🌱 Letting Go of Perfectionism | Let's Take Off the Glasses That Only See What You Haven't Done

🌱 Are you wearing 'glasses that see what you have done'?

Hello! It's Wakaba-chan 🍀
Today, I'm going to think about what it means for perfectionists to 'look for what they have done,' incorporating a story from my own experience!

🌱 Things you have done, hidden behind what you haven't

💚 Wakaba-chan 💚
Koto-chan, what should I do! I'm just not good at English at all!
The grammar is difficult, and at this rate, I'll never be able to use English...

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
That's not true.
Wakaba-chan, you're always working hard on your studies, aren't you?
It's okay to take it one step at a time.If you try looking for the things you have done,
you might feel a little more at ease.

💚 Wakaba-chan 💚
Even if you tell me to look for what I've done, I only see what I haven't done, so I don't get it~

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
Wakaba-chan, you've become a perfectionist,
a state where you can't forgive yourself unless everything is done perfectly.
Even if you've done 40%, you blame yourself because the remaining 60% isn't done.
It's like this.

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
Wakaba-chan, please look at this image.
Right now, you are looking at the 'what you haven't done' part at the bottom.
But please look at the top. There are things you've done more than before!

💚 Wakaba-chan 💚
You're right. I've been looking at what I haven't done for so long that I didn't notice.
I have done a little more than before...

But still! There's only a little bit that I've done!
It's still full of things I haven't done! I'm still so far behind...

🌿 'Glasses that see what you haven't done'

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
Wakaba-chan. This might sound harsh, but
if you keep looking for what you haven't done, you might never feel like you've accomplished anything.

💚 Wakaba-chan 💚
Huh?! What do you mean?
Because, if I just keep doing it and increase what I can do,
eventually, I'll be able to do it, right? I just haven't done it yet, that's all.

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
Of course, if you keep increasing what you can do, you will become more capable than before.

But you know, Wakaba-chan.
When you keep looking at what you haven't done, can you see what you have done?
When you arefinding faults in yourself, that's all you see,
and you become unable to see the things you haveactually grown and achieved compared to before.

When that happens,even if you do achieve something, you'll just keep looking for other things you haven't done.
Please look at the image below.

🩵 Koto-chan 🩵
Looking at the image above, the things you've done
have increased significantly compared to the previous image, right? 🌱
But Wakaba-chan, you think 'I haven't done anything at all.'

This will likely continue to be how you feel even as you achieve more in the future.
The reason is
because you are wearing glasses that see what you haven't done.
When you do that,you only end up seeing what you haven't done.

💚 Wakaba-chan 💚
I see...
Even though there are things I have done, I only look at what I haven't done,
and I end up blaming myself 🌱
I was wearing glasses that only see what I haven't done...

🌿 Putting on 'glasses that see what you have done'

🩵Koto-chan🩵
What's important is toput on 'glasses that see what you have done'.
When you do that, you'll start to see what you have accomplished.

💚Wakaba-chan💚
Instead of looking down and constantly searching for what you can't do,
look up and search for what you have done.
That's what's important, right?

🌿The Difficulty of Putting on 'Glasses That See What You Have Done'

💚Wakaba-chan💚
But, you know,
it's about changing from 'glasses that see what you can't do' to 'glasses that see what you have done', right?
It's not easy to put on those glasses that see what you've done.

Even when I try to look for what I've done,
I still end up hearing a voice saying,'You haven't done this yet!'💦

🩵Koto-chan🩵
Yes, that is the problem, and
how to make it possible to put on those 'glasses that see what you have done'
is something I am still in the middle of exploring.

But in the future, with Wakaba-chan's help,
I want to create a workshop for putting on 'glasses that see what you have done'.
Of course, it will be free.

It might take some time. Even so,
I want many people to be able to see what they have accomplished.
That is what I believe.

💚Wakaba-chan💚
That's true🌱
We aren't experts.
But I think that's exactly why there are things we can do.

I want to let go of perfectionism together with everyone🌿

Conclusion

🩵Koto-chan🩵
Thank you for reading this far🍀
Aiming for perfection,'means you can never forgive or accept yourself'.
I think that's what it is.

When you start to be able to put on those 'glasses that see what you have done' little by little,
I think you'll be able to be kinder to yourself.

It can be something really small.
There are surely small 'things you've done' in your daily life too🌱

🌱To everyone who read this

Have you thought about anything you've done well recently?
Even small things are fine🌿
Please share in the comments and let's find what we've accomplished together🍀

Next Article

💚Wakaba-chan💚
The next article is also part of the'Letting Go of Perfectionism' series!
'What are the benefits of wearing glasses that see what you have done?'
We'll be thinking about that!

In the future,
'Does wearing glasses that see what you haven't done also make you pick at the faults of people around you?'
We'll talk about that too!
Look forward to it🌱

Thanks for reading this far!💚
Come back again🍀

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