"Workplace relationships are tough." Is that really true?

"Workplace relationships are tough."

Have you ever felt that way?

Just heading to the office in the morning makes me feel depressed.

I feel nervous just seeing my boss's face.

I worry about a single word from a colleague and keep remembering it even after I get home.

If you are spending your days like that right now,

today, through my own experience, I would like to share just one question with you.

"Is that really true?"

"I am no good."

I used to work in public relations for a housekeeping service company.

My boss at the time was a former bank salesperson.

He was very strict about work and would sometimes get so angry his face turned bright red.

Our ways of working and thinking were different, as I preferred free-thinking approaches.

Moreover, I had changed jobs shortly after giving birth to my second child.

Perhaps due to hormonal imbalances, my head felt foggy, and I was making more typos and careless mistakes.

Every time I was scolded, I would think,

"I really am no good."

"I have to become someone who can do things better."

More than going to the workplace,

perhaps the most painful thing was continuing to blame myself.

The view I saw after changing jobs

After that, through another company, I ended up working in public relations for a food truck platform.

There, I was in charge of handling media inquiries from TV stations and newspapers.

Coordinating interview schedules,

compiling necessary information,

and making arrangements for the day.

As I continued doing that kind of work,

"This is the smoothest interview I've ever had."

"You were a huge help."

I started hearing words like that more often.

I was surprised.

"Huh?"

"Was I not a useless person after all?"

It was the same me

But, when I think about it, it's only natural.

The me who worked at the housekeeping agency,

and the me who worked at the food truck company,

are the same me.

I'm still as clumsy as ever.

I still make typos and omissions (laughs).

There are things I am not good at.

However,

Thinking about the steps involved.

Preparing things so that others can work easily.

Looking at the big picture and making adjustments.

I have always been good at those things.

What changed was not my ability.

It was how I felt about myself.It was.

Now, I can see my boss a little differently.

At the time,

"Why do they have to check every little detail?"

That is what I thought.

Even the emails I sent,

they checked almost all of them.

It felt stifling,

and I felt like I wasn't trusted.

But looking back now,

they were representing the company,

taking responsibility for their subordinates' work,

and if there was a failure, it would be their responsibility too.

I think that was the position I was in.

You must have been a person with a very strong sense of responsibility.

Of course,

it doesn't change the fact that I was suffering at the time.

But now,

"My boss was the problem."

I feel like that doesn't tell the whole story.

"Is that really true?"

Back then,

I only looked at the things I wasn't good at.

I made a mistake.

Therefore, I am no good.

I was scolded.

Therefore, I have no value.

That is how I felt.

But now, I would ask myself.

"Is that really true?"

It is a fact that I made a mistake.

But,

"Does that mean I am a worthless person?"

Was that really a fact?

And,

"My boss is the problem."

Was that really all there was to it?

What I finally realized

For a long time, I thought,

I have to try harder.

I have to do better.

That is what I thought.

But now I think,

People have,

things they are good at.

And things they are not good at.

Having both of those is what makes a person.

I,

was not lacking anything.

I was just,

looking only at the parts where I was lacking.

And,

my boss, too,

Perhaps I was just doing the best I could from my own perspective.

When I was able to think that way,

the feeling of blaming others,

and the feeling of blaming myself,

gradually began to fade.

The fear and anxiety,

also gradually began to shrink.

The scenery I saw in the past,

and the scenery I see now,

are slightly different, even for the same events.

It is not because the events changed,

but because the way I feel has changed.

Thinking about it now,

perhaps there was no lack from the very beginning.

"Workplace relationships are painful."

Of course,

there are some workplaces where you really should change your environment.

Therefore,

"You should just change your way of thinking."

That is not what I want to say.

However,

if right now,

you feel that your workplace relationships are tough,

just once,

please ask yourself.

"Is that really true?"

That question is,

not to blame the other person,

nor to blame yourself.

How do I really feel?

It is a question,

to re-examine how you feel.

Lastly,

I,

do not want to teach you the answer.

Simply,

"Is that really true?"

through this question,

rather than someone else's correct answer,

I want to increase the number of people who can live as themselves.

I hope so.

That is why today, too,

I ask myself.

"Is that really true?"

🌿 For those who want to look more closely at how they feel

After reading this article,

"I also want to re-examine how I feel."

To those who feel that way.

Through the question, "Is that really true?" I provide,

not someone else's correct answer, but

a time to re-examine how you feelfor yourself.

It is not a time to be told the answer.

It is not a time to try hard to change, either.

It is a time to encounter your own true feelings,

"How do I really feel?"

that you hadn't noticed until now.

🌿 Click here for self-dialogue (self-conversation work)

👉

📖 Recommended reading

"If you had to score your daily life right now, what would it be?"

Can our days really be measured by a score?

This is an article written about "happiness" starting from that question.

👉

💬 How did you feel about it?

After reading this article,

if anything stayed with you,

or if you thought,

"This is how I felt,"

please let me know in the comments🌿

Reading how you all feel is a learning experience for me as well.

Please also consider participating in the survey🤗
There is a gift🎁, though it will be a lottery.

#WorkplaceRelationships
#Work
#JobChange
#WorkStyle
#PublicRelations
#SelfUnderstanding
#FacingMyself
#SelfDialogue
#IsThatReallyTrue
#YukiyoChan