[STEP 4] The kinder you are, the more easily you get hurt

🧭 Previous articles...

[STEP 0] You don't have to wear your heart out anymore
── Even if you are treated unreasonably, choose to protect your heart

[STEP 1] Can't you heal just by venting stress?
── True “healing” that begins with a dialogue with your heart

[STEP 2] 3 principles for “protecting your heart”
── So you don't leave your heart behind before you get hurt unreasonably

[STEP 3] The day I escaped from “I might not be able to do this anymore...”
── A small breakthrough to cultivate “mental defense”

Hello!
I am NAGI-u, a visiting rehabilitation physical therapist ✨

💭 Things that happen at home visit sites

One day, I went to visit a user who was complaining of lower back pain.

As far as I could see, the method of self-training they had been doing for years was
actually the cause of their back pain.

I thought I had explained carefully,
“If you do it this way, the burden on your lower back will be reduced.”

——But, at that moment, the person's expression changed.

My chest tightened.

On the way home, I kept thinking about that the whole time.

Another person.
A user I asked, “Is it okay if I change the visit time?”
Even though they readily answered “That's fine,” the next day——

I was yelled at.

And to another person, when I finished the visit as scheduled, I was told this:

Of course, it is a fact that I had my own shortcomings.
I know that is something I should reflect on.

But—when it comes time to sleep, I remember it and can't fall asleep.
My mood drops, I take it out on my family, and then I fall into self-loathing again.

And so, little by little, I fell into a **"negative loop"**.

🧠 Why do I get hurt so much?

Because you face people more earnestly than anyone else.

The more you think that,
the more you take everything the other person says as your own responsibility.

That kindness is your strength,
and at the same time, it is also the place where you are most easily hurt.

Even if you try to change your mood, you remember it again and feel distressed—
that is a sign that your "mental defense system" has been damaged.

If things continue this way, your motivation will drop, self-denial will intensify,
and your heart will wear out, thinking, "Maybe I'm not cut out for this after all."

🌱 But, it's okay.

If you learn how to protect your heart,
you can minimize that damage.

It's not about "trying not to care,"
or "enduring it"—

• Right after being scolded

• After getting home

• And from the next day onwards

Having a "mechanism to protect your heart" at each of these timings.
That will become the power that truly protects your heart.

🕊️ The answer I finally found after failing many times

I myself have felt down many times,
and there were nights when I thought about quitting.

But, it became clear to me through "psychology," "brain science," and "field experience."

Those are the three steps.

1️⃣ Protect your heart on the spot the moment you are scolded
2️⃣ Care for your heart afterward
3️⃣ Develop habits to increase your heart's defensive strength

Just by knowing these,
the habit of over-assuming that "it's my fault" will gradually fade away.

🧭 I will talk about this in the next article

In the next article,
I will specifically introduce
"practical methods to protect your heart" that I have actually tried and felt were effective, along with cases I have experienced,
as well.

Just by reading it,

• you won't let unreasonable words drag you down

• your guilt will decrease, and you will stop blaming yourself

• you will stop carrying over emotions during work

You can acquire such a "mechanism of the heart"😊

✨ The next article to read is here👇

[STEP 5] "Practical methods to protect your heart" so you aren't worn down even when scolded unreasonably
(includes a real-life stress experience story😢)
── "The power to protect your heart" as told by a physical therapist with 10 years of home rehabilitation experience

[Chapter 1] How to minimize the damage the moment you are scolded
[Chapter 2] How to soothe your heart after an unreasonable event
[Chapter 3] My real-life stress experience and the steps I took to rebuild my heart

💬 To you

The fact that you are easily hurt
is not because you are weak or immature.

It is proof that you are seriously facing people.

Turn that kindness into "strength" instead of suffering.
I will tell you how to do that in the next article.

📋 Mini Blueprint

1️⃣ You get scolded unreasonably on-site and end up blaming yourself
2️⃣ That is a burden on the heart caused by "kindness"
3️⃣ Wounds to the "heart's defense system" that cannot be healed by stress relief
4️⃣ If you have a mechanism to protect your heart, you can reduce the damage
5️⃣ Next time, I will explain "how to protect your heart" in a paid article

🌤️ Finally

To those who have read this article and found it even slightly interesting

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"Comments" are also welcome 🎵

Thank you for your support 😊

📌 For those meeting me for the first time
You can find my self-introduction article here 👇

[Self-Introduction] The Reality of Home Rehabilitation | How to Protect Your Heart | 50s | Physical Therapist

👤 NAGI-u Profile

50s / Physical Therapist / 10 years in home rehabilitation / 20 years of experience as a physical therapist.
After changing careers from engineering, I have been captivated by "rehabilitation of the human heart and body" for 20 years.

🔹 Hobby: Guitar
🔹 Content Themes:
・How to protect your heart / How to increase your defensive power
・The reality of home rehabilitation
・Various things as a physical therapist
・Living life as it is in your 50s