The True Nature of Anger, Anxiety, and Tension Is Actually the Same Reaction

※ English summary is available at the end of this article.

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☟Continuing from the previous article,

this time, it's about that very thing: "timing"...

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Whether at work or at home,
have you ever felt that way?

Conversely,

"I can relax a little in front of this person."
"I feel like it's okay to show my weaknesses."

There must be someone you feel that way about, too.

This difference isn't just born from personality or compatibility.

When emotions move, the body reacts first

Anger, anxiety, tension.
At first glance, they seem like completely different emotions, but
inside the body, almost the same reaction is occurring.

• Breathing becomes shallow

• The rhythm of breathing is disrupted

• Holding your breath unconsciously

This is not a "habit of feeling," but a
defensive reaction inherent in humans.

Why do people "brace themselves" when their breathing is disrupted?

When breathing becomes shallow, the body judges it like this:

Then,

• Your voice becomes louder

• Your facial expression becomes stiff

• You start searching for the "correct answer" in your head

As a result,
there is no room left in the situation .

In this state,
the other person naturally becomes guarded as well.

The reason you cannot speak your true feelings
is not because you lack courage.

It is because the atmosphere of the situation is already tense.

The reason why "capable people" and "confident people" are not always trusted

They are very competent,
what they say is correct,
and they are full of confidence.

Even so,

"I cannot show my weaknesses to this person"
"It is hard to express my opinion"
"Intimidating"
"Aggressive"

Why are there people who make others feel this way?

It is not because that person is bad, but because
a "taut atmosphere" is created in the situation.

The more their strength is put forward,
the more those around them unconsciously match their breathing and become tense.

As a result,
"respect" may be earned, but "true feelings" are not gathered.

The reason why your heart relaxes in front of someone who has weaknesses

On the other hand,
people who are not perfect.
People who are a little clumsy.

In front of such people,
for some reason, you can talk with peace of mind.

That is
not because that person is "weak".

It is because their breathing is calm.

You are not tense.
You are not rushing for the right answer.
You are not trying to evaluate.

That atmosphere
naturally relaxes the other person's breathing as well.

True feelings are born from the "environment," not "courage"

Whether or not you can speak your true feelings
is not a matter of individual strength.

• In a place where breathing is shallow

• In a space filled with tension

anyone
will choose their words carefully and close their heart.

Conversely,

• in a place where breathing is calm

• in an atmosphere where there is no need to compete

people
naturally open their hearts.

Therefore, what you should adjust before your "emotions"

You don't have to try to suppress your emotions.
You don't have to try to be strong.

The first thing you should adjust
is your breathing and the atmosphere of the place.

When your breathing changes,
the way your emotions arise changes.

When your emotions change,
the sense of distance between you and others changes.

What I want you to know next

Having read this far,

"But I can't always regulate my breathing."
I think some of you may feel that way.

That feeling is very correct.

Actually,
there are times when breathing is easy to regulate, and times when it is difficult.

Next time preview

In the next article,
why are there days when things go well even when doing the same thing,
and days when you just spin your wheels?

I will unravel the reason for that
from a deeper level.

Please look forward to it...ꔛ‬𖤐˒˒*

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For English Readers

(This is not a direct translation.
It is a condensed version that preserves the core philosophy.)

Anger, anxiety, and tension may feel different,
but the body reacts to them in almost the same way.

Breathing becomes shallow, the body tightens,
and people unconsciously protect themselves.

This is why some environments feel unsafe for honesty —
not because people lack courage,
but because the air itself is tense.

When breathing softens, trust appears naturally.

Next, we’ll explore why breathing is easier on some days than others —
and why timing matters more than effort.

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