Why you might feel stuck despite having achieved self-understanding
Even though you should be making progress in self-understanding,
why can't you seem to move forward?
Do you ever feel that way?
You've read the books.
You've put things into words.
You've become able to notice your emotions.
And yet,
"Is it really okay to stay like this?"
that feeling sometimes remains.
That isn't because your understanding is insufficient,
but perhaps because
between your understanding and your feelings,
there might be
a slight disconnect.
(I have written about this "disconnect" in a bit more detail here)
➤ What happens when words and feelings are out of sync
For example,
you feel you are making the right choices,
yet you don't feel convinced.
You have things more organized than before,
but you don't feel free.
Even though you can put it into words,
it somehow doesn't feel like it's truly yours.
As self-understanding progresses,
the "self that can explain things" grows.
But at the same time,
the "self that is convinced"
can sometimes get left behind.
(If this state continues, it can sometimes lead to difficulty in taking action)
➤ If your feelings are left behind, you cannot move no matter how much you understand
Hesitation is not a step backward.
It might be a sign that you have noticed a misalignment.
If you have recently
been left with a feeling that things don't quite fit,
that doesn't mean you aren't ready yet; it means
there is still room to re-examine things.
Instead of looking for the right answer,
the questions that help you re-verify your own conviction
start from places like this.
Don't rush to bridge the gap,
but don't leave that feeling behind either.
You can pick it up and examine it again.
(I also touch on how to handle these gaps here)
➤ I understood it, but it didn't sink in. When that happens, look at your 'feelings,' not 'correctness'
It might be good to
observe that feeling of 'something is off'
that you are having right now, just a little bit.
By the way, I
tend to feel uneasy
when the 'meaning' of my emotions hasn't been processed.
So, I take a very close look at them, haha.
See you later!
▼ Contact us here ▼
Thank you for reading
this article
to the end.
I want to be a place
where we can look at your 'quiet, true feelings'
together.
When you need to, please reach out from here.
Official LINE:▶Rina | ReBuild Lab. (Official LINE)
Instagram:▶Rina | Aligning words and sensations | Rebuild Lab.
I have also organized other articles
by theme according to different sensations.
You might find something
that resonates with how you feel right now.
▼ ▼ ▼