The ex you can't seem to forget in love | A 10-year-old feeling, the truth behind it is not 'lingering attachment'

Are you struggling with these kinds of worries?

And because you can't break free from that,
you end up worrying all by yourself...

In this article, I will deliver
the real reason for the 'pain of being hung up on an ex' and some tips to make your heart feel a little lighter🌱

Perhaps that feeling—
it's not because you are weak,it might be an 'emotion with a valid reason'after all.

1. Moments when your heart wavers even though you thought you had forgotten

I thought I was over my ex.
It was supposed to be over.

I've met new people, and
my daily life has been moving forward properly.

And yet—

The moment I heard about his marriage,
for some reason, I couldn't stop the tears.

I feel bewildered by myself like that.

And at the same time,
I become afraid of myself, thinking I might reach out again.

--What could this feeling be?

Why does my heart
waver so much...?

2. That emotion is natural

First, let me tell you one thing.

Those tears, and
the feeling of wanting to connect again—
are not strange at all.

Rather, it is very natural.

You might think so.

However, the human heart is not something that can be sorted out by the length of time alone
🌱

I, too, have had times when feelings for an ex-boyfriend overflowed just when I thought I had forgotten,
making me suffer many times over.

--The wavering you are feeling is
proof that what you cherished so much still remains within you.

3. It might not have been 'him' that you were seeking

However.
Please try changing your perspective just a little here.

Was it really 'him' that you were seeking?

Perhaps--

• A relationship where you can feel at ease

• A sense of being cherished

• A place where you can be accepted

You might have been seeing those things
in your relationship with him.

That is why,

you might have returned to him when things weren't going well,
or conversely, you might have become afraid and cut off the distance yourself--

Isn't that the kind of wavering that was happening?

This is not because your will is weak,
nor because you are deeply attached.

It is often the case that a 'habit of anxiety about getting close to people,'
acquired through past experiences, is what is making you do so.

4. It is okay not to force yourself to forget

So, how should you handle these feelings?

The more you consciously try to forget,
the more firmly that presence takes root in your heart.

Rather than that—

Acknowledge your feelings like that.

Even just doing that,
the process of organizing your heart will move forward little by little.

If you have the capacity,
through counseling or similar means,

By slowly looking at those 'emotional habits',
there is a possibility that your future relationships will change, too.🌱

5. For your next relationship, try choosing one where you can feel 'secure'

You don't need to rush
to start a new relationship right away.

When your own feelings have settled down little by little,
you may naturally encounter a comfortable connection.🌱

However, from now on, if you happen to meet someone—

And,

when you feel even a little bit of anxiety,
don't pretend that feeling doesn't exist,

ask yourself, 'What am I afraid of right now?'

Even just doing that,
you should be able to enjoy a different kind of relationship than before.

6. Summary | Those tears are proof that you are trying to move forward

The tears you shed upon learning of his marriage,

are not because you want to return to the past—

That might be it.

That is why it is okay not to deny those feelings.
You do not have to force yourself to forget, and you do not have to rush to move forward.

You do not have to force yourself to forget, and you do not have to rush to move forward.
Just little by little,

Just little by little,

Your future relationships will surely change into something peaceful and secure
that you can feel at ease with.

It is okay.
If you cherish your desire, I believe you will gradually get closer to the happiness that suits you.🌱

Have you ever had the experience of being hung up on an ex-partner?
Please let me know in the comments section.✍️

In this space, I am writing little by little about how to choose a 'peaceful love and life' for those who are 'wishing for happiness while carrying the past'.

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