Why a Marriage Agency? (1) Do you want to meet someone with a filtered photo? Or do you want to meet them as your true self?

I will write this based on the 'common occurrences in matching apps' from my previous article
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When you start marriage hunting, the first problem you face is the 'what should I do about my photo?' dilemma.

Smartphone cameras are getting smarter every year, and with apps, you can smooth your skin, enlarge your eyes, and make your face look smaller. In an era where it's normal to 'filter' photos on Instagram and X, it's a very natural feeling to think, 'If everyone else is doing it, I should too...'

But there is something I want you to stop and think about for a moment.

What kind of scenario awaits you after you meet someone through that photo?

There is a story I often hear about matching apps.

You choose your most 'filtered' photo for your profile and get a match. You go to meet them for the first time, feeling excited, and the first thing they say is, 'Oh, you look... a bit different from your photo.' No matter how well the conversation goes after that, the sense of discomfort felt at the beginning is hard to shake off.

Starting with a negative impression because they were disappointed by the real you.There is no encounter more wasteful than this. To make up for the negative impression created at the first meeting, you have to build up many times more goodwill in the subsequent conversation. A 'filtered photo' is actually creating the risk of stumbling at the very entrance of your encounter.

Photos at marriage agencies are not edited.

At marriage agencies, we do not edit profile photos. Instead, we ask professional photographers at photo studios to take them.

Photos taken by professionals don't 'filter' you by force, but rathercarefully bring out your expressions, atmosphere, and the vibe of the moment. Lighting, angles, and the timing of the shutter—in the hands of a skilled professional, the real you will be captured in a truly attractive way.

That is a completely different story from 'filtering'.

Meeting someone who compliments you for your 'natural self' becomes a genuine connection.

There is actually another important meaning to competing without any editing.

The person who applied to meet you after seeing your true-to-life photo issomeone who is seeing you exactly as you are right now. They are interested in the real you, not someone filtered through a smartphone screen. That encounter holds a small sense of sincerity from the very beginning.

Marriage hunting is not a game of how many people you can gather.Can you meet someone who suits you honestly?. That is what it all comes down to.

Instead of photos aimed at being 'Instagrammable' but fake, aim for a first impression where you meet as your natural, true self.