[STEP 1] Is stress relief not enough to heal?

🧭 The previous article was...

[STEP 0]You don't have to wear your heart out anymore
── Choose to protect your heart, even when you are unreasonably scolded

Hello!
I'm NAGI-u, a home rehabilitation physical therapist ✨

"I want to be of help to the users and their families"
── Even though I visit with that thought in mind, I still encounter those moments.

Being yelled at by users or their families,
being told unreasonable things,
and holding it in...

Blaming yourself like that...
And then, trying to recover somehow——.

🔁 If you notice, aren't you repeating these actions?

• Venting by complaining to friends or family

• Eating your favorite ice cream to cheer yourself up

• Relying on alcohol to distract yourself

• Screaming your heart out at karaoke

• Trying to change your mood with hobbies or shopping

• Forcing yourself to be positive

In that moment, you certainly feel a little better.
"Okay, let's move on,"
you might think.

But,
in the quiet of the night, or in a fleeting moment——
again,
the words from that time and the expression come to mind.

Those feelings return to your heart,
and you sink into self-loathing once again.

And then,
you distract yourself again, only to feel down again—.
In this way,
a "negative loop of the heart"iswhat you fall into.

❌ Why doesn't it work?

It is not because you are not trying hard enough, or
because you are not patient enough.

Distracting yourself, venting, trying to forget.

Of course, stress relief has its effects.
But,
that alone is not enough.

That is because
"your heart is already wounded".

Even if you look away from the essence,
the thorn remains stuck in your heart.

What is important is to
not leave your heart behind, and
start by gently facing it.

In truth,
to heal the "pain" deeply stuck in your heart,
you need to change the "fundamental mechanism".

💬 "It's not your fault"

In the first place, the reason you get so hurt is because
you are akind and sincere person.

Because you have those thoughts,
even unreasonable wordsare takenas "your own responsibility".

But, that is actually not the case.

Not every event is your fault.
You just
didn't know the "way to protect your heart".

In other words,
you lacked a mechanism to increase your "mental defense",
and were taking damage while completely defenseless.

💡 The real cause is a "lack of mechanism"

"Being considerate of others is justice"
—that value.
That in itself is something very wonderful.

But, when that goes too far,
protecting your own heartis"put on the back burner".

As a result,
when an unreasonable event occurs,
you accept it as "it's all my fault."

That is why what is necessary is to
have a "mechanism to protect your heart" in your daily life.

Just by knowing this concept,
little by little, the
“negative loop” within you will begin to unravel.

🌱 Connecting to the next chapter

So—how can you break free from this negative loop?
How can you stay “without having your heart worn down” by unreasonable words?

In the next article, I will share those principles.

👉 Next Chapter[STEP 2] 3 Principles for “Protecting Your Heart”
　　──To ensure you don't leave your heart behind before being hurt by the unreasonable

💡 The culmination of this series is here (paid article)

[STEP 5]“Practical Methods to Protect Your Heart” even when scolded unreasonably
　　　　　(Includes real-life stress stories😢)
　──The “power to protect your heart” shared by a physical therapist with 10 years of home rehabilitation experience

Here, I will specifically introduce the
“practical methods to protect your heart” that I have actually tried and found effective, along with cases I have experienced.

[Chapter 1] How to minimize the damage the moment you are scolded
[Chapter 2] How to restore your heart after an unreasonable event
[Chapter 3] My real-life stress experiences and the steps I took to rebuild my heart

By mastering these,
you will become someone who will never again have their “heart worn down” by unreasonable words.

🌤️ Finally

To those who read this article and felt even a little bit interested

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“Comments” are also welcome🎵

Thank you very much😊

📌 For those meeting me for the first time
My self-introduction article is posted here👇

[Self-Introduction] The reality of home rehabilitation sites | How to protect your own heart | 50s | Physical Therapist

👤 Nagi-u Profile (Pronounced: Nagiyu)

50s / Physical Therapist / 10 years in home rehabilitation / 20 years of physical therapy experience.
Switched careers from engineering, and have been fascinated by “rehabilitation of the human heart and body” for 20 years.

🔹Hobbies: Guitar
🔹Topics of interest:
・How to protect your heart / How to increase your defensive power
・The reality of home rehabilitation sites
・Various things as a physical therapist
・Living life in your own way from your 50s