What she decided after six months of 'dialogue' when she said, 'I don't know how I feel'

'I don't know'
'if I have any feelings.'

When she said that,
at first
I didn't understand what she meant.

Not 'I don't know my feelings,' but
'I don't know if I have any feelings at all.'

From that state,
six months later.

She
made the decision to quit the company she had worked at for over 10 years.

Every day with a lid on her heart: 'Is it okay to keep going like this?'

I like my current job.
It's rewarding, too.

But—

I feel doubts about the work system and company methods,
I spend a lot of time on things outside my area of expertise,
and there are times when I have to
handle a workload that exceeds my capacity.

'...Am I okay just continuing like this?'

Precisely because you've worked for a long time,
there are moments when you suddenly think about things like that, aren't there?

The woman I am currently accompanying
was harboring exactly those kinds of thoughts.

Over many years of working,
both she and the company went through various changes,
and gradually, the 'Wait, what?' moments increased.

But, within her, it was like this.

That's how she
would faintly recognize her own feelings, but
quietly put a lid on them.

So as not to be disliked.
So as not to make waves.

By going along with the majority opinion around her,
she had managed well through endurance and patience.

In terms of living in society,
it might be a 'correct choice' in a sense.

'I don't know if I even have my own thoughts'

However—that is.

She, who had become too good at
bottling up her feelings,
said this when starting
the dialogue session.

'I don't know if I
even have my own thoughts.'

…Huh?

For a moment, I couldn't understand.

Not 'I don't know my thoughts,' but
'I don't know if I have them'?

Really?

When I asked that, she
thought for a moment and said.

'Hmm…'
'Am I unaware of my thoughts,
or do I have no opinions in the first place…'

'I can't put them into words well, and
even if I try to convey them,
it doesn't feel like they get across…'

When I heard those words,
I was shocked.

For a long time,
'enduring' had become the norm,
and as a result of constantly putting herself last,

she had lost touch with her true feelings.

The 'changes' that occurred while repeating the dialogue

From there, she
began to take dialogue sessions.

The initial goal was
not 'changing jobs'.

She started with
those thoughts in mind.

As we continued our dialogue,
changes began to happen little by little.

Until now,
she prioritized the people around her and her work,
putting her own feelings on the back burner.

But as we continued the sessions,

'What do I think?'
'What do I want to do?'

She began to
turn her attention to her own feelings.

Noticing.
Accepting.
And then, putting it into words to share.

Through that process,
she sent me these words.

Furthermore, she had this realization as well.

The decision she made after six months

And six months later,
she made a big decision.

To quit the company she had worked at for over 10 years
and change jobs.

Of course,
it was not something I recommended.

As a result of continuing to face her own feelings
through our repeated dialogues,

she became able to view her environment objectively
and realized the emotions she had been suppressing.

'What do I really want to do?'

She found the answer
for herself.

Why I call it a 'dialogue session'

I don't call my service
'coaching'
but rather a dialogue session.

The reason is simple.

Because everyone is different.

Their state of mind,
what they aim for,
their personality,
their past experiences,
their work,
and their habitual ways of thinking

are all different.

Of course, like in coaching,
I also draw out awareness
through questioning.

But at 'Machiko's Room',

I engage flexibly
to suit each person.

This is something I naturally acquired
from my experience interviewing over 1,000 people
as a TV director.

Instead of using a mold or manual,
I draw out 'the person they truly are'
through an approach tailored to them.
It's a 'dialogue session only I can provide.'
(It's hard to put into words, but that's probably it, haha)

People don't change overnight

And one more thing.

There is a reason why
'Machiko's Room'
is structured for long-term engagement.

People
do not change overnight.

You notice through dialogue,
take action,
and notice again.

Through that accumulation,
you gradually reclaim yourself.

That is why I
do not focus on short-term or one-off sessions,
but value walking alongside you over a long period of timeas
important.

Taking the helm of your own life

'I don't know my own feelings'

The person who said that
six months later

is steering their own life.

Being able to see that transformation
is the greatest joy of this work!

If you are currently

・Not knowing your own feelings
・Unable to put your true feelings into words
・Wanting to improve your communication with others

If you have those thoughts,
don't carry them alone;
engaging in 'dialogue' with someone
might be the first step to changing your future.

Information about the dialogue session 'Machiko's Room'
is available via my official LINE account✨

Why not start by
organizing your 'what I want to do'
together in a trial session?

【Click here for the official LINE👇】

Thank you
for reading until the end!

Let go of 'I'm not good enough...'
towards a life where'I live trusting myself.'

Let's draw your own map
and take the helm of your life!

Dialogue Director🌻Machiko

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