Your Ally is Here

"I might have been hated..."

Have you ever had the experience of
"not wanting to be hated"and
"suppressing your true feelings"
because of it?

A single cold text message.
A greeting that felt ignored.
Words you meant no harm by
might have made the other person angry...

And so you replay it over and over
in your head.
"Did they hate me?"
"Did I do something wrong?"

For me,
"being hated"is a fear
that feels like it wounds
the very act of living.

But
I've come to think that
"being hated might not be
such a bad thing after all."

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But, if you flip that around,
"problems arise from interpersonal relationships, but freedom is also born from them"
is what it means.

For me, the experience of being hated
was the first step
"to becoming truly free."

"I don't have to be liked by everyone"
"The other person also has the freedom to hate me"


When I was able to think that,
my heart felt suddenly lighter.

And, because I myself
stopped trying to force myself to be"a good person"I was able to
gradually regain
"my true self."

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"I don't want to be hated"
Behind that, I think many people
harbor a fluctuation of "self-worth"I was like that too.
・I feel safe if I'm a good child
・I read the room so I won't be hated

・I prioritize others' expectations over my own true feelings

"Being liked by others = I have value"
Haven't you fallen into that assumption?

My value fluctuates based on
the other person's mood or values.

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A few years ago, at a workplace,
a colleague I was close with
suddenly started keeping their distance from me.

"Something... feels different than before,"
they said,
and I said nothing more.

Every day, I
was only worried about that person's mood.
“Maybe they hate me.”
“Did I say something wrong?”

…But when I really thought about it—
it was me who kept forcing myself
to play the role of a “good person”
to meet their expectations.

The moment I stopped doing that,
they distanced themselves from me.

That simply means
“the real me”was someone they
could not accept.

I felt sad, but

“they have the freedom to dislike me too”

—the moment I accepted that,
my heart found peace.

From that day on, I
“chose to be on my own side.”

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Even if you live your life
walking on eggshells around others,
“a true relationship of trust”cannot be built.

Even if you are liked on the surface,
if you are suppressing your own feelings,
you are just continuing
to hurt yourself.

What is important is

“What do I want to do?”
“How do I want to be?”

living with these as your core.

Even if someone dislikes you,
the sight of someone living
without betraying themselves
truly reaches someone's heart.

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Have you ever
suppressed your true feelings
because you “didn't want to be disliked”?

Even so, if your heart
“feels like this is too painful,”then I believe
now is the time
to reclaim “the real you.”

Because disliking yourself
is far more painful
than being disliked by others.

“Your ally” is you.

May you be able to
cherish yourself above all else.

p.s.┈┈ ・・❥
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has begun, hasn't it?
My recommended summer spot is
"waterfalls"
You won't get sunburned, and😎
the negative ions
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