👓 The 'public eye' you always worry about = the resident guard in your mind, that is 'yourself' → You are the one monitoring and punishing yourself

Words you hear so often in everyday life

・ 'If I say this, will people think it's strange?'
・ 'If I wear this, will people think it's weird?'
・ 'If I do this, what will people around me think?'
・ 'If I do this, it'll look stupid, right?'

It's strange, it's weird, it's stupid, it's impossible anyway,
It doesn't suit you, you can't do it anyway, it's embarrassing,
You'll be made a fool of, etc., etc.,
Isn't this parade of self-directed drama continuing fruitlessly?

Even though no one is watching you, let alone paying attention to you,
you aren't standing out, and you aren't wearing anything eccentric, yet
you are always personally worrying about what others think, feeling nervous and tired from this one-man show.

Even in an empty space, even in a situation where no one is saying anything,
it's as if someone invisible is always standing there, staring and monitoring you,
or as if you are being chased by a surveillance camera 24 hours a day,
aren't you living with that kind of feeling?

Whose eyes are those?
Who is doing the monitoring?
Who is operating the surveillance camera?
Society?
Others?
Are you always conscious of those gazes and feeling tied up in knots?

Having received consultations from many people and heard various stories,
what I always think, and what I want to emphasize loudly again and again☝🏻
is this👇

'Others are not looking at you as much as you think they are!'

Seriously, it really comes down to this one thing (lol)

To put it more simply, this one phrase👇

'You worry too much!'

👏👏👏 Wow, a round of applause!!!

The words and actions or clothing you are anxious about being thought of as 'strange'
are often not noticed by anyone in reality,
and even if they are noticed, even if a passerby thinks so for a split second,
it has no effect, right?

Even if a friend, acquaintance, or family member says, 'That's weird! What is that!'
said to you, there is no negative impact that would turn your life, or theirs, 180 degrees around, right?

You are the protagonist of your life, others are supporting actors
In other people's lives, you are a supporting actor.
To others, you are nothing more than a supporting actor💦
That is why the feeling that 'I am always being watched!' is a huge illusion💦

If you have come this far and thought that might be true...
I would be very happy☺️

Moving on to the next part.

🌞 What is the true identity of the 'monitor' you raised in your own heart?

What do you think is the true form and identity of the 'monitor'?

As I have written many times in other articles, there are many things we have automatically and unconsciously acquired in the environment in which we grew up since childhood.

'I have to do this'
'Everyone else is doing it'
'This is how it should be'

Imprints and assumptions were automatically installed, and through the 'eyes of parents,' 'eyes of teachers,' 'eyes of friends,' and 'eyes of adults around us,'

we covered up our true feelings,

and learned to conform to those standards.
So as not to be scolded, to be praised, to be loved, and to protect ourselves on our own.

In that way, before we knew it, we had raised a strict monitor inside our own hearts.

Yes, the strict monitor is 'ourselves'.

This monitor (self), using the eyes of others (parents, teachers, friends, etc.),
monitors, punishes, and restricts ourselves.

・'You shouldn't do that'
・'It's impossible anyway'
・'Stop it, it's unsightly'
・'It's embarrassing to be the only one who is different'
・'It's better not to do it because you'll be embarrassed if you fail or make a mistake'
・'It's no good because it costs money'
・'There's no way you'll succeed'
・'No one will ever like someone like you'

In this way, we hurt, belittle, make ourselves give up, restrict, and punish.
We do it to ourselves.

And, before we knew it,

'What I really think'
'What I want to do'

The voice from the depths of our hearts is covered up, locked away, and we are living as slaves to 'the eyes of others = the monitor that is myself'.

☝🏻 Does this ring a bell?

It's time to wrap things up 😉

🌞 Let's listen to the voice inside (ourselves), not the outside (others).

As long as we live in society as adults, it is of course good to be considerate so as not to cause trouble for those around us in public places.
But that is completely different from the anxiety and fear of 'what others will think of me'.
I want to say that loud and clear! 💪🏻

Public eye, social reputation, vanity—these things are actually a monitor created by ourselves and are not on the outside, but inside our own hearts.

I have written this repeatedly in other articles as well,
(sorry for being persistent💦)
in short👇

'I am me, and others are others'

Isn't it about time you wanted to be freed from the monitor inside your heart?

"What do you really want to do?"

"How are you feeling deep down in your heart?"

From now on, let's focus on your "feelings deep down in your heart."
Let's shift our perspective to that.
When you face the true wishes and emotions deep within your heart,
you should be able to live more freely, authentically, and lightly ♫

~To those who read until the end~
Thank you from the bottom of my heart 😊

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