It takes a little courage, but here is what I want to share about "knowing yourself" | Happy Writing Marathon #56

"What is something you want to share, even if it takes a little courage?"

When I saw this prompt, I thought,
"Oh, maybe I can write about it now."

Today, I am going to write about something I have been hesitant to share for a long time😌

People who love fortune-telling.
People who keep checking their MBTI.
People who, when they see an article about self-analysis, end up reading it to the very end.

I don't want to deny those feelings.

In fact, I think it is very natural.

When people are struggling, they want a reason.

Feeling a bit uneasy.
Relationships not going well.
Worrying about the same things for some reason.

At times like that,

"You are this kind of person"

receiving words like that can bring a little peace of mind.

It is because it feels like someone has helped you find the contours of yourself.

I believe that feeling is genuine.

That is why I do not deny fortune-telling or MBTI.
(Actually, I love them🥰)

But as a psychologist, there is one thing I feel.

What you see in fortune-telling or personality tests is
"yourself fitted into a frame."

However, what you might really want to know is
the part of you that doesn't quite fit into that frame.

Why did those words bring you peace?
Why were you curious about that result?
Why did that part stick with you?

In those questions, there is not a diagnostic result, but
your own story.

Those who support others are the ones who tend to put themselves last

I will summon the courage to say one more thing.

Doctors, nurses, pharmacists, public health nurses, and midwives.
Caregivers, consultation support specialists, and social workers.
Childcare workers, teachers, and school counselors.
Psychologists and counselors.

The more you work in a profession that supports others,
the more you might be putting your own heart on the back burner.

People who work in support roles
are not ignoring their own feelings.

On the contrary, every day,
you work while noticing the expressions, tone of voice,
and unspoken signs of others.

You are very sensitive to changes in others.

However,
using your emotions for others is a bit different from
receiving your own emotions for yourself.

"Since I am the one supporting right now"

"I have to hold it together in this situation"

"I should make it look like I'm okay"

In ways like these,
there are times when you are forced by necessity to set your own feelings aside.

That is not a bad thing.

It is also a necessary strength to protect the workplace.

However, when that time becomes prolonged,
your own true feelings can sometimes become harder to see.

I received these words fromHONO-san, who works as a pharmacist.

I intended to give, but I received.

When I read these words,
my heart felt warm and touched.

Supporters
always use their strength for someone else.

But in reality,
I think it is also necessary to take time to pause for yourself.

Even when used by a psychologist, it leads to self-understanding

In fact, another psychologist,Furiko-san,also used the "Words and Heart Observation Report Creation Kit."

I received these words from Furiko-san.

What made me happy was,
not just being told, "It's a good tool."

The time spent answering the questions itself becomes self-understanding.
That was what I was glad she felt.

Psychologists sometimes treat the emotions and reactions that occur during an interview
as clues to understanding the other person.

We also observe the movements of the heart that arise within a relationship,
such as projection or projective identification.

However,
handling emotions in a clinical setting is a little different from receiving emotions for one's own sake.

Taking the emotions we have used to understand someone else,
and this time, listening to them for ourselves.

There, too,
I believe there is a time for self-understanding.

*I plan to write a separate article introducing Furiko-san.
Stay tuned! 🥰💓

Perhaps people who write notes also need time to know themselves

And there is one more thing,
a quote I really want to introduce in this context.

There were these words in Manatsu-chan's article.

When I read these words,
I felt a deep sense of empathy.

When I read Manatsu-chan's writing,
I feel that she is someone who observes herself very well.

It is not that she is hiding her emotions.

Rather, she puts her feelings into words quite frankly.

But she is not just lashing out with her emotions,
she shapes them in a way that is easy for the reader to receive.

What she was hurt by.
What she was angry about.
What she wanted to cherish.
Where she can turn things into laughter.

I think her writing shows someone who knows well
how to handle themselves in that way.

That is why the reader is not left behind.

Even though it is "Manatsu-chan's story,"
it makes me want to think about myself while reading it.

I think that is something that can only be done because the creator knows themselves well.

On note,
there are many people sharing based on their own experiences.

Past worries.
Things they have overcome.
Realizations they can only put into words now.

Those experiences can be useful to someone.

And beyond that, forms of delivering one's experience as value,
such as paid articles or memberships, can emerge.

That is precisely why,
I think it is necessary to have the perspective of refining one's experiences into words that reach the reader,
rather than letting them end as "events only within oneself."

Knowing yourself
is not just for your own sake.

I think it also becomes a foundation for delivering your own words
to the reader more kindly and more accurately.

I wonder how much people know about themselves.

Even those who like fortune-telling and MBTI.

Even those who work in jobs that support others.

There are also people who put their experiences into words on note.

Everyone might be approaching "knowing yourself" from slightly different entry points.
Perhaps we are all getting closer to it.

However, when you suddenly stop and pause,
a question like this might come to mind.

How much do people really know about themselves?

What are you easily hurt by?
When do you push yourself too hard?
What kind of words make you feel at ease?
What are you trying to protect by working so hard?

Perhaps there are actually many things we cannot explain.

Because we are with ourselves every day,
we feel like we know ourselves well.

But precisely because we are so close,
there are things that are hard to see.

That is exactly why,
I think it is necessary to take a moment to stop,
and take the time to pick up your own words.

For that purpose, I created this app.

The "Words and Heart Observation Report Creation Kit" is
not meant to diagnose you.

It is not meant to find the correct answer either.

I think of this app as a tool
for creating your own little
instruction manual for your heart
to call your own.

When do you
feel distressed?
What kind of words encourage you?
What do you value?
In what situations do you tend to push yourself too hard?

While answering the questions,
you will gradually start to see your own patterns.

By the time you finish reading,

"I realized I valued these things."

"I feel at ease in these kinds of situations."

"I had these strengths all along."

In that way,
you might start to see how to handle your own heart a little better.

Not only will you see the reasons for your pain,
but you will also see the conditions for feeling at ease and hints for moving forward.

I believe that becomes
your own little
instruction manual for your heart
.

It is okay if things do not change drastically.

It is okay if you do not find the answer right away.

But, in a landscape where you only blamed yourself,
you gain a slightly different perspective.

That outlook
can sometimes make it easier to choose your next step.

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Those who have tried to know themselves through fortune-telling or personality tests.

Those who, in jobs supporting others,

have put their own voices on the back burner.

Those who, while writing on note,

want to share their own words more.

If right now,

"I would like to know a little more about myself too"

is what you thought.

This report might

be the first step

toward creating your own personal user manual.

Not to force any changes,

but first, to understand yourself.

Using your own words,

why not take some time to look at yourself?

By the way, as a little bonus 😌💞

based on your date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth,

I have also prepared

a "fortune-telling style self-analysis prompt."

I tried it myself before, and

I couldn't help but think,

"This might be accurate."

There were parts that resonated with me.

As an entry point to look at yourself while having fun,

please feel free to take a look at this as well.

If you read the results and

"It's spot on!"

if you think that,

Please let me know by clicking the like button or leaving a comment 😊

However, what matters is what comes after that.

"Why did I react to those words?"

"Why did I feel like it was accurate?"

If you look into that,

your self-understanding will deepen a little more.

Instead of just ending with fortune-telling,

I hope you can use your own words,

to create your very own user manual for your heart ✨

Related Articles

While writing this article, I would like to introduce some articles that I remembered and others by people who have been very helpful to me.

🌿 Furiko-san

Furiko-san, a psychologist whose feedback I quoted in this article as well.

It is a wonderful article that carefully examines the heart behind the words.

💗 HONO-san

HONO-san, who delivers warm words while working as a pharmacist.

The comment I introduced this time has also become precious to me.

🍌 Hank-san

Hank-san, who always entertains us with wonderful videos 🎥

I am also supporting you from the sidelines.

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If you read this article and feel like you want to support me, please take a look.

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