8 creators whose work I read and thought,
"Oh, I want this to reach someone else."☺️✨
1. Kudachii-san
▶️✉️Big Sister's Late-Night Prescription ~A Small Light for Lonely Nights~ #183
This is an article where they write straightforward replies to consultations that arrive late at night.
To those who blame themselves for "being suspicious,"
they state clearly, "You aren't suspicious because you have a narrow mind."
I think this is quite significant.
People who are anxious are usually most exhausted by the thought, "Is it strange for me to think this way?"
They remove that burden first, and then the conversation begins.
For those who have nights where they find themselves spiraling over the same thoughts alone.
2. Arichan-sensei🐾-san
▶️ Commonalities I felt between the Lung Meridian in Oriental Medicine and the DFAL in Anatomy Trains
This is an article by an Anma massage therapist and acupuncturist.
Eastern medicine's 'Lung Meridian' and Western myofascial theory's 'DFAL'.
A story about how things that should have been born in completely different eras and with different ways of thinking,
were looking at almost the same path from the chest to the thumb.
While reading this, I found myself thinking about the work of the heart.
Breathing, the chest, and the arms.
It's probably no coincidence that the shoulders of people who say their 'breathing is shallow' are usually stiff as a board.
For those who want to see the body and mind without separating them.
3. Shinmu-san
A very soft and warm poem✍️
'I'm home' and 'Welcome back'.
With just those words, you carry the entire weight of the time you were apart.
I instinctively stopped reading at the line, 'My mind and body fell apart'.
Writing that doesn't over-explain leaves room for the reader.
That's why your own memories start to stir on their own.
Gently, for those carrying feelings they cannot explain in words.
4. Yasuhiko | Nagomiya🫧-san
▶️ Why do I write 'Tips for the heart on tough days'🫧
An article about why they write.
Bullying, financial hardship, long working hours, betrayal.
The conclusion reached by someone who has been through all that is
'When things are truly painful, people become incredibly lonely'.
And, it is written to the reader like this:
'You are not weak. You have just been pushing yourself too hard for a long time'
……This is one of the things I most want to convey every day, too.
It's not weakness, it's a sign.
For those who are blaming their own personality for their struggles.
5. Furiko-san, the psychologist who crosses boundaries
▶️ What to re-examine when support stalls. [Anxiety Series 4]
A school counselor, psychiatrist, and nursing school instructor.
This is an article by someone with extensive experience in the field.
It tells the story of how, once a diagnosis was given, the support side's language became rigid,
causing them to overlook the child's actual struggles, which were really about "anxiety" and a "sense of unfairness."
Not the child's behavior, but questioning the framework of the supporter themselves.
This is a rather painful question for those in support professions.
But if you skip this, the support remains stalled.
It is also my current work, and it made me feel once again the importance of case studies and meetings.
Thank you 🙏✨
Highly recommended for those working in interpersonal support.
6. Hoshino Fururi-san 💫
▶️ [HSP] The reason why the kindest people suddenly disappear one day 👋🏻 [Study Edition]
They used the term "emotional debt," which I thought was very apt ☺️.
"Emotions do not disappear just because you endure them. They quietly accumulate and quietly erode your heart."
That's right, they don't disappear.
Even if it looks like you got through it at the time, it remains somewhere in your body.
That's why I think it's important to let it all out, so that not even a fragment remains.
"What is truly scary is not the person who is angry, but the person who has stopped saying anything."
This phrase stayed in my head for a while.
For those who have lost touch with their own feelings while always smiling and going along with others.
7. Ao / Takuya Wada-san
▶️ Facing mental weakness: What is the true nature of a "delicate but dignified person"?
This article starts with a small event: an opinion not being accepted in a meeting.
From there, it suggests creating a "Y-junction" in your mind.
Things you can't do anything about and things related to the future are separated on the spot.
Ruminating thoughts are actually a state where "things you should think about" and "things that are already over" are mixed on the same shelf.
That's why they never get sorted out.
The idea of sharing is very practical.
For those who have become exhausted trying to fix their sensitivity.
8. Torori-san 🌱
This is an article written by someone who was raised by toxic parents and has now become a mother herself.
When she ran out of patience, she ended up speaking to her child in the very way she hated being spoken to—this part was written so honestly, and since I have had the same experience, it made my heart ache.
And yet, I thought the conclusion was truly wonderful✨
And yet, I thought the conclusion was truly wonderful✨
“I can say ‘I love you’ today. I can say ‘thank you’ today.”
Instead of aiming to be a perfect parent, just give what you can for today.
I think this is a kind of destination reached only by someone who has struggled and continued to go through trial and error😌
Things I realized after reading these 8 notes
Looking back, I felt a strange sensation.
Psychology, acupuncture, poetry, parenting, HSP, support work, etc..
Even though the genres are all different, everyone is saying the same thing at the end.
“There is a valid reason for what you are feeling.”
They don't blame you or try to fix you; they first acknowledge the "why" behind it.
I also believe that circular thinking isn't something to be stopped.
Tracing the same path over and over isn't because you're broken, but because it's a defense mechanism to keep you from breaking.
So, it's okay to trace it.
And from there, I hope we can find a path together that makes things a little easier.
This baton pass was a time that reminded me of these realizations all over again🙇♀️
📚 Thank you for including me in your magazines✨
The article I wrote the other day
“Is this what I wanted?” — The reason for getting lost after arriving at your destination
has been included in so many magazines.
I am truly grateful for every single one of them...
With much gratitude to the magazines that have featured my note articles in the past 💖 I am always encouraged by your warmth ✨✨
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the super passionate ✨ Satoshi Yamanaka's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the incredibly wonderful 💕 Perin 🍡's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the cool 😎 Border-Crossing Psychologist [Pendulum]'s magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the warm 🫶 Yoshihiro's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the naturally kind 💧 Shizuku Amano ✿ Fortune-telling Diary's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in the sophisticated ✨ Sukoshi Dake Michibito's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in 💜 SANACO's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in 🍇 Budo Spark's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in 😊 Village Chief Smile's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in ✨ Ten no Heya's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in ✨ Kawamura | AI Anthropomorphic Manga | ChatGPT's Yoshida's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】✨12340's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in ✨ Muumu's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】🐶Arichan-sensei 🐾 | Self-care for stiff shoulders and lower back pain - Solo clinic management's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in 🍀 Midori Donguri's magazine.
【With Gratitude🌸】Featured in 📕 Yu | Words for Unraveling Conversations's magazine.
[With gratitude🌸]🎙️Hayato Kurosaki's magazine features this article.
[With gratitude🌸]✨Mirai Yūransen's magazine features this article.
I hope to continue weaving the threads of words together with all of you✨
Thank you for reading this far!
Please take a look at the articles by the 8 people I introduced if you'd like.
I hope at least one of them helps make your night a little lighter🌿
Why don't we untangle those circular thoughts that make you blame yourself, saying "I'm just..."?
This is a place where you can be yourself without pushing yourself too hard.
This is a place where you can be yourself without pushing yourself too hard.
I'm also very happy to receive follows and comments ^^
Counselor Yuna