"When you are happy, you can forgive many things."

This is true for relationships with family, friends, and partners, but the same can be said for human relationships in the workplace.

I think work stress is largely due to human relationships.

Of course, there is dissatisfaction with the work itself, but that can often be dismissed as "it's just work."

However, when you are
yelled at,
sighed at in a meaningful way,
treated coldly for no apparent reason,
rushed repeatedly,
given work instructions without clear explanations,
given the work of someone who is slacking off,
denied while you are explaining something nervously,
not listened to when you share your opinion,
flatly refused even though you asked,
given instructions that change based on mood,
told sarcastic remarks,
or treated unfairly,
your motivation drops and your desire to work is lost.

Strangely enough, when work is going well, your relationships with others are good, or something good happens in your private life, you can sometimes forgive things that would otherwise bother you.

When you are happy yourself, you can even afford to sympathize with the other person, thinking, "They must be having a hard time too," or "Did something bad happen to them?"

However, when you cannot say that your own situation is happy, you end up feeling stress that would normally be an 80 as a 100 or 120.

Emotions that would normally cool down after some time don't cool down easily, and instead, they can even heat up.

Even worse, you might end up taking it out on others.

You might get strangely angry just because the copy paper ran out, feel annoyed by other people chatting, or fall into a persecution complex that you are the only one who is not blessed.

You notice that you are being small-minded, and your emotions sink even further.

Happiness is not something you can only get from those around you; you can find it yourself.

You can become happy just by finishing your work or chores, and
you can also become happy by facing things you have been turning a blind eye to.

You can feel happy when you reach out to someone in trouble and they thank you, and
you can feel happy just by having someone return your greeting.

You can feel happy just because the weather is nice, and
you can feel happy when you eat something delicious.

A night when you can go to sleep early is happy, and
a morning when you have slept well is also happy.

Losing weight makes you happy, and
making it to the train on a morning when you are about to be late also makes you happy.

Come to think of it, I have stopped doing the "three good things" that paper counselor Yoshiyuki taught me a while ago.

I don't get frustrated at work much these days, but while things are calm, I want to bring back the "three good things."

I want to strengthen the thought patterns that allow me to feel happiness.