For those who can't post because they fear rejection: How to build 'public resilience' so that reactions don't become self-rejection

Yesterday, I gathered my courage and went into a stylish cafe.

I meant to say 'takeout,' but I stumbled over my words so badly that I blurted out, 'Take, take... low pressure...' and the staff member asked me with a straight face, 'Excuse me?' (tears).

That moment of despair, as if I had been rejected by the world.

Combined with the 'overthinking' characteristic of ADHD, I spent the rest of the day curled up in a blanket at home.

Hello, I'm Mental Tsuyoshi.
Sorry, I exaggerated.

I usually work as a web writer, and I organize the thinking and systems for how people with 'fragile traits' like myself can continue to work without strain and without stopping.

For those of us who have ADHD tendencies, get tired easily, or are more sensitive to others' reactions than most, the world's 'guts-and-glory' philosophy is nothing but a toxic drug.

That is why I am figuring out how to keep posting and operating with as little burden as possible, using AI as 'training wheels' instead of relying on willpower.

I am creating that 'blueprint' through daily trial and error.

What I am thinking about throughout this note, and what kind of system I am trying to build.

I would be happy if you could first take a look at my profile article for the big picture.

Profile: Mental Tsuyoshi | A Web Writer Living with ADHD

Now, the theme this time is 'rejection'.

You want to write a note, update your blog, or maybe try publishing a book on Kindle.

Even though you've prepared for it, when you're finally in front of the 'publish' button, your finger stops.

You've become able to write text using AI.

Yet, you can't keep up the actual posting.

Isn't that because we unconsciously interpret the 'reaction after posting' as'a rejection of my very existence'?

In this article, I will interpret Jia Jiang's book, 'Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection,' from the perspective of 'content creation'.

This book isn't just about mental improvement.

It was the ultimate practical blueprint for continuing to post without breaking down.

By the time you finish reading this article, the 'lack of response' or 'rejection' that you were so afraid of should look a little more like 'just data'.

This book can be read not so much as a 'book on practicing being rejected,' but as a book on how not to stop posting.

This book, '100 Days of Rejection Therapy'.

Looking at the title alone, it might seem like a macho training book that says, 'Let's make unreasonable requests and get rejected over and over to grow a thick skin!' (sweat).

The author, Jia Jiang, actually does some pretty crazy things.

'Asking a stranger to lend me $100'

'Asking Krispy Kreme to make donuts in the shape of the Olympic rings'

...No, that's impossible by any normal standard! (laughs)

But if you replace this structure of 'experiments in making unreasonable requests and getting rejected' with the context of 'creators' or 'content producers' like us, the view changes completely.

The 'rejection' we face every day is quieter, yet sharper.

• I wrote a heartfelt note, but it got '0' likes (tears).

• I enthusiastically pitched a project, but I haven't heard back from the client.

• The content I worked so hard on was ignored by everyone and drifted away.

• The occasional comment I received was a bit critical.

These are all 'rejection,' aren't they?

'Your posts have no value.'
'You are not needed.'

It gets translated that way in our brains automatically, and we take damage.

If you have HSP-like sensitivity, this damage is even greater than for others.

Once you experience the rejection known as 'no response,' your working memory becomes occupied by the shock, and the energy to write the next article dries up.

As a result, your operations come to a halt.

You retreat into the conclusion that 'I have no talent' and simply fade away...

However, what this book teaches is that 'rejection can be practiced.'

Through a 100-day experiment, the author made the act of 'being rejected' his goal itself.

When he was rejected, he would think, 'Yes, experiment successful!'

When applied to content creation, this is revolutionary.

Instead of stopping due to the fear that 'it might not be read' or 'it might be criticized,' you change your stance to 'Let's just put it out there and observe what kind of rejection (or lack of response) comes back.'

In other words, this book is not just about honing the 'art of asking.'

It is a book for acquiring 'public resilience'—the ability to keep walking even while wading through the muddy waters of 'uncertain reactions.'

What we should aim for is not to acquire a steel mentality that never gets hurt.

It is to design a 'system' where operations continue to run even after incorporating the 'possibility of being hurt' as a premise.

The hints for that are packed into these 100 days of strange experiments.

Rejection is not a 'denial of your worth,' but merely a 'reaction that includes the other party's conditions.'

If I were to redefine the most important message of this book for us creators, it would come down to this.

'A poor reaction has nothing to do with your worth.'

...No, I get it. I understand the urge to say, 'That's just idealistic!' (bitter laugh).

Even I, if an article I put my heart into gets single-digit views, I seriously get depressed and think, 'My writing career is over...'

But look closely at the author's experiment.

If he asked for a donut to be shaped like the Olympic rings and was refused, is that because 'Jia Jiang as a person is worthless'?

That's not the case, is it?

It might be because the shop was busy.

It might be because it's a rule that they can't do anything not in the manual.

Or it might simply be because the clerk was in a bad mood.

This applies exactly the same way to posting content.

The reason your note isn't read, or the reason someone says something negative to you, lies somewhere other than your 'talent' or 'personality'.

• Timing: You posted at a time when readers were busy

• Platform compatibility: The theme didn't match the platform's user base

• Presentation: The title was just a little hard to understand

• Context: It didn't align with current news or trends

• The other person's state: The reader was in a bad mood and took it out on you

How about that? When you line them up like this, isn't there almost no room for 'your own worth' to be involved? (laughs)

However, we ignore all these 'other party's circumstances' and 'environmental factors,' and take the reaction (or lack thereof) that comes back as an absolute evaluation of ourselves.

This is technically called a 'cognitive distortion,' and ADHD brains are prone to this distortion.

We overgeneralize a single failure as 'always failing' and freeze ourselves up.

What this book teaches is an auxiliary line to separate 'reaction' from 'self-evaluation'.

The author even persists after being turned down, asking, 'Why?'

Then, you start to see unexpected backgrounds, like 'Oh, actually, there were these circumstances...'

There, you might find that not even a millimeter of personality rejection was involved.

The 'no reaction' in posting is the same.

It is not a rejection that says you are 'boring,' but merely data that says, 'This information just wasn't needed at this moment.'

What we need to keep working without breaking down is this 'correction of interpretation.'

Forcefully detach the event of 'not resonating' from the self-denial of 'having no value.'

Even if you become able to write articles efficiently using AI, if you haven't designed this 'way of receiving,' you will inevitably get discouraged and stop someday.

Do not link reactions to your content with a total rejection of yourself as a creator.

We need to install this 'filter of thought' into our own OS to achieve that.

The author's 100-day experiment is easy to understand if you read it as 'public strength training' for creators.

The '100 Days of Rejection Challenge' conducted by the author, Jia Jiang.

To those of us who are the 'type that thinks too much and can't move,' this looks like a level of reckless courage that is too dazzling to look at directly (sweat).

'Asking a stranger to teach you how to play soccer'

'Asking a stranger to let you plant flowers in their garden'

...No way, that's impossible!

If it were me, before even asking, I would have my brain overheat just from the simulation of 'What if I get rejected?' 'What if they think I'm a weirdo?' 'What if I get reported?' and I wouldn't be able to take a single step outside.

But the essence of this experiment isn't about 'becoming shameless.'

This is actually 'strength training.'

We creators with ADHD tendencies use up all our energy 'before we even post.'

'I have to write the perfect article'

'I have to eliminate any flaws so I don't get criticized'

'If they think it's useless, it's all over'

That's how we use 100% of our energy on preparation before posting, and by the time we hit the publish button, we are already worn out.

However, this book presents the exact opposite model.

1. Put it out there in an unfinished (or reckless) state for now

2. As expected, get rejected (NO)

3. Observe the 'pain' and 'the other person's reaction' at that moment realistically

4. Confirm that 'Oh, I didn't die' and correct your interpretation

5. Correct it and fire the next shot

Repeat this loop 100 times.

Don't you think this is the very cycle of content creation?

You can never build 'public resilience' in posting by just groaning in front of your desk.

Even if you psych yourself up by saying, 'Alright, I won't get hurt today!', if criticism actually comes, you'll melt in a second (true story).

Resilience can only be built through the accumulation of real experiences of 'putting it out there, getting rejected, and confirming that the world didn't end anyway'.

The author spent 100 days rewiring the bug in their brain from 'rejection equals death' to 'rejection is just a reaction'.

It is wonderful that we can now use AI to create article outlines in 10 minutes.

But our own mental state hasn't caught up with that 'speed'.

Because we can write faster, the number of times we post has increased, and proportionally, the 'number of times we are ignored' and the 'risk of being denied' have also increased.

That is precisely why, just as much as honing your skills, you need 'public strength training'.

Instead of using 'whether it goes viral' as your benchmark, give yourself credit for 'taking on the risk of being rejected once again today'.

Just by having that stance, the probability of your operations coming to a halt will drop significantly.

You break when you miss because you try to aim for the perfect answer on the first shot.

If you think of it as 'practice for missing' from the start, it turns into nothing more than data collection.

This shift in perspective is the 'safety device' that allows people like us, who tire easily, to continue posting for a long time.

This book resonates with creators because it doesn't rely on willpower, but instead changes how we process reactions.

The reason this book is supported around the world, especially by creators and those who share content.

I believe it's because this book doesn't just pat you on the back and say 'be brave!', but rather acts as a 'guide to hacking the structure of rejection'.

Many mental health books tend to escape into moral arguments like

'try not to care'
or 'try to think positively'.

But for those of us with ADHD, telling us 'don't worry about it' is as impossible as telling us to 'stop breathing' (lol).

If something bothers you, it bothers you. If it hurts, it hurts.

The brilliance of this book lies in the fact that it accepts that 'pain' as a premise and then presents 'concrete behavioral patterns to follow after being rejected'.

For example, in the author's experiments, instead of running away immediately when rejected, he asks this question:

'Why is it a no?'

Then the other person starts to explain the specific reasons, such as 'Well, we don't have the budget right now' or 'That's not something I have the authority to decide'.

In this moment, the rejection transforms from an 'emotional attack' into a 'logical challenge'.

Let's translate this into our own content creation and operations.

• Your note isn't being read (rejection in the form of no response): Before lamenting that you 'lack talent,' analyze 'why it wasn't read.' Was the title weak? Was the flow broken? Was the posting time bad?

• Your proposal isn't accepted: Before feeling down that you were 'disliked,' ask for feedback on 'which conditions didn't match.' Was it the budget, the timing, or a misalignment in direction?

What you're doing here is 'improvement'.

However, as long as you perceive rejection as a 'denial of your personality,' your brain freezes, and you cannot transition to this phase of 'improvement'.

What this book teaches is how to turn a 'NO' not into the end of a conversation, but into the beginning of data.

When you keep posting, you inevitably start looking for the 'correct answer'.

'If I write it this way, it will grow,' 'If I use this template, it will sell'

However, reality isn't that simple.

No matter how much you use AI to write what you think is a perfect article, there are times when it just doesn't resonate.

At those times, what we need isn't 'the strength not to get hurt,' but 'the composure to collect the reasons why it didn't resonate without blaming ourselves.'

When you read this book, there will be moments when rejection starts to look like a 'door' rather than a 'wall.'

Even if you are turned down once, you can just look for another entrance.

If you change your angle, the same content might be accepted.

If you change your medium, you might be welcomed with enthusiasm.

When you become someone who 'turns rejection into material for improvement,' posting changes from a 'gamble' into an 'experiment.'

Once that happens, it becomes structurally impossible for you to 'stop updating because you're afraid of failure.'

The experiments in this book might seem lower-risk than actual posting environments.

Now, I've been praising this book highly, but I'll also write down some points where I think you need to be careful, from a fair perspective.

Because for us practitioners, it's dangerous to take the book's content at face value (sweat).

The experiments in this book are strictly 'challenges the author is doing personally.'

Even if you make an unreasonable request to a stranger and get rejected, at worst, it's just 'a momentary embarrassment.'

As for actual harm, it's at most 'being looked at strangely.'

But the reality of posting and the work environments we live in are a bit more raw, aren't they?

• Trust risk: If you keep posting strange things, you might lose your professional credibility.

• Track record risk: If you release a product you poured your heart into and it gets ignored, the effort of the past few months becomes 'zero' in terms of numbers.

• Revenue risk: If your proposal isn't accepted, you can't pay next month's rent (a true story that's not funny).

• Relationship risk: If rumors spread in a small industry that you are 'difficult to deal with,' the work will stop coming.

Rejection in the context of content creation often comes with this kind of economic and social 'pain'.

Therefore, if you read this book and go to the extreme of thinking, 'Alright, I'm going to post crazy things every day starting tomorrow!', you will likely get seriously hurt (bitter laugh).

There is probably no one in this world who can truly say, 'I don't care if I'm rejected!'

Especially for those of us who put our names out there and sell our own ideas, rejection is always a 'pain that cuts to the bone'.

Therefore, if you read this book as a 'practical guide you can use as-is,' I think it is a perfectly valid reaction for some to have a cold perspective, thinking, 'No, no, experiments and reality are different.'

However, I don't think that is the true value of this book.

It lies in the part much earlier, before the complex entanglements of real-world interests come into play.

The value lies in the fact that it shows us a prototype (archetype) of how to correct 'our brain's initial reaction to rejection'.point is where the value lies.

The risks of reality are indeed heavy.

But what if we are inflating the 'weight of fear' on our own, even more than the 'weight of the risk'?

What if we are blowing up 'a single piece of criticism' into a 'total rejection of our life' and becoming unable to move?

That is a design flaw.

You don't need to copy the experiments in this book exactly as they are.

However, the process by which the author accepted the 'worst-case scenario' while still restructuring their cognition should provide powerful hints for us to 'survive without breaking' in the harsh reality of the field.

Practice with 'light rejection' so that when 'heavy rejection' comes, you can at least avoid a fatal wound.

I believe the healthiest and most practical way to read this book is to view it as a guidebook for 'evacuation drills' for that purpose.

Who it hits home for | This book is for people who tend to turn reactions to their posts into a 'total rejection of themselves'.

There are people who will read this book while trembling, thinking, 'Oh, this is about me.'

Those are the people who 'spend the few hours after hitting the publish button with a churning stomach'.

Especially for types like us who have ADHD tendencies or are more sensitive than the average person.

In technical terms, there is a concept called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), but regardless, the initial damage taken from 'negation' or 'being ignored' by others is an order of magnitude higher than it is for the average person.

For example, do you recognize any of these states?

• Immediately after posting, you check for 'likes' or notifications every minute.

• When the numbers don't grow, you immediately enter full self-denial mode, thinking, 'I knew my content had no value.'

• If even one critical comment arrives, the 100 praises you received before are blown away, and you end up staying in bed for the day (tears).

• You worry for hours, thinking, 'If I write this, won't people think I'm trying too hard?' and end up moving it back to drafts.

For people like this, posting has become a 'trial' rather than 'expression'.

It is as if you are asking for a judgment from a jury named followers and numbers every single time, in response to the question, 'Do you have the right to exist in this society?'

To put it mildly, this is hell (sweat).

If you had to stand in that 'courtroom' every day, it's no wonder your operations would come to a halt.

As humans, we cannot keep running while wearing ourselves down to that extent.

No matter how much you 'streamline' using AI, as long as this high mental cost remains a design flaw, you will eventually run out of gas.

That is exactly why this book is necessary.

This book is not for the strong who already say, 'I'm fine with whatever people say (smug face).'

Rather, it is a book for sensitive practitioners who wish to convey something, even though they are terrified of putting it out there.

For those who already treat massive trial-and-error as the norm and can process numbers simply as 'game scores,' this book might be a bit boring.

But if you have ever had the experience of being 'terrified to post' while trying to keep up your output.

If you have ever stared at a screen with no response and doubted your own worth as a person.

The way this author spends 100 days unraveling the 'simple circumstances' behind the word 'NO' will surely help break the curse of 'rejection equals death' that has become stuck in your brain, little by little.

What we need is not to become stronger.

Do not use the phenomenon of 'it didn't resonate' as a weapon to attack yourself.

The goal is to steal the 'design of how to receive' from this book for that very purpose.

This book is not about 'aggressive posting techniques,' but rather 'how not to break after you've put yourself out there.'

I need to clear up one important 'misunderstanding' here.

If there are people who are avoiding this book because they think the title implies it's about 'becoming a pushy salesperson who keeps pestering even after being rejected,' that would be a huge waste.

It is true that in his experiments, the author takes the action of 'asking for the reason and re-negotiating even after being rejected once.'

But if you're wondering if this means applying that to SNS or note posts by saying 'Talk back even if you're criticized!' or 'Keep sending DMs persistently until you're read!', that is completely wrong.

The essence of this book is not in pushiness (push), but in the 'distance between yourself and the results you produce.'

Many creators think of their content as their 'alter ego' too much.

That is why when their content is rejected, they feel as if they themselves have been slashed.

This adhesion of 'self = content' is exactly what causes us to break.

What this book teaches is a 'healthy insensitivity' to peel away that adhesion.

• Pushiness: Ignoring the other party's 'NO' and forcing your own agenda through.

• Public resilience: Accepting the other party's 'NO' and then thinking about your next move while separating it from your own value.

Do you see the difference? (It's difficult, though)

What we need to continue posting is not to be insensitively unpleasant to others.

Even if the result of what you published isn't what you expected, it's about being able to say, 'Oh, the conditions just didn't match this time,' and placing that result on a shelf separate from the evaluation of your personality..

Analyzing 'why it didn't work' is not for the purpose of blaming yourself.

It is the work of gathering valuable material to redesign it into a 'form that reaches more people with less burden' next time.

If you read this book thinking it's about 'aggressive sales tactics,' you will probably fail.

However, if you read this thinking of it as a 'safety device to keep yourself from breaking after you put something out there,' there is no more reassuring ally.

Use AI to generate text and manage your social media operations.

Incorporate the conviction that 'no matter the result, I am okay' into that entire process.

What this book aims for is an evolution into such an 'unbreakable operator'.

If a content creator uses this book, it is easier to put into practice by breaking it down into 'training to release small things and observe the reactions'.

So, how exactly should we apply this book to our 'operational design'?

You don't need to imitate the author by 'asking a stranger to lend you 100 dollars.' Actually, please don't (laughs).

If we content creators are going to 'deploy' this book in practice, I recommend the following three steps.

1. Lower the 'hurdle of rejection' to the absolute limit

If you suddenly put out a '10,000-character article you poured your heart into' and it gets ignored, the damage will be too great and you won't be able to recover (tears).

First, try consciously throwing out short posts or experimental projects at a level where you think, 'This probably won't be read by anyone.'

Practice pressing the publish button with the premise of intentionally 'being ignored'.

'Oh, I was ignored as expected. Yes, experiment successful!'

By having this 'personal point-scoring system,' you will gradually numb the fear of rejection in your brain.

2. Record reactions (or lack thereof) as 'data'

When the numbers are bad, don't end it as a 'sad event'.

It's also good to analyze 'why it didn't reach anyone' together with AI.

'Maybe this title was off from the target's worries.'

'Maybe everyone was too busy to open Note at this time.'

By doing that, you translate emotional words into 'physical factors'.

By repeating this, rejection will change from an 'attack' to 'just feedback'.

3. Have options ready after a 'NO'

When an article isn't read, instead of leaving it as is and calling it a 'loss,' create a design to reuse it from a different angle.

• Change the title and try sharing it again

• Add an illustration and place it on a different platform

• Break down the content and try making it into a short X (formerly Twitter) post

Just as the author asks 'Why is it no good?' in this book, we too should try changing how we present our content by asking, 'How can I get this across next time?'

Stop the one-off operation of 'posting once and being done with it,' and instead design a cycle of 'continuing to change the form while watching the reactions'.

This book is not a book for increasing the 'success rate' of our posts.

It is something much more important: a 'psychological design for not stopping the frequency of your public posts'.

Just reading it as an interesting personal story and leaving it at that is a waste of a treasure.

Incorporate a mechanism into your own operational flow of 'how to not fear rejection and turn reactions into material'.

Only after you have internalized it to that extent will this book become a powerful foundation for your 'unbreakable way of working'.

Difference from similar books | Before discussing 'how to grow,' this book deals with the 'foundation for enduring reactions and continuing to post'

The world is overflowing with books about posting, social media, and content creation, isn't it?

As a writer, I also find myself reaching for them.

'How to increase your followers by 10,000 in one month'

'Writing techniques that capture the reader's heart'

'The secrets of sales writing that sells'

…They are all attractive.

But honestly, how many people have actually managed to get their operations running after reading books on 'how to grow' or 'how to write'? (Sweat)

In fact, many how-to books hide a 'huge assumption'.

That assumption is: 'You can keep pressing the publish button without hesitation'.

But for people like us, that is the highest hurdle of all.

No matter how much you know about 'how to write viral content,' if your fingers tremble because you're afraid of the reaction after you post, that know-how is a treasure going to waste.

No matter how much you learn about 'efficient operation methods,' if you get discouraged and spend a week in bed after being ignored once, your operations won't get anywhere (tears).

That is where this '100-Day Plan to Overcome the Fear of Rejection' is decisively different from other 'publishing technique' books.

This book deals only with the 'psychological foundation for continuing to post,' which comes even before the 'techniques for growth'.

• Typical how-to books: Teach you 'how to achieve a perfect score'

• This book (by Jia Jiang): Teaches you 'how to step up to the plate again tomorrow even if you get a zero-point result'

Isn't that difference absolutely massive?

When building a house, no matter how luxurious the wallpaper (writing techniques) or state-of-the-art equipment (AI tools) you have, if the ground (mental foundation) is shaky, the house will collapse from a minor earthquake (poor reaction).

The part we need to design first is this 'foundation'.

Turning the anxiety of 'what if it doesn't get read' into the conviction that 'even if it isn't read, I won't be broken'.

Acquiring the 'public resilience' to do that.

Even in our goal of using AI to keep posting with minimal effort, this 'foundation' is essential.

No matter how much AI works for us 24/7, if we humans stop and say, 'I'm afraid of the reaction, so I can't release the generated article,' then it's all over (true story).

Before learning techniques to grow, first design a 'self that doesn't stop'.

This book is a volume that sheds light on that 'most important issue that comes before know-how'.

If you watch the author's own TED Talk, you can clearly see that this book was not a 'project' but an 'attempt to re-accept the fear of going public'.

Reading this far, some of you might be thinking, 'This sounds interesting, but isn't this just a special project done by an American author?' (laughs).

Admittedly, 'ordering Olympic-shaped donuts at a donut shop' does sound like a typical YouTube stunt.

However, if you feel that way, I really want you to watch the author's own TED Talk.

Even the episodes depicted humorously in the book convey the 'trembling fear' behind them when you see him speaking on stage.

He originally aimed to be an entrepreneur.

But every time he proposed something or sought investment, he was so afraid of being rejected that he kept missing opportunities.

To change himself, he literally started this 100-day challenge at the risk of his own life.

Watching this talk, you realize that he wasn't just looking for 'interesting material,' but was struggling and fighting to free himself from the fear that was cursing his life as he did it.

For creators, this 'fear of putting things out there' and 'sensitivity to rejection' should never be something that feels like someone else's problem.

The fear that you might be rejected by someone on the other side of the screen whose face you can't even see.

It can so easily crush our desire to express ourselves.

That is exactly why it is worth engaging with the author's own words.

'Oh, this person was trembling just like us.'

'Even so, there was a different view waiting after taking that first step.'

Doesn't just feeling that make the weight of your own 'publish' button feel a little lighter? (It did for me.)

If you are reading this book in the context of content creation or posting, this TED Talk is the perfect 'supplementary material.'

Not just as 'know-how,' but as a look at how one practitioner overcame the greatest burden of 'fear' and redesigned himself.

Please, try to experience that raw, vivid temperature for yourself.

Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection (TED Talk)

Even if you don't have time to read the book, just watching this 15-minute talk should quietly, but surely, start to change your own 'way of thinking about going public.'

We don't need to become strong.

Simply being able to objectively observe your own fear—thinking, 'Ah, I'm feeling scared right now'—will significantly improve the precision of your design.

As a first step toward that, I truly recommend this video.

Summary | This book is not about how to succeed in posting, but about how to keep posting even when you're afraid of the reaction.

Now, I've talked for a long time, but let me summarize the function of this book one more time from the perspective of 'our operational design'.

Let me be honest.

Just because you read this book doesn't mean your note will suddenly get 10,000 views starting tomorrow.

It doesn't mean AI will automatically mass-produce magical viral articles for you either.

However, this book removes the most terrifying 'mental brake' we face when continuing to post.

'If what I put out is ignored, my value decreases.'

'If I am rejected, I will never be able to recover.'

'It is embarrassing to put out something that isn't perfect.'

These are the curses of 'fear of rejection' deeply engraved in our brains.

As long as this exists, no matter how excellent the tools you use or how efficient the schedule you create, your operations will eventually stop.

This is because,'putting things out' itself has become a 'life-draining task' for us.

What this book teaches is how to change that 'meaning'.

A poor reaction is not because you are bad.

Being told 'NO' does not mean you have been rejected by the world.

It is merely 'data at the current moment'.

When you gain this perspective, posting changes from a 'penance of selling yourself' into an 'experiment to verify hypotheses'.

If you put something out once and it doesn't work, you can just change your approach.

If the target audience was wrong, you can just change the platform.

The key is to keep cycling through that 'trial and error' process calmly while minimizing the burden.

This is the true nature of the 'design for working without breaking' that we are aiming for.

What matters in posting is not getting a perfect score every single time.

Even if you get a '0' or '30' point result, the goal is to not mistake it for a 'rejection of your character,' but to grin and put out your next '35' point attempt.

That 'audacity to keep stepping up to the plate' is what will ultimately carry us far.

For people like us who get tired easily and tend to overthink, this world can sometimes feel a little too full of 'rejection.'

If you open social media, you're ranked by numbers, and if you step outside, you have to stay on guard to make sure you don't fall outside the frame of 'normal.'

But precisely because we are like that, there are words we can convey and people we can save.

To do that, our top priority must be to ensure that we ourselves 'do not break.'

You don't have to force yourself to work hard to acquire a heart of steel.

It's enough to just acknowledge your state, saying, 'Oh, I'm afraid of rejection right now, so I've stopped.'

And I would be happy if you could just remember an episode from this book and think, 'Well, even if I get rejected, it's not like I'll die.'

There is no need to rush your actions.

If you absolutely cannot press the publish button, it's fine to just close it as a draft today.

Those who can continue will continue, and those who cannot move right now should not force themselves to continue.

I believe both of those are 'correct' answers.

However, if you think, 'Even so, I want to take just one step forward.'

At that time, please use this book as 'psychological training wheels' and start practicing with the smallest, safest 'rejection' possible.

I, too, am still in the process of wavering.

There are days when I stumble over my order at a cafe and feel down (tears),

but even so, I live by adjusting my own design, thinking, 'I'll try saying it a bit louder next time.'

Together, within a reasonable range, let's create our own 'way of keeping things moving.'

Summary of Key Points

• Rejection is not a 'rejection of character' but an 'overlap of external conditions': Know that a poor reaction is just a 'phenomenon' unrelated to your worth.

• Incorporate 'public muscle training' into your daily life: Don't aim for perfection; keep putting things out in small ways as 'practice for being ignored.'

• Turn 'NO' into the start of data: Calmly analyze the reason for the lack of reaction and collect it as material for your next design.

• Separate yourself from your content: Have a 'safety device' that ensures your own worth is not diminished by even a millimeter, no matter the result.

• You don't have to decide right now: If you're scared, it's okay to stop. Just keep a 'form that allows you to restart' ready.

If you want to follow the full picture of the 100-day challenge and detailed episodes, I think it's easier to start with the book version.

"The 100-Day Plan to Overcome the Fear of Being Rejected"

You don't have to read it if you don't want to.

Only pick it up if you intuitively feel, 'I need this "public resilience" right now.'

Editor's Note

After finishing this article, I went to that cafe again.

I headed to the register determined to 'order without stumbling this time...!', but the clerk's face looked angry, and I got flustered and made a mysterious order of 'an iced coffee, hot.'

I counted the clerk's exquisite look of rejection—a '...huh?'—in my heart as, 'Alright, I was rejected once today. Experiment successful!'

...Yeah, I feel like I've grown a slightly thicker skin, after all.

Sorry, I exaggerated again. I was home all day today (lol).

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