Seize the immediate future with your own hands or end up a bystander

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There are always people who say later, "I should have done this, I should have done that."

Even if they think it themselves, for some reason they seem unable to do it.
And then, they end up regretting it later.

It might be okay to regret doing something different from what you were thinking. But it can be said that it is the worst to regret not even doing what you were thinking. Is it a habit of just thinking and doing nothing, always being swept away by those around you?

Therefore, the results you thought of naturally do not come to pass, and as a result, everything ends up being unexpected and not in line with your intentions.

I call this a "passive future".

In other words, it is a regrettable state where the future you intend never arrives because you are swept away by those around you without even doing what you thought you would do.

It is a passive future, isn't it?

Since it is easy to understand, I will give an example of a business negotiation.
This is an actual experience of Kaiun-san, but it is a story from when I was still working at a company.

One day, I entered a client's house for a business negotiation for a job worth about 3 million yen. I explained the job details thoroughly, and it seemed that the price conditions had also been agreed upon.
However, the owner would not easily nod in agreement.

I thought it couldn't be helped and that it would be a waste of time to talk any further, so I started to leave, but I felt that if I didn't get an answer today, even if I visited again later, the enthusiasm would have cooled down and the contract would fall through.

So, I launched a strategy to appeal to the other party's emotions.

"Why is it that even after I have explained this much, you cannot entrust this to me? Because you, sir, have kept putting off your decision, the building has become damaged to this extent."
"If you had repaired it sooner, the repair cost should not have reached this point."
"I have another business negotiation scheduled after this, so if I cannot get an answer, I will take my leave now."

When I said that, even though I thought it was a long shot, the complexion of the owner, who had been indecisive until then, changed instantly. It looked like something had clearly struck a chord.

After all, I had said something to the effect of "it's your fault" a bit harshly. And I was sweating on my back, too.
But his attitude had been that evasive.

Then, he said, "Well, I'll leave it to you," and the matter was settled. I received the contract.

I ruminated later on what had worked, but in the end, I concluded that it was because I had taken a "step" that crossed the limit.

It is common for business negotiations not to be decided on the spot, and I should have been on my way home as usual that day, but I think the environment of the situation changed completely by taking one more step beyond the "limit" even though it was a long shot.

Of course, I didn't win by persistence by staying for hours.
I had intended to give up and go home if there was no reaction after stating my final line.

However, the step beyond the limit reversed the air that had been stifling until then, and it changed completely to feeling like I was in a meadow all at once.

That said, since Kaiun-san pointed out a shortcoming of the other party that is usually difficult to mention, I think I would have headed home in an awkward atmosphere if there hadn't been a contract.

After that, they brewed fresh tea from the pot on the table and gave me some tea snacks to take home, ending the business meeting in a frank atmosphere.

I see, I was convinced that this was a step beyond the limit.
By taking that step beyond the limit, I invited a dramatic and ideal change in my future.

And I have named this phenomenon as the antonym of the aforementioned "passive future": "active future"

To invite this "active future," you need to intentionally encourage action in the ideal direction you envision. You have to take a step forward even if it seems like a long shot.

If you find someone you like, you must confess, "Please go out with me," without hesitation. If you get rejected, you just need to look for the next one.

Even if you think later that you should have confessed at that time, only a "passive future" awaits you.

In the example of golf, when putting toward the cup (hole) on the green, if the ball stops just before the cup, it is not considered to have gone in, even if it is only a few millimeters short.

In a friendly or casual game of golf, we might count it as "OK!" and say it went in, but in a professional tournament, an "OK" is not accepted.

Unless you have enough momentum for the ball to roll past the cup, it won't reach it. It is the same with this; no matter how much you think about it in your heart, it won't be conveyed to the other person unless you express it.

I don't think a series of such aimless futures leads to success in life.
Anyway, to do as you wish and to make things happen as you think, you must take one more step beyond the limit line that exists in front of you. Try taking that step.

If you have been working for an hour and haven't achieved results, try working for an hour and a half. This will significantly increase your chances of success.

People often say that successful people never gave up, and isn't this what that means?

Even in boxing, you hit a punch because you read the distance and take a step forward right to the limit. You cannot win just by waiting. You can never win if you only wait for counters.
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