On the idea that fortune-telling isn't about 'believing or not believing,' but about 'how you act afterward'
"Do you believe in fortune-telling?"
I think many people have had that conversation at least once in the last few years.
"I'll believe it if it comes true," or "It's meaningless because it doesn't come true."
We tend to want to see things in black and white, but
actually, what's important is not the content of the fortune-telling itself, but
"how you act after hearing it."
I feel that is what matters.
In this article,
while incorporating stories from when I did a side job reviewing fortune-telling,
as well as episodes I heard on the radio,
"a stance of not being swayed by fortune-telling,
but successfully using it as material for life"
will be organized.
"Do you believe in fortune-telling?"
The other day, while chatting with a trainer at Dr.stretch,
that topic came up.
(I've written about Dr.stretch in the link below)
To be honest,
I am not the type to believe in spirituality entirely.
However,I don't intend to deny it completely either, is my position.
The reason is that fortune-telling and spirituality,sometimes say things that strike at the essence of things. right?
For example,
"People live thanks to the blessings of the earth."
"Let's be grateful for nature and the environment."
These kinds of stories sound very spiritual, but
there are actually many parts that I can agree with.
That's why I,
don't believe everything, but I take in the parts I can adopt
I maintain that stance.
Fortune-telling has "true or not true." But that's not all.
Fortune-telling does indeed have the aspect of
"coming true" or "not coming true."
Actually, last year, when I was using CrowdWorks for a side job,
I did a job writing fortune-telling reviews.
Receive a fortune-telling session
Write a review
The reward is about 3,000 yen
I applied thinking, "If it's just writing a review."
However, there was one problem.
I don't really have any worries that would lead me to consult a fortune teller.
So, I decided to 'make up' a worry.
The made-up worry and the fortune-telling results
What I set up was,
35 years old and single
a 'character setting' of being worried about not having a girlfriend (in reality, I'm not married and don't have a girlfriend)
When I received a reading with that setting, these were the words I was told.
'You are calm and attractive'
'You will have a good connection soon'
'You will be on a date with a wonderful person by Christmas'
What's more, the person is
on the shorter side
has a cute vibe
which is quite specific.
Honestly,
'Huh, that's a nice thing to say'
was about the extent of my reaction.
Because,
in reality, I had no intention of getting a girlfriend.
I wasn't making any effort to increase my contacts
I wasn't going to places to meet people either
As a result,nothing happened on Christmas.
Well, that's to be expected, isn't it?
If you don't take action, no fortune-telling will ever 'come true'.
The other day, while listening to the radio program Yui Horie's Angel's Egg , the topic of fortune-telling came up.
(I've written about Angel's Egg in the link below.)
Every year on the New Year's broadcast,
radio personality and singer-songwriter
Takeshi Washizaki comes on as a guest,
and the topic of
fortune-teller Getters Iida often comes up there too.
One year, Washizaki was told by Getters-san,
'This year is the year you'll be most popular in your life.'
or so he was told.
But, the result was that he wasn't popular.
At that time, Getters Iida asked him,
'Did you make a move yourself?'
and when he answered,
'No, I didn't.'
he was told,
'Well then, it won't work.'
—that is the episode. (From around 10:50 in the link below)
Hearing this, I thought,
'Ah, that's it. That's the essence.'
Fortune-telling is a 'nudge,' not magic.
At the end of the day,
Fortune-telling is not something that guarantees the future
It is a 'trigger' for action or something that gives you a push
I think that is what it is.
That is why, for me personally,
I keep the parts I want to use as a reference in my heart
I gently let go of the parts that don't resonate
That level of distance feels just right.
This is not limited to fortune-telling,
advice from others
feedback
a casual remark
I feel they are all the same.
Fortune-telling as a tool to encourage dialogue with oneself
Fortune-telling is,
statistics
empirical rules
the ability to listen
by mobilizing all of those things,
'the words that this person seems to need right now'
I think it is an existence that throws those words to you.
So,
it is up to you whether to act on it
and it is also up to you to do nothing at all
However, one thing I can say is,
if you don't take action, reality basically won't change.
Even if things don't go well,
'That wasn't the right way'
'Let's try this next time'
you will still have learned something. That is also definitely progress.
Summary | Fortune-telling is best used as just one of many 'ingredients for life'
Believing in fortune-telling completely doesn't feel quite right
but dismissing it entirely is a bit of a waste
For me, fortune-telling is,
'just one of the materials for thinking about my own life'
that is how I position it.
Moving forward,
I want to incorporate only what I need
without being swayed by fortune-telling
ultimately making my own decisions and taking action
That is the stance I hope to maintain.
Summary of this article
・For fortune-telling, rather than 'believing or not believing,' the essence lies in how you act after hearing it.
・Whether it 'comes true or not' is also greatly influenced by the amount of action you take.
・Fortune-telling is not something that should decide your life; it is best kept at a distance as 'one of the materials' for engaging in a dialogue with yourself.
If you can engage with it from that stance, fortune-telling won't be something that 'sways you,' but rather
a hint to re-examine your choices and actionsthat will help you.
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