My 4-year-old won't sleep? Or sleeps too much? A story to read when you're worried about 'sleep duration'

"I feel like their bedtime is too late."
"My child is energetic without a nap, but is that okay?"
"Or, conversely, are they sleeping too much?"

Many of you have likely felt that way and searched for "4-year-old sleep duration."

First, the average sleep duration for a 4-year-old is considered to be 10 to 13 hours.
However, this is just a "guideline," and the reality is that there are significant individual differences depending on the child.

In fact, children who start their mornings slowly and don't get very tired during the day may be fine with 11 hours.
Conversely, depending on their constitution or temperament, some children may still be fussy even after sleeping for more than 13 hours.

And another important point is that "parental anxiety and anger" are also closely linked to sleep.

"I told you to go to sleep already!" "It's already [time]!"
I end up getting frustrated and saying things strongly...
I have had days like that myself.

But when you look at it from the perspective of anger management,
behind that anger lies the "love and anxiety" of wanting them to sleep early and not wanting it to affect tomorrow.

It's not that getting angry is bad; what's important is "first noticing those feelings yourself."

Even children, when they are sleepy, might be excited or want to spend more time with their parents,
and they face the night carrying various "leftover emotions."

It's okay if there are days when bedtime doesn't go well.
Just for today, hold them, reassure them, and read a picture book for a little longer...

Rather than "days when they fall asleep easily,"
we want to provide "nights where they can sleep with peace of mind," don't we?

If you are currently feeling overwhelmed by thoughts like,
"Why is parenting so exhausting?"
"I don't want to get angry, but I end up doing it..."

I have written an article that goes a bit deeper,
based on what I have learned while struggling myself,
and on knowledge of anger management and parenting psychology.

▼ Click here for the paid article
To you who searched for 'exhausted from parenting'.
https://note.com/alert_phlox6684/n/n4e4077e0250e

If you'd like, please take a quiet look.