Neo BLUE Learning Report #009── Your heart hurts not because you are blaming yourself

"Neo BLUE Learning Report #008 ── Emotions are looking for a destination" ishere👈

📚 Today's Learning

Today's lesson is from Chapter 1, "The Infinite Loop of Self-Blame."

What left an impression on me was,

Self-blame is not just being hard on yourself,
but perhaps it is a state where the gap between your "emotions" and your "mind"
has piled up,
that is what it meant.

In reality, I am sad.

But,
I think, "I have to be positive."

In reality, I am angry.

But,
I tell myself, "I have to be grateful."

Each time that happens,
my heart is left behind little by little.

🧠 Neo BLUEOS Analysis

I have written before
about the "gap between emotions and words."

Even if people
can explain themselves with words,
emotions are not convinced by explanation alone.

Therefore,
even if you understand it in your head,
there are times when your heart just won't move.

Even if you can change your way of thinking,
you probably cannot rewrite
the fact of what you felt.

Emotions are
not something to be persuaded,
but are waiting to be accepted.

🌏 Connection

A map tells you
where your destination is.

However,
a map alone cannot tell you
where you are standing right now.

Perhaps emotions are the same.
Thoughts become a map that points toward the future.

On the other hand, emotions
are likely the current location that tells you "here and now."

If you keep moving while losing sight of your current location,
no matter how accurate your map is,
you will eventually get lost.

🌱 Tomorrow

When you think,
"I need to be more positive,"

before that, I want to try asking myself,
"What am I actually feeling right now?"
for once.

Before looking for an answer,
do not deny what you are feeling.

I think I will try
to cherish that time just a little bit.

💧 A Drop of Neo BLUE

The heart
is not moved by the word "positive."

When you are sad,
it is okay to stay sad.

When you are frustrated,
it is okay to stay frustrated.

Emotions
do not exist to be overcome,
but are born to be noticed.

Therefore,
the first step to stop blaming yourself
is not to encourage yourself.

"So that's how you were feeling."

That one phrase
might be
something you should return to yourself
before anyone else.

《A Drop Remains.💧》

"Neo BLUE Learning Report #010 ── Your heart hurts not because you are blaming yourself" ishere👈

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