[Diagram 1463] The target of criticism is 'words, actions, or work'

[Donut shape (layered structure)] Even when you receive criticism for shortcomings, the target is strictly your words, actions, or work; the value of your personality or your abilities themselves is not harmed.

When you feel your heart becoming unsettled after receiving criticism, try to remember that "even if you are criticized, you yourself are not harmed."

I drew this diagram to help calm my feelings because when I receive criticism, I inevitably think that "I myself am being denied," which makes it easy for my heart to become unsettled.

When someone says, "You are so [negative meaning]," I think that the person speaking often isn't trying to deny your entire personality or ability, but is instead expressing a complaint about a specific action or statement.

However, even so, as the person being told "You are...", it is easy to inevitably accept it as "I myself am being denied" and react emotionally.

At such times, if you can remember this diagram and translate the words in your mind from "You are..." to "That action (statement/work) of yours is...", you can focus on the content the other person wants to convey without being swayed by your emotions.

Also, in situations where you are told this, it is often the case that "now that you mention it, that was indeed not good."

If you can keep a little distance from the words spoken and calmly look back on your own words, actions, or work, it will be easier to apply the criticism to the future and maintain a good relationship with the other person.

I hope this diagram helps you spend your time with peace of mind.

Thank you for reading this time as well.

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