[Self-Care] From Negative Thinking to a Positive Mind: Cultivating 'Mental Habits' You Can Change

Hello.

The 'mental habits' we feel every day are formed unconsciously and become ingrained over many years.

However, these habits can be changed little by little.

For example, have you ever had experiences like these?

• Blaming yourself for a minor mistake

• Worrying too much about a future that hasn't even happened yet

• Feeling down by comparing yourself to others

If any of this sounds familiar, you are certainly not alone.

In this post, I would like to share why we tend to think negatively, the reasons behind it, countermeasures, and points you can practice in your daily life.

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✧Understanding the Reasons for Negative Thinking

First, it is important to know the reasons why you tend to think negatively.

In many cases, the following backgrounds are involved.

• Learning from past experiences
  Due to painful experiences or failures in the past, a defense instinct to 'not want to repeat the same thing' kicks in.
  This is natural, but sometimes it leans toward emphasizing anxiety.

• Psychology of self-defense
  A negative perspective can sometimes act as a 'safety measure' to protect oneself.
  Out of a desire to avoid risks and not fail, one ends up imagining worst-case scenarios.

• Influence of surroundings
  Negative thinking can also be imprinted through the process of growing up or social influences.
  When your values are formed by the influence of those around you, you may have incorporated that way of thinking into yourself without realizing it.

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✧Understanding the pitfalls of positive thinking

Let's take a moment here to think about positive thinking.

In fact, forcing positive thoughts is not necessarily good for the mind.

Feeling that you 'must be positive' can increase the burden on your mind or lead you to turn a blind eye to reality.

Negative feelings can be seen as a sign that 'you need to feel something and rethink it.'
Therefore, rather than forcing yourself to see things brightly, it is also important to fully experience those emotions once.

✧˙⁎⋆Reflection note
One of the articles still read by many people.
I write about how to 'fully feel' things.
Please read it if you'd like.

Balance is important in everything.

Just as it is important to look at the positive side, try to value accepting the negative emotions in your heart honestly and being yourself just as you are.

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✧Ways to change the habit of negative thinking

Changing negative thinking cannot be done in a day or two, but there are several ways to gradually change your habits of thought.

Please try incorporating the methods introduced next.

• Cultivate self-acceptance
  Try not to blame yourself or demand perfection.
  By gradually cultivating a sense of self-acceptance that says, "I am fine just as I am," your heart will feel lighter.
  Try telling yourself, "It's okay even if I fail ♡."

• Consciously change your words
  When negative words come to mind, practice replacing them with slightly more positive phrasing.
  ・Impossible → Let's try a little more
  ・I can't → Maybe I'll give it a try
  Small changes in expression like these will gradually change the direction of your heart.

• Focus on learning, not problems
  When you face failure or difficulties, try to develop the habit of thinking, "What can I learn from this?" instead of viewing it as a "problem."
  By looking at the positive aspects of things, it leads to self-growth and gradually cultivates a brighter perspective.

✧˙⁎⋆Please read this too if you'd like.
It's a way not to treat negativity as a "villain."

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✧Approaches to change daily thinking to be positive

Even so, I think there are some people who feel it is "difficult..."

Specifically, what methods can we use to change our mental habits?

From here on, I will introduce several practical methods that you can easily incorporate.

• Find one thing to be 'grateful' for each day
  Try to find moments in your daily life that you feel grateful for.
  It doesn't matter how small they are.
  Just recalling your gratitude for the day and writing it down in a notebook before going to sleep every night will help your mind become more positive little by little.

• Morning 'positive affirmations'
  In the morning, try saying positive words to yourself in front of the mirror.
  Let words that encourage you, such as 'Today will be a good day' or 'It's okay to be myself,' resonate in your heart, even if just a little.

• Take a deep breath when you are in trouble
  When you feel like you are about to be dominated by negative thoughts, take a deep breath and slowly face your feelings.
  If you tell yourself, 'This feeling is only temporary,' you should be able to feel your emotions calming down.

✧˙⁎⋆Please read this too if you'd like.
There are quite a lot of times in daily life when we end up in a 'high-stress' state, aren't there?
At such times, I introduce ways to feel 'this very moment' (a state where you can breathe a sigh of relief).
I actually do these things myself.

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✧Summary

Negative thinking habits are by no means a bad thing.

Thanks to those thoughts, we are able to avoid risks and think carefully.

However, if it is too painful and you want to have a slightly brighter perspective, let's start with a small step you can take from today.

Mental habits are things that can be changed little by little.

I myself have also gradually felt more at ease by using positive reframing and by considering challenges with the question, 'What is the lesson here?'

May you be able to move closer to a positive version of yourself while treating yourself with kindness and care.

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