The Reason You Spin Your Wheels Despite Working Hard | "Misunderstanding the Other Party" is Happening

In the previous article,

I talked about how "the reason you stop despite working hard is not a lack of effort, but a misalignment."

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Why do people stop even when they are working hard?

So, where does the cause of that misalignment come from?

I believe that
👉 acting without knowing the other party
is one of the major causes.

When you are taking on a challenge,
you tend to focus on your own actions.

How much you have done
How hard you have worked

Of course, that is also important.

But,
👉 is that action matched to the person you are currently facing?
If this remains ambiguous,
your efforts will gradually drift off course.

If you don't know the other party, your efforts will spin their wheels

The "other party" referred to here does not mean a rival who is taking on the same challenge.

It refers to the very thing you are challenging.
For example,

if it is an exam, there is an "exam creator."

With what intention were the questions created?
What do they want you to understand?
What time does the exam start and end?

If you try to "just increase your study volume" without knowing these things about the other party,

👉 You work hard but can't get points👉 You can't perform well on the actual day

it becomes easy to end up in that state.

It is the same in business.
If you act by "just posting" or "just selling" without knowing what the customer wants,

👉 your efforts may lack results.

Human relationships are the same.
If you act "thinking it's for the best" without looking at how the other person feels,

👉 your feelings may cross paths.

In other words,
👉 efforts made without knowing the other party are likely to lose direction.

Why do people stop looking at the "other party"?

So why does the perspective of the "other party," which is so important, get left out?
It is because
👉
you become overwhelmed with your own affairs.
And one more thing 👉 you misunderstand the other party.

I want to get results
I don't want to fail
The more you think that way,
the more your focus shifts toward your own actions.

And before you realize it, you end up comparing yourself not to the person you should be facing, but to rivals who are taking on the same challenge—in other words,
👉
you are misidentifying your target

This is what often causes your efforts to become misaligned.

What you need is to 'change your perspective'

What is needed here is not to work even harder.
👉
Change your perspective
Instead of asking, 'What am I doing?' ask, 'What am I doing for the sake of my goal?'

Whether or not you can adopt this perspective will significantly change the quality of your efforts.

If you feel like you are working hard right now but not getting any traction,

it does not mean that your efforts are insufficient.

Perhaps,
👉 you may have slightly misidentified the target you should be facing.

That is why I want you to take a moment to think about,
'What is my behavior directed toward?'
and consider that.

By holding that perspective, your efforts will gradually transform into something meaningful.

I cover this topic in more detail in my book, 'Goukaku-ryoku Shikou' (Success-Oriented Thinking).
I would be happy if you could remember this as a hint whenever you pause during your daily challenges.
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