Say Goodbye to Daily Anger and Controlling Others. The First Step to Breaking the Curse of 'Why Is It Always Me?'

Why is it always me doing all the housework, childcare, and working?

Right in front of me, my family is lounging around without a shred of guilt. Yet, the moment I stop to take a break, everything that needs to be done in the house grinds to a halt and just piles up.

I want to take it easy, too.
I want to watch TV and lounge around without thinking about anything.
I want to eat a meal someone else made and take a bath without worrying about cleaning up.
I want to say, 'Phew, I'm tired today!' and sleep like the dead without thinking about tomorrow at all.

If I didn't have to think about anything at home and could just focus on my job, that would be so much easier.

I even think things like that. Because with work, if you do it, you get paid as a result.
Results equal a paycheck. What you do becomes visible proof.

But housework and childcare...
You just keep doing them endlessly, and you aren't even thanked for it.
Even if you are thanked, it doesn't make your burden any lighter.
Honestly, I don't need words of gratitude; I just want them to say, 'Shall I do the housework and childcare?'
That would make me much happier.

And yet.
Even if my family kindly says, 'You don't have to do anything! We'll do it, so go get some rest!', guilt starts to creep in.
I worry about whether the house is running properly, and in the end, I finish without ever really resting.

What do I actually want, anyway?

Ultimately, it would be best if they just did it without me having to say anything, so I wouldn't have to give instructions one by one; in fact, I even think, 'It should be obvious that you do it.'
Why is it taken for granted that I have to do such difficult things just because I'm a wife and a mother?

Thoughts like these were swirling around in my head every single day.

The True Nature of the 'Wasted Energy' of Exploding in Anger

When frustration builds up and exceeds my capacity, I explode in anger.
I use the power of my anger to force those around me to move.

But once my 'anger' subsides and I return to my usual self, those around me quickly slip back into the usual 'daily life where only I do everything.'

Wait, I'm repeating the same thing again. What I said the other day didn't get through at all. Nothing has changed.

I despaired many times.

Those around me had only movedto calm down the angry me.
The essence of why I was angry hadn't been conveyed at all.
All that was conveyed was that I was angry.
Since they returned to their usual routine once the anger subsided, those around me just went back to their usual lounging.

So, even if they might perform 'actions to calm my anger' every time I get mad in the future, it will never lead to a fundamental change in behavior where they 'take initiative and act on their own.'

In short, all of my anger had become 'wasted energy.'
Nothing about the situation improves, and I just get tired from using energy for nothing. If you repeat this, people eventually give up and become listless.
And then, it further reinforces the curse of 'It's always me.'

The First Step to Escaping This [Gift 🎁✨]

To escape this hellish loop, an easy first step is to 'write down everything you did in a day'.

In my current state, I feel unfulfilled unless those around me take initiative or show joy for what I have done; I am dependent on the reactions and evaluations of others.
Therefore, I am terrified that if I am not evaluated, it will be as if my hard work never existed.

Even I myself thought, 'This is just something that should be done,' and did not properly acknowledge my own hard work.

The purpose of writing this down is to consciously make what you have done exist on paper as 'things you have done'.

Because you do these things as if they are a matter of course, you don't even realize how much you are actually doing.
'I'm the only one doing so much housework and childcare.'
First, list everything on paper to see exactly how many tasks are hidden within that part you've crudely summarized with the word 'so much'.

You will probably find so much that you'll get tired of writing.
And you will surely find yourself saying this involuntarily:

'Wow, I've been working this hard? I'm amazing.'

Only then can you finally say to yourself,
'I did all this. I worked so hard.'
—giving yourself credit for what you have done instead of letting it go unnoticed.

First, try this first step 🎁✨ and see how your emotions and physical sensations change. Please take your time to feel your feelings after doing this and write those down as well.

Before waiting for the evaluation of others, first become the number one witness to your own hard work.

Details regarding the first step are written in this article, so please take a look if you'd like 👇👇👇