Picking up the scattered pieces of the heart

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I was the same way in the past, but there are surprisingly many people who say they don't know what they really want to do.


Trying various things is fine, but what I would recommend is to stop for a moment.


It is to create time to do nothing, time to look at yourself.


As I mentioned yesterday, there are important things to do in order to delve deeper into your heart.


That isto step out of your thoughts and feel the here and now.


Why is that important? It lies in the ego.


Something called the ego exists in our heads.


In psychology, it is said to be called the judge in your head.


Our human minds are always thinking. The head is constantly moving.


The head is usually busy with judgment, this and that about the past or future, or blaming oneself or others.


There is a tendency to judge all matters into two poles, such as good or bad (that person is a good person or a bad person).


This is a side we want to hide, but it is a function basically installed in everyone's head (sometimes the person is unaware of it).


In other words,we are usually too identified with the ego.


We believe the voice in our head is our very self.


First, I want to untangle that misunderstanding.


To do that, it is important to be firmly in the here and now and have the power to watch the ego.


Meditation and Zazen are, of course, effective.


'Oh, I'm annoyed at this person right now,' 'I actually want to go home,' 'I think I have no value.'


If you cultivate the power to observe objectively without being caught up in thoughts, you will be less likely to be caught up in suffering.


A sense of living while realizing that it is the voice of the head is nurtured.


Once you can do this, you will be able to live more easily.


This ego, the ego is solid.


It has protected us in this dangerous world so we wouldn't get hurt, so it won't open its heart easily.


Here, it is necessary to take time to build a relationship of trust.


The latter half of healing the heart is devoted entirely to working on this.


Ego and mind patterns, victim mentality, feelings of worthlessness—these all come from the past.


They are formed from things experienced in the past and memories of being hurt.


Therefore, it is necessary to be firmly here and now to heal this.


The reason why women don't deepen just by meditation or Zazen is because they need to heal their hearts deeply.


It is said that women are about eight times more sensitive than men.


I will take my time to gently draw close to my scattered feelings.


If the heart is healed, the ego will naturally loosen.


Only then will the power to notice the ego be nurtured.


The path of healing and loving yourself is not a path to becoming perfect.


Rather, it is the opposite,a path of not abandoning any version of myself.


It is a way of being like a shepherd who picks up scattered hearts one by one.


Only you can truly understand yourself in the real sense.


However, when you are deeply hurt and your life is not going well, there is a limit to looking at your heart alone.


Trying to heal (erase) it is also the ego.


If you try to erase the self that thinks it is not loved or the negative self, the ego will resist.


If you try to heal too excessively, resistance will occur and healing will not deepen.


It is important not to try to heal, to allow things as they are, and to relax.


A therapist supports this while deepening the healing together.


If you are worried about your heart, please consult me.


If your heart is healed, the world will change surprisingly.


Love is always here, and you will be able to laugh from your heart.


There is no night that does not end.


May your heart find even a little peace.


Thank you for reading today as well.


Love



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