A story I want you to read when you feel, 'Why won't you talk to me...'

~With just one reaction, the bond between parent and child grows much closer~

There is a common trait among 'parents whose children do not open up.'
Actually, it's not about 'how you speak' or 'how you teach.'
What is surprisingly often overlooked is 'Mom's reaction.'


'My child doesn't really talk to me...'
'Before I knew it, our conversations were always one-sided.'
Have you ever felt that way?

The importance of 'reaction' that I also experienced firsthand

Actually, I have also realized the importance of this
through a certain experience.

It was back when I was working as a beautiful posture diet coach,
giving lessons and lectures.

When you stand in front of people and speak,
you can clearly see the expressions and gestures of the students in front of you.

When someone smiles and nods,
I feel happy too, thinking,
'They understand' or 'They are enjoying this.'

Conversely, if they are expressionless or I don't see them nodding...
'Could it be boring?'
'Was it too difficult?'
I would sometimes feel anxious.

It's the same for children

I think this
is exactly the same for parent-child conversationsas well.

Children are watching closely to see how Mom reacts.

・Will she smile?
・Is she listening?
・Will she accept what I say?

They are very sensitively picking up on
Mom's expressions and tone of voice.

Just by 'Mom nodding,' they feel at ease

That is precisely why, when your child starts talking to you,
it is very important to give a 'reaction' first, rather than wordsitself.

'Uh-huh, and then?'
'Oh, really? That happened!'
'That's amazing!'

Even with just this, the child will feel,
'I'm glad I talked about it,'
'Mom understood me,'
and they will want to talk again.

But there are also reactions to be careful about

What is important here is thequality of the reaction.

Even though they went to the trouble of talking to you,
if you deny them by saying,
'That's not okay,'
'That's impossible,'or something like that...

The child will
'Oh, I won't talk about it anymore,'
and close their heart.

That is why,
please be conscious of 'accepting' and 'acknowledging' reactions.

A final word

What makes a child open their heart
is not special words, but the 'sense of security that they are accepted.'

Mom's smile and warm reaction
become the 'best place in the world' for a child.

'I'm listening properly,'
'I care about you.'

Why not put those feelings into your words today?

May that reaction of yours
be the first step in nurturing trust between parent and child...