To you who are worried that your 4-year-old is still in diapers

The fact that it hasn't happened yet is not your fault, nor is it your child's fault.

The reason you searched for "4-year-old diapers," I'm sure I was the same.

“They are already 4, but they still aren't potty trained...”
You who searched for this while thinking that.
You are surely feeling uneasy about the differences from other children and the reality that things aren't going well, aren't you?

I understand. I, too, was once impatient, comparing, and frustrated...
And then, self-loathing later. There were days like that.

Every child has their own "time to be ready"

But please, rest assured.
For the independence of excretion,the development of the mind and body is necessaryand there are significant individual differences in that timing.

For example, they might be trying hard in underwear at daycare, but having accidents at home.
That might be an expression of their desire to "be spoiled" or "feel safe."
It is not on purpose; it is a "cry for help from the heart."

Before getting angry, take a breath. Your emotions have meaning too

In anger management, it is considered important to noticethe emotions behind the anger (anxiety, impatience, expectations)that you are feeling.
“I want them to be able to do it,” “I want them to catch up with those around them”—isn't that feeling manifesting as anger?

At times like that, first take a deep breath.
Try asking yourself, "How is my child feeling right now?"
Just by changing your perspective, your child will feel relieved.

That day will definitely come. It's okay not to rush.

The day they are out of diapers will surely come.
At the "perfect timing for this child."

So, please don't rush.
Your parenting is moving forward just fine.
Please give yourself a small round of applause for doing your best today, too.

If right now,
“Why is parenting so exhausting?”
“I don't want to get angry, but I end up getting angry...”
If you are filled with those feelings.

I have written an article that goes a little deeper,
based on what I have learned while struggling myself,
and on knowledge of anger management and parenting psychology.

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To you who searched for being tired of parenting.
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If you'd like, please take a quiet look.