(Harvard's) Study of Happiness

Do you want to be happy👿?
Do you want power👿?
If so, strive for self-understanding...
The price is time and energy.

The raccoon believes that
anyone can be happy
if they have time and energy.

Well, there is a fundamental trap
where the vast majority
end up adopting a distorted structure
of living while wearing down their time and energy.

The thumbnail image...
The footprint mark for
the first step to happiness🐾
looks like an eye-poke.Oh...

The most important factor for happiness

It is 『 good quality human relationships 』

Those who know, know~
(Harvard Study of Adult Development)

Since 1938,
a study that tracked over 700 people for more than 80 years
and scientifically verified "what determines happiness and health in life."

What is the conclusion?

This study tracks not only medical longevity
but also individual feelings such as "satisfaction" and "happiness" in life
in great detail!

The subjects included not only the wealthy
but also the poor and the working class,
seeking commonalities of happiness across social strata.

▶ Physical health (illness/lifespan)
▶ Mental state (happiness/stress/depression)
▶ Human relationships (family/friends/partners)
▶ Work/income/social status
Detailed records of life satisfaction, etc.

It is studied so that
the evaluation is based on the process,
not the starting difference.

Harvard University study

May I tell you a little more?
Facts that consistently emerged from the data

● The better your human relationships,
・The longer you live
・The healthier you are
・The higher your happiness
➞ Also affects the brain
・Slower decline in memory
≒ Cognitive function is maintained

● The more lonely you feel,
・The higher the risk of early death
・The more prone to illness
・Mental health also deteriorates

Loneliness...
It's just one thing after another (´;ω;｀)

Tell me more!

This study
has so much to talk about...
It's taking longer than I thought,
but let me keep talking!!

After all,
what is a "good relationship"?
That's what Tanuki thought.

That point
is also properly addressed.

● "Quality" over "Quantity"
Not the number of friends, but
do you feel that you have built relationships based on trust, security, and mutual support?
That's what it says.

That is why I talk about "love".

Do you want a boyfriend or girlfriend?
Do you want to get married?
Do you want a happy marriage?
Is parenting going well?
Do you know about foster care?

Most human problems are about relationships,
and I believe the pinnacle of relationships
lies in communication with the object of one's "love".

・My own experience of being raised by toxic parents
・History of partners over 10 years older (10 years)
・History of partners over 10 years younger (about 10 years)
・Over 10 years of experience in child-rearing support
・Over 10 years of experience in disability welfare support
・Experience as a foster parent

Because I am a Tanuki, I can talk about
the theory of building relationships
based on trust, security, and mutual support.

If you want to build "relationships"
that many people stumble over?
(And high-quality ones at that!)

Simply put!
You must start with "self-understanding".

Are you really doing it?

Happiness requires quality human relationships
Quality human relationships require self-understanding

Self-understanding is
the most efficient and shortest way to gain mental strength
(This is Tanuki's opinion)

Self-analysis
Self-understanding
Self-acceptance
Have you achieved these?

For those who have...
It's time for the next step (￣ー￣) smirk

If you have achieved self-understanding
then your feelings of unease and anxiety
should have decreased significantly

Therefore
・Feeling uneasy
・Feeling anxious
・Feeling low on energy
・Having nothing you want to do
If these feelings persist

Honestly
you should re-examine your self-understanding
you haven't achieved it

No, no
I've done quite a bit of self-analysis, haven't I?

Isn't it meaningless?
There are a certain number of people who push back, saying 'So what?'
but if you'd like, please take a read.

The Tanuki style is in a different league, you know? That's why
I don't belong anywhere...
I'm a rogue personal coach
and I can make a living.

People with high academic backgrounds from places like Todai, Waseda, Sophia, etc.
as well,

Professionals such as SME consultants, tax accountants,
patent attorneys, labor and social security attorneys, etc.
as well,

Business people and entrepreneurs, etc...
This is my self-praising self-analysis method that smart people pay a high price to choose!

Oh. I got sidetracked.
It costs money to have Tanuki escort you...
so do your best with self-study! 💪

In the case of a negative start

If your mental state starts in the negative,
aim for a zero-base first.
Build up from there.

Don't be impatient, don't panic?
This is an area where 'haste makes waste' applies!

Tips for self-acceptance

It's, Aloha~🌴

It's not just a greeting, you know?
Looking at its etymological meaning,
let's try breaking down 'Aloha'🎵

Alo: Presence, sharing, being in front of someone
Hā: Breath of life

In other words,
'Sharing life (existence) in the same space'
is what I, Tanuki, think it means.

Is it fairly well-known?
The so-called Aloha Spirit

Kindness,
Humility,
Patience,
Harmony

It's something like,
let's cherish our relationships with people, nature, and society.

'Aloha' is
'love, respect, and connection'all wrapped up
in a single word.

Isn't self-acceptance unnecessary?

It is necessary.

If you want to build high-quality human relationships,
first you cast Aloha to the other person,
and if they cast Aloha back,
that's good, right?

That is correct.
However, without self-understanding,
you cannot reach Aloha.

Self-analysis
Self-understanding
Self-approval
Self-acceptance

Without passing through the filter of
Aloha is superficial,
and to superficial Aloha,
only superficial Aloha will be returned.

Just as a greeting of Aloha
is returned with a greeting,
(That raccoon dog is so noisy with its Aloha, Aloha)

Summary

• Happiness requires high-quality human relationships.

• High-quality human relationships require deep love.

• To handle deep love, you need self-acceptance.

• For acceptance, you need analysis and understanding.

• The raccoon dog is noisy with its Aloha, Aloha.

• The raccoon dog is strict about self-understanding.