People who don't know their own voice are overthinking

"I don't know my own voice."


This is something I often hear when talking about self-dialogue.
But when I listen closely to what people are saying,



most people aren't actually "feeling nothing."It's actually the opposite,

in reality, they are thinking a lot.

"Is this right?"
"Is it wrong to think this way?"
"Am I strange for thinking something like this?"


Inside their heads, a meeting is going on constantly.


But that meeting,
is mostly just judging.


・This feeling is bad
・You shouldn't think things like this
・I need to be more proper
・Which is a gain, and which is a loss?
・Is it efficient? Is there productivity?

Just like I wrote in this article 😂

As you keep thinking like that,
your true feelings retreat further and further away.


That is why,


"I don't know my own voice"

might be what you end up feeling.




Recently, I had a sudden realization.

"I am thinking before I feel."


For example,


even though I'm actually a little tired,

"But since I have some time to myself now,


I have to do this,
I have to do that"
I start thinking.


Even though I really want to relax,


I think, "I shouldn't be lazy."
But that isn't because I'm not feeling anything,





it might just be that I am immediately overwriting what I feel with my head.
So if you everfeel like "I don't know my own voice,"




I want you to stop for just a moment

and try asking yourself questions like this ♡

A small self-dialogue exercise

Please ask yourself in this very moment.


・How are you feeling right now?
・How does your body feel?
・What do you really want to do?


It's okay if you don't get an answer.


What's important
is not "finding the correct answer"

but asking yourself.


Even just doing that,
your own voice will gradually become easier to hear.

People who don't know their own voice,
perhaps

it's not that you aren't feeling,
but that you are just overthinking.


If you read this article
and felt "I can kind of relate,"
I would be happy if you could gently press the like button ♡