Before you curse your company saying 'This isn't how it was supposed to be'—where is the steering wheel of your life?

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'I shouldn't have joined this company.' 'If I had gone to a better workplace, my life would have been different.' 'If only that boss weren't there...'

These kinds of words often appear in the consultations I receive.

Along with worries about marriage and spouses, another common topic is regrets about work and career.

Especially common are—

'I had dreams when I was young. But reality turned out like this.' 'If I had made a different choice back then, by now...'

These are people whose hearts have become heavy with regrets about past choices and anger toward their company, boss, or environment.

But first, let me say just this.

That suffering is not the fault of the company, your boss, or your environment.

What is binding you is a 'certain assumption' that has been ingrained in you without you realizing it.

Your story, isn't it something like this?

When you were job hunting, you thought about it so seriously.

You went to company information sessions, visited alumni, and went through many interviews. At the company you finally joined, you thought, 'Alright, I'll do my best here.'.

But reality was different from what you had envisioned.

You aren't entrusted with the work you want to do. There is an unreasonable boss. No matter how hard you work, you aren't evaluated. While your peers keep moving ahead, you feel like you are the only one being left behind.

Before you knew it, years had passed.

'What have I been working for?' 'This isn't how it was supposed to be.'

Those words float into your heart in unguarded moments.

The curse of 'the company will make me happy'

Do you remember the 'curse of the Showa-era proposal' that I talked about in the first installment?

The assumption that 'marriage means having the other person make you happy' was what created the pain in the marital relationship.

In fact, the exact same structure exists in work and careers.

That is—

'If I join a good company, I will be happy'—that assumption.

When job hunting, we unconsciously think: 'If I join this company, I'll be stable.' 'In this workplace, I should be able to feel a sense of purpose.' 'If I just have a good environment, I should be able to shine.'

You have entrusted the steering wheel of your own happiness to something outside of yourself calleda company.

That is why, when the company isn't what you expected—when your boss is unreasonable—when things don't go your way—

'This isn't what we talked about! This isn't how it was supposed to be!'

Anger and despair are born.

This isn't because you are weak. Because you have let go of the steering wheel, it is only natural that this happens.

The environment will not make you happy.

Let me say something a bit harsh.

No matter how wonderful a company you join. No matter how understanding a boss you meet. No matter how blessed an environment you place yourself in—

even if the outside changes, as long as you have let go of the steering wheel, the same thing will repeat itself.

You changed jobs and thought, 'I've finally arrived at my ideal workplace,' but after a while, dissatisfaction emerged again. Haven't you had that experience?

That isn't because you are no good. It is because the steering wheel is still outside of you.

So, where should you put the steering wheel?

The answer is simple.

Take it back inside yourself.

Not 'Will this company make me happy?' but— 'What can I find in this work today?'

From the moment you switch to that question, the scenery begins to change.

For example—

Today, a client said 'thank you' to me. I felt that my junior colleague is growing. I managed to do a task I wasn't good at a little better. I left on time and stopped by my favorite cafe.

Small. They might be truly small things.

But, accumulating those small 'there it was' moments—that is'Sachi-tsumi' (Accumulating Happiness).

'Sachi-tsumi', a prescription to break the spell

'Sachi-tsumi' can be used in the workplace just the same.

Just write down the small 'good things,' 'things I could do,' and 'things I felt' that happened at work each day in a notebook.

'Today, this happened.' 'I could do this.' 'I felt this.'

As you accumulate those, before you know it—

'Even if the company doesn't change, I can find happiness here.'

A quiet strength grows within you.

And when that strength is ready—whether you choose the path to shine at your current company, or choose the path of changing jobs or becoming independent, you will surely be able to walk toward the best answer 'on your own two feet'.

The energy used to curse the company turns into energy to nurture yourself. That turning point is Sachi-tsumi.

Your destiny chart has your own unique 'thought traps' engraved in it

Up to this point, I have talked about 'handing over the steering wheel to the company'.

But in fact—

The 'habit' of how you let go of the steering wheel is completely different depending on the stars (destiny chart) you were born with.

For example—

People who have a star that makes them good at taking care of others and finding joy in being devoted tend to easily harbor anger, thinking, 'I'm working this hard, so why am I not being evaluated!'.

People with stars that excel at logical thinking tend to get exhausted by constantly analyzing in their heads, wondering, 'Why is this company so inefficient?'

People with stars that value harmony with others tend to keep putting off their own true feelings, thinking, 'I don't want to make waves... but is it really okay to keep going like this?'

Did you think, 'Oh, this might be me'?

Anyone can organize their 'here and now' by accumulating happiness. But—

The traps of thinking you are prone to falling into (initial settings) and the best timing to review your relationships (waves of fortune)

These are completely different for each person.

That is precisely why, first of all, why not open 'your own personal instruction manual' together with me using Four Pillars of Destiny?

By knowing your own stars, the effect of accumulating happiness will also jump up many times over.