To my 10-years-younger self: That atmosphere was my own heart. If you could give advice to your 10-years-younger self, what would you say? | Happy Writing Marathon #41

To my 10-years-younger self.

Right now, you might be feeling the atmosphere of the room as your own 'personal sensation' and taking it on very heavily while trying to be close to the hearts of those in front of you.

The other person must be feeling this way. This place is filled with this kind of anxiety.

You trusted your intuition very much. And in fact, you also possessed the power to sense the atmosphere of a room.

But there is something I want to tell you precisely because I am who I am now.

That heaviness you believed was 'something flowing in from the outside.' Much of it was also a landscape projected from within your own heart.

Things you thought were your own sensations. Or things you were convinced were the sensations of others.

Much of that was a world seen through a 'filter' created by your own heart's defense instincts.

While working in psychology, the thing I understood the least was the habits of my own heart.

Through the experience of being deeply hurt in human relationships, I finally came to realize the existence of that filter.

That event was by no means easy. But it also became the trigger for me to see, for the first time, the outline of what had been binding me for so long.

I haven't completely moved forward yet. I am in the middle of stopping for a moment and re-examining my own heart.

Even so, it is a little different from before.

This might be a signal coming from my heart.

By doing that, I have become able to look at my own sensations from a slightly detached place.

It might be hard for your 10-years-younger self to believe, but I am now putting my inner self into words in a place called note.

Not as the correct answer of an expert, but writing down my realizations as a human being, just as they are.

Strangely enough, those words sometimes reach someone else's heart.

To my 10-years-younger self.

Doubting your own sensations is a very scary thing. But when you notice that filter, the way you see the world will change little by little.

Weaving words together
is also a time to gently reconnect with yourself and the world.

So, please, rest assured.

Please keep walking, just as you are.

From your self 10 years in the future.

If there is anyone currently suffering from the atmosphere in their relationships,

whether that atmosphere is truly coming from the outside,
or if it is something your own heart is creating.

It might be worth stopping for just a moment to feel it out.

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🔹 The heart changes constantly. So, I chose the lighter path.

A record of the time when I was searching for choices that wouldn't weigh me down,
even while being swayed by numbers and events.

It captures the movements of my heart from just before this article.

※This article was
featured on Ken Honda's official note
with the comment, "This is wonderful!"

🔹 Even while swaying, you can stand up again.
--The inner strength to protect yourself that 16 years of psychology taught me

The background of having tried to be a 'good person',
and the reasons for the actions I chose unconsciously.

I write about the psychological perspective that forms the foundation of
the "heart's filter" mentioned in this article.

🔹 The happiness brought by the words "That's it!"
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In our relationships with others,
there are moments when our hearts suddenly feel lighter.

I wrote about a small happiness I felt
from a casual conversation with Nachin.

🔹 What I've come to see after surpassing 15,000 likes

As I continue writing on note,
this is an article about my gratitude for having so many people read my work,
and about the "unseen feelings" that lie behind the numbers.

🌸🌿 With gratitude 🌸🌿

Last week, thankfully,
I received three
congratulatory boards from note.

Those who read my work,
those who click the like button,
and those who quietly watch over me.

Each and every one of you
is the strength that keeps me writing these words.

Thank you all so much, always. 🥹💞

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