2025/05/17 Adjusting the Distance of Watching Over 〜Summer Preparations for 'What I Can Do'〜

2025/05/17

When I opened the window, the scent of rain flowed into the room along with the cool air.
It's weather where it doesn't look like I'll be able to ventilate for a long time.

With the sound of rain as background music, I immerse myself in reading. The quietness of a rainy day is perfect for savoring a story, and the sound of turning pages resonates comfortably.

I slowly got up with the children, prepared at a leisurely pace, and headed to my daughters' piano lesson at 10 o'clock.

Between appropriate support

Packing their respective sheet music into their bags, fixing their hair, their small backs lined up at the entrance. In the car on the way there, we talked about the usual plans after the lesson.

We arrived, and it started with my second daughter.
She reported with a shy look that the transitions between notes were smoother than last time and she had received a 'pass'.

Seeing her trying to play 'Happy Birthday' with both hands, I feel her growth in her earnest and serious gaze.

She is enthusiastic about playing it for my birthday next month. The slightly shy smile she gives when praised by the teacher makes me happy too.

It became my eldest daughter's turn, and her expression suddenly tightened.
To be honest, she hadn't been practicing much on weekdays. She must have been tired from the daily sports day practice at school. Thinking about that background, I feel it's understandable.

Even so, her attitude during the piano lesson is serious and admirable, and it comes across that she is trying her best. Since she hasn't practiced, she is naturally struggling.

I also reflect on the teacher's words, 'Please practice a little more at home.' Perhaps I had left it to her too much.

On busy weekdays, I had forgotten to ask the children, 'Did you practice piano?'
I am always wavering between the desire to respect my children's independence and providing appropriate support.

Even though they are at an age where they can manage themselves, they are still elementary school students after all. Asking, watching over, and trying to do things together. I decided to rethink that balance.

With just the right balance

In the afternoon, I bought four new summer tops.
Thanks to having decided on the conditions in advance, choosing them was smooth.

I have decided to rotate four outfits. Four tops and four bottoms.

With just this, I can reduce the time I spend worrying about 'what to wear' every morning.

I am collecting ways to reduce the time spent worrying and avoid hesitation in my daily life little by little. I want to find the 'just right balance' without having more than necessary.

It may seem like narrowing down choices, but it is actually a good opportunity to face my own preferences and values. The clothes chosen in that way will shape the coming season again.

Looking from a slightly different perspective

When I see a lot of information and feel 'I'm envious'.
Instead of swallowing it as is, I try converting it to 'let's find one thing I can do too'.

I thought about spending time narrowed down to one outfit like a uniform, and I also tried rotating 3 bottoms and 3 tops.

Rather than starting something new,looking at the usual things from a slightly different perspectivesometimes works out unexpectedly well.

Deciding on the outfits and rotating them in 4 patterns seemed just right for me.

Even within choices that look the same, there are things you can discover just by changing your perspective a little.

'While gently checking my 'stride''

Daily life flows by without us noticing. But when you stop and look back, it is filled with many small discoveries and growth.

While remembering my daughters' appearance today, I thought,
' I hope that by me watching over them, these children can settle their hearts even a little '.

In life, the act of 'adjusting' is,
I don't think it's just about cleaning up neatly.

It's about moving forward while gently checking the 'stride' that is unique to that person. Being close, not cheering too much, but not abandoning them.

Such a 'way of relating' might be what 'adjusting' means to me right now.

Have you had anything you felt 'envious' about recently?

If you look at it from a slightly different perspective than usual, you might find interesting discoveries.

＼ If you'd like, please take a look at this too ／

▶︎ '60% is good enough!' might
　actually be just right.

▶︎ The steam of hot cocoa, piano reports,
　and a 'little secret' for Mother's Day.

▶︎ An ordinary working mom who enjoys 'morning' by waking up at 4 o'clock

Thank you for reading today as well!

Every time you notice the 'happiness of casual daily life',
your heart will feel a little lighter.

Let's spend our time carefully at your own pace without overdoing it.

Well then, see you again!