Reading 'Child Psychology'

As for my position, I have no experience as a parent.
Rather, I am a 24-year-old who lives while thinking
that perhaps I haven't fully grown into an adult yet.

This is an article where I have picked up content that caught my attention,
while weaving in the reasons why.📌

Now, let's get to the main topic!


The author, Kanji Hatano, explains that this bookattempts to create a very general bird's-eye view of child psychology
.

As I read on, from page 29,
methods for raising children wellare recommended in three ways.

First, do not settle everything children do by labeling it as "good" or "bad" one by one.

Second, one must not forget that every action has a certain cause.

Third, I want you to know that every child is different.

Regarding the second point in particular, the part that says
it is said that the majority of worrying behavior in children arises from frustration
.

Having previously learned in 'Troublesome Personalities/Difficult Personalities' that venting chronic frustration is at the root of people who cause problematic behavior, I found this even more interesting.

Also, regarding the third point,there is no such thing as a 'child'. If all 'children' were the same, teachers would not need to struggle.

—I resonated with this.

I often feel uneasy about generalizations like 'XX is this kind of thing,' so perhaps that is why it resonated with me even more.

As I read on, from page 60,the egoappears, and the first and second points are written in succession.

In the second of those, it saysbecause they start to have confidence in themselves, they say 'no,' 'rebel,' and 'do not listen to their parents, but do the opposite'

.

As proof of that, I, who have no (memory of) a rebellious phase, felt that I lack self-confidence, and I thought that a rebellious phase is necessary in the growth process.

Humans sometimes must say 'no.' The foundation for such an attitude is formed during this period. by Kanji Hatano

I am speechless.

Advancing the pages further, on pages 97-98, it says
from around the second or third term of the fourth grade, they become introspective, capable of reflection, and calm down

.

Looking back on myself, that was certainly the case, and
from around this time,two aspects, the outer and the inner,became possible to possess. That is to say,
a 'lie'..

The transition of lying is as follows.

1. You become able to tell lies by around age three.
2. It develops into the differentiation of the inner self around age four.
3. By ages five or six, the ability to not tell lies emerges even while possessing the ability to tell them.
(We must ensure that such development is encouraged)

Lying is deeply related to the formation of personality, and if one cannot tell a lie, there is no complete development
, the author asserts, while adding the caveat that
this does not mean it is okay to tell lies
.

I believe this refers to something like point 3 above.

I, too, was once a child (and perhaps still am?), and
reflecting on things I never thought about at the time,
I felt a deep sense of poignancy.

Since this is getting long, I would like to pick up one last
passage about lying.

Page 109.For children, lying is related to the dissatisfaction of desires.

A child who has no dissatisfaction of desires does not consciously tell lies. There is no need for them to lie. When it seems that desires will not be satisfied, the means of lying is adopted.

I felt that this part might also apply to adults.
As I mentioned above, I reached a conclusion within myself that frustration is at the root of problematic behavior.

To tell the truth, when I first read it, it was difficult and often didn't sink in,
but the second time, my imagination gradually expanded,
I became interested, and I felt as if I were able to internalize it as my own experience.

You who are reading this
have undoubtedly gone through childhood,
and perhaps you are a child yourself right now.

Since this is content that is relatable to everyone,
if you are interested or have the opportunity, why not
pick up this book?

↑ I am exchanging book reviews with 'Teruteru Teruko'-san on the same book 📖 ↑

Thank you for staying with me until the end.
🍵🍙

Entering private message mode from here 💌

Teru-chan, thank you again for telling me about this book!

It was difficult at first,
but it was like dried squid—the more I read it, the more flavor I found in it 🦑 (lol)

It's good for reflecting on oneself, and
if I ever end up raising children,
I thought I'd like to review it again💡

Ah, it's fun to write back and forth.
Oh right, I wrote this in someone's comment section
somewhere. Where was it?💦

In that case,
"Living Without Comparing, Without Being Bound" (Shunmyo Masuno)
is the next book I'd recommend as our reading assignment (lol)!

If you'd prefer a different book, I'd be happy to suggest another one,
so please don't hesitate to let me know🙏

Thank you for your thoughtfulness regarding my new job too💗
Let's take it easy and go at our own pace✌️