Why is jealousy at work so troublesome?

Among the emotions that arise in the workplace,
I believe jealousy is one of the most difficult to handle and the most destructive.

Admiration and having goals are healthy.
The feeling of 'I want to be like that' or 'I want to reach that level' moves people forward.

On the other hand, jealousy produces nothing.
Rather, it definitely destroys something.

Moreover, jealousy at work is, above all,cleverly hidden.
This is because neither the person themselves nor those around them want to admit it is 'jealousy'.

As a result,
・Things don't click for some reason
・There is a sense of discomfort, though the reason cannot be explained
・Criticism emerges that misses the point

Only these phenomena remain,
and 'what the problem is' becomes invisible.

Jealousy appears disguised as logic

What makes jealousy at work troublesome is
the fact that it does not emerge as raw emotion.

'That approach is wrong'
'That is not essential'
'Is that appropriate for the organization?'

Even when looking at client companies,
such remarks and nuances can appear here and there.

At first glance, it appears cloaked in words that sound logical.
However, if the underlying motive is jealousy,
the logic will inevitably be distorted somewhere.

People sense that distortion at a level before language.

Before people are moved by logic,
they are creatures that first feel the 'atmosphere,' 'temperature,' and 'friction'.

Before considering whether someone is a good person or whether they are right,
the sense of discomfort that 'something is off' is surprisingly accurate.

Jealousy definitely makes your own capacity smaller

The moment you are trapped by jealousy,
your perspective narrows all at once.

・You become concerned about the success of others
・You become concerned about the difference in evaluations
・You become concerned about how you are perceived

As a result, your criteria for judgment shift from a 'self-centered' axis to an 'other-centered' axis.

This is fatal in work.

That is why I
'take a step back and look at things from a bird's-eye view when I feel jealousy'
and am strongly conscious of that.

In situations where most people feel jealousy,
they don't want to admit it, so it cannot surface.

However, you shouldget out of that emotion as soon as possible.
Leaving it alone or letting it fester will not lead to anything good.

I also feel jealousy

To avoid any misunderstanding,
I am not a person who has zero jealousy.

However, there is one clear tendency.

That is,
towards "people I can never hope to match"
or "people who have achieved overwhelming results,"
jealousy is easily born.

On the other hand,
・A little bit above
・One step ahead
・Half a step ahead

For people in these positions,
I feel almost no jealousy.

Because those people become
subjects for modeling.

"Oh, so this is how I should do it"
"At this distance, it seems reproducible"

I see them not as jealousy, but as a blueprint.
I can also use the parts I feel are bad as a negative example.

However, sometimes, I am treated poorly

In reality,
there are times when I am not acknowledged
by those who are one step ahead.

Depending on the case,
I may even be treated rudely.

But, I think, so what?

The moment you convert that into resentment or backlash,
your own capacity shrinks again.

Rather,
being able to warmly embrace even that person
is just right.

Capacity is not something that expands through winning or losing.
It expands through how you accept things.

Things to point out and things to let slide

Of course,
there is no need to turn a blind eye
to serious problems or clear trouble.

You should make suggestions for improvement.

However, if it is a complaint stemming from jealousy, it will inevitably come across to those around you as something off.

This is because jealousy is not logical.

Even if it sounds like a valid argument, if the motive is distorted, it will not be persuasive.

Directing questions at yourself

Finally, just one thing.

Is the discomfort you are feeling right now truly a "problem"? Or is it "jealousy"?

I would like you to ask yourself this once.

People are animals before they are human. You cannot eliminate emotions entirely.

That is precisely why whether or not you can view things from a bird's-eye perspective without being swallowed by your emotions matters.

I believe that is the true growth line in work.