The Story of How I Stopped Being a 'Nice Person' and Started Being Loved at Work
Up until now, whenever I quit a job, it was always
with the feeling of,
'I can't take it anymore, I want to quit.'
That was how I often left.
I was either exhausted by interpersonal relationships or had built up too much work stress.
That's why I always left as if I were running away from something.
At that time, I heard an entrepreneur talk about their
'reason for quitting a job,' and I was shocked.
I quit because my workplace relationships were so fulfilling that
we became friends who could hang out even after I left♡
'Ah, I never thought of it that way!'
I thought from the bottom of my heart.
Because I had always thought that the reason for quitting a job was
because you hate it.
This time, it wasn't because I 'hated it'
But this time, my reason for leaving the hospital
was not 'because I hate the work.'
On the contrary, my relationship with the staff was good,
and I didn't hate working there itself.
Even so, as the day I was to leave approached,
my heart felt restless.
The last day.
From the staff members,
'I'm sad to see you go,'
'I wanted to work with you more,'
'I wanted you to teach me more things.'
They said those kinds of things to me.
'Let's meet up even after you quit,'
they also told me.
And on the final day,
I received flowers from everyone on the ward.
In that moment, I couldn't hold it together anymore. I burst into tears.
The old me worked while wearing a 'mask of a nice person'
If it were the old me,
I don't think I could have quit this way.
The old me,
to avoid being disliked,
was always considerate of others,
and worked trying to be a 'nice person'.
That's why, when I started working at this workplace,
the work and the interpersonal relationships were painful.
I couldn't say no when asked for favors.
Even when I had real thoughts, I couldn't voice them.
When I was working like that,
work was always stressful.
The 'thought patterns' I realized through my self-dialogue journal
But, after I started writing in a self-dialogue journal,
I began to notice my own thoughts little by little.
I had always been
'I don't want to be disliked,'
'I want to be thought of as a nice person'
working with those feelings.
Once I realized that,
rather than worrying about how others felt,
I started to value my own feelings.
I stopped trying to force myself to be a nice person,
and started working the way I wanted to.
And, I started working happily.
When I started valuing myself, my relationships changed
Then, strangely enough,
compared to when I worked while constantly worrying about others,
my relationships with the staff were better now.
The reason everyone gave me such a warm
send-off this time,
might just be because I was
simply enjoying my work.
I was always smiling, and
I was just doing my job the way I wanted to.
That was all.
More than when I was trying hard to be a 'nice person',
now that I am working while valuing myself,
I was loved by others.
I felt that once again
through what happened when I left the hospital.
Notice
Self-dialogue journaling isn't so much magic that changes your life, but rather
it created a place where I could return to myself as many times as I needed.
If right now,
you don't really understand your own feelings,
you want to know what you truly want to do,
if you are feeling that way.
Right now,I am preparing a paid article about self-dialogue journaling on note.
Rather than teaching you how to do it,
this is an article for creating time to return to your true feelings.
As soon as it is ready, I will announce it on Threads and note.
I hope it reaches those who need it, gently.
As soon as it is ready, I will announce it on Threads and note.
I hope it reaches those who need it, gently.
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