Is it really true that 'you shouldn't feel this way'?

Every event in life is a world reflected by your own heart.

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"You shouldn't get angry."

"You shouldn't cry."

"You shouldn't be sad about something like that."

When did we

start labeling

emotions as

"good" or "bad"?

For a long time,

"There are emotions I shouldn't feel."

I lived my life thinking that.

But,

after a certain event,

that perception changed significantly.

🌱 A childhood wanting to save my mother

When I was a child,

I grew up often seeing my mother crying and screaming.

I

was thinking, 'How can I save my mother?'

That is what I was thinking.

As a child, I thought about it with all my might,

listened to her,

encouraged her,

and even shared my own answers with her.

But,

my mother did not change.

Even if she seemed to agree,

saying, 'That's right,'

for a moment,

the next day,

she would return to the same suffering again.

At the time,

I wondered why that was.

Looking back now,

perhaps my mother didn't want answers,

but rather a place where she could safely pour out her pain.

That is something I can only think now,

As a child, I didn't understand.

🌿 I put a lid on my emotions.

So as not to trouble my mother any further.

So as not to cause her worry.

I,

my sadness,

my anger,

and my loneliness,

gradually stopped feeling them.

I thought that putting a lid on my emotions,

was a form of kindness.

But,

in reality, it was different.

Sad.

Painful.

Scary.

While I was trying not to feel those kinds of emotions,

deep inside my heart,

I just want to escape from here.

I had even started to harbor thoughts like that.

Of course,

at that time,

I didn't even realize that about myself.

🌸 The discomfort I noticed after my daughter was born

I grew up,

and my daughter was born.

I loved children.

So,

I thought that when my daughter was born,

I would surely be filled with happiness.

But,

it was different.

Happy.

Cute.

Precious.

Those kinds of feelings,

didn't well up as much as I had expected.

Of course,

she was precious to me.

I also wanted to protect her.

However,

my heart wouldn't move.

At that moment,

I realized it for the first time.

'Oh... I have become unable to feel my own emotions.'

I thought.

🌱 It wasn't just sadness that I was trying not to feel.

I,

intended to lock away only my sadness.

But,

emotions cannot be separated like that.

When you put a lid on sadness,

joy also diminishes.

When you suppress anger,

excitement also becomes harder to feel.

When you endure loneliness,

peace of mind also drifts away.

Emotions,

were all connected.

🌿 Emotions are not the bad guys

I used to think,

I shouldn't get angry.

I shouldn't cry.

I shouldn't complain.

That is what I believed.

But now,

it is a little different.

Emotions,

are not the bad guys.

Your heart,

is telling you, 'There is something I actually wanted to cherish.'

It might be,

an important message.

Behind your anger,

there might be sadness.

Behind your sadness,

there might be a feeling you wanted to cherish.

Instead of trying to get rid of your emotions,

try listening to what they are saying.

From there,

I believe this is where true self-dialogue begins.

🌸 Conclusion

So today, too,

I ask myself.

'Is it really true that I shouldn't feel this way?'

It is okay to be angry.

It is okay to cry.

It is okay to be sad.

It is okay to be jealous.

You do not need to lash out at anyone

with those feelings.

But,

you do not have to pretend you didn't feel them.

Emotions

were not born to trouble you.

They might be an important message

'There is something I actually wanted to cherish.'

that your heart is telling you,

an important message indeed.

That is why I,

I don't mean to tell you the answer.

'Is that really true?'

Through this question,

I want to create a society where each person,

can re-examine their own perceptions.

Not someone else's correct answer,

but increasing the number of people who can live as themselves.I want to increase the number of people who can live as themselves.

That is my wish.

Thank you for reading today as well,

thank you very much🌿

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At times like that,

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🌿 Recommended reading

📖 “Is it really true that ‘I’m no good’?”

📖 “Is it really true that it’s important to live in the ‘here and now’?”

📖 “Is it really true that there is a correct answer for everything?”

🏷 The 'Is it really true?' series

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we take for granted,

asking 'Is it really true?',

we provide time for you to return to your true self.

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