The True Meaning of "Compatibility" That People Who Struggle in Love Often Don't Know
"Maybe this relationship isn't quite right."
Even while feeling that way, aren't you unable to let go?
Your values don't align.
Your feelings are out of sync.
Even though it's painful to be together, for some reason, you are strongly drawn to each other.
Don't you sort of realize it?
Lovecannot be sustained by "liking" alone.
At first, youthought it might be fate, but before you knew it, the pain became greater.
But in reality, "compatibility" is not determined solely by a simple match in personality.
Rather, what has a major influence isthe state of your own heart.
I have felt a certain commonality while listening to stories about love consultations and marriage until now.
That is,
there are more couples with stable compatibility in arranged marriages than in love marriages
that is.
Of course, there are many wonderful couples in love marriages as well.
There are also cases where people struggle in arranged marriages.
However, looking at it as a whole, I have the impression thatrelationships built by calmly observing the other person are more likely to last long and peacefully than relationships that were rapidly drawn together by emotion alone.
Why is that?
There is a deep theme there regarding"what kind of partner people tend to choose".
For example, people who grew up ina home with a sense of security tend to choose a relatively calm and stable partner.
Conversely,
・The relationship with their parents was painful
・They could not feel enough love
・They could not feel safe at home
People who have had such experiencesmay unconsciously be drawn to partners who have "similar pain".
The person themselves wants to be happy.
But deep in their heart,they may recognize the familiar pain as "love".
This is not anyone's fault.
It is just that the human heart hasa nature to repeat the past.
That is precisely why what is truly important in love and marriage is
not just "finding someone you are compatible with."
What is necessary before that is
to
"align your own heart."
It is.
・Learning to value yourself.
・Not being too consumed by your emotions.
・Not choosing a partner just out of loneliness.
・Becoming free from the "anxiety that you might not be loved."
When you do that, strangely enough, the people you meet will start to change.
In fact, many people I have provided fortune-telling readings for have seen the people they meet change after they started aligning themselves.
They might feel a sense of discomfort with the"painful love"they would have been attracted to before, or conversely, they might stop feeling that a partner who provides peace of mind is "boring."
In other words, compatibility is not something that is "decided from the start," but
"something that changes as your own heart matures."
It is also that.
When love isn't going well, don't you find yourself thinking,
"The other person is bad," "I have no eye for people," or "I have bad luck"?
Don't you think that?
But at times like that, what you really need to look at is your own inner self. ・
Why was I so strongly attracted to this person? ・Why can't I let go? ・Why do I become so attached to painful love?
As you come to understand those things, your love life will gradually change.
In fact, there are cases whererelationships you thought were "incompatible" improve.
Instead of changing the other person,by understanding your own reactions and habits of the heart, the relationship becomes peaceful.
That is why I do not believe that "bad compatibility equals the end."
What is important is
"what you learn from that relationship"
.
And if right now,
・your love life is always painful
・you keep repeating the same patterns
・you are anxious about compatibility
・you are struggling to choose a marriage partner
if you have such worries, please try learning about the"essence of compatibility"once.
In the
"7 Steps to Reverse 'Bad Compatibility'"that I have compiled this time,
・why you choose painful love
・the root cause of worsening compatibility
・ways of thinking to improve relationships
・your own love type diagnosis
・concrete steps for improving compatibility
are organized in an easy-to-understand way.
I set the price at 100 yen because I wanted people who are struggling to feel free to read it.
Love greatly influences your life.
That is precisely why, beyond just the emotion of "liking" someone,it is important to know the state of your own heart.
If you are currently anxious about love or marriage.
If you are feeling"Is it okay to stay like this?".
That worry might be the gateway to changing your life.
"What kind of person you are when you meet" is more important than "who you meet"
When that changes,your love life, marriage, and life itself will begin to change surprisingly.
Please, try reading it once.
I hope that from now on,you will be able to build a relationship where you can feel secure.
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