Those who lack confidence are actually the ones who can save others—Why I never let go of my "weakness"

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"You should just have more confidence."
"If you act with more poise, your life will change."

Every time I was told that, I felt a little bit of pain.

Because for me,
acting with poise or behaving with total confidence
was something I could never get good at.

Having confidence does not necessarily mean being trusted

This is something I have felt strongly after facing people for many years, but
having confidence does not always equal being trusted.

If anything,

• being loud,

• making many assertions,

• seeming to have no doubts,

• or appearing high-handed and likely to talk down to others,

in front of such people,
there are not a few who hide their true feelings.

"I feel like I shouldn't show my weakness."
"I feel like I have to be a proper version of myself."

An atmosphere that makes people feel that way
can be created unconsciously.

The reason why I, who lacked confidence, was chosen in the field

I have always been shy, socially anxious, and
not the type to step forward on my own.

Yet, strangely,

• people who tell me their true feelings,

• and people who shed tears in front of me.

• The number of people who visit me regularly

has been gradually increasing.

There are words that were said to me later.

“I felt like I could remain weak in front of this person.”
“I felt a sense of comfort being my true self in front of this person.”
“In front of this person, I didn't have to keep my guard up and naturally found myself smiling.”

At that moment, I realized it for the first time.

Perhaps it was precisely because I lacked confidence that
I did not demand 'strength' from others.

HSP traits are not 'flaws,' but sensitivity

I am very sensitive.

Changes in the atmosphere,
tone of voice,
shallow breathing

I notice them immediately.

For a long time, I thought that was
a 'difficulty in living.'

But now, it is different.

It is precisely because I have this sensitivity that

• people who are pushing themselves too hard,

• a sense of discomfort that cannot be put into words,

• fatigue that the person themselves has not yet noticed,

I believe I have been able to gently reach out to these things.

It was okay not to become strong

In the past, I wanted to become strong.

A self that doesn't get hurt,
a self that doesn't get shaken,
a self that is fine no matter what is said.

But now, I think this.

I'm glad I didn't become strong.

Because I had weakness,
I could notice people's pain.

Because I lacked confidence,
I didn't impose myself on others.

A way of living that doesn't erase weakness

The world is overflowing with
"ways to build confidence."

But I believe
it's okay to live a life while still lacking confidence.

• While feeling lost,

• While stopping in your tracks,

• Even while feeling afraid,

People can still move forward properly.

It's okay to move forward without confidence

If right now,

"I'm no good because I lack confidence"
"I have to change"

If there is someone who thinks that,
this is what I want to tell them.

Just as you are, you can be a support to someone.

You don't have to force yourself to change.
You don't have to erase it.

Your weakness
will become the strength to save someone.

Summary

From now on, I will continue to write about
"how to live with weakness"
rather than "how to build confidence."

That is because it is something common to both dieting and life.

I hope that my experience like this can warm someone's heart.

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For English Readers

(This is not a direct translation.
It is a condensed version that preserves the core philosophy.)

Why People Without Confidence Can Support Others

I never considered myself confident.
Yet people often opened up around me.

I realized that not needing to appear strong creates safety.
Sensitivity is not weakness—it’s awareness.

You don’t need confidence to support others.
You only need presence.

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