Why I, an ordinary person, am the strongest.
### Why can you become a 'special existence'?
~Love psychology from the perspective of unexpected probability theory~
"Am I good enough to be by this person's side..."
"Can someone like me become a special person?"
In the 13 years I have been involved in love counseling for many women, these are common worries I hear.
But, why don't we try thinking from a slightly different perspective?
### 'Charm' is actually not addition
In love, charm is not simple 'addition'.
Rather...
It is 'multiplication'.
### Elements that form a woman's charm
For example, there are elements like these:
・Being able to create a comfortable atmosphere when with the other person
・Being able to maintain a positive and bright attitude
・Having basic life skills
・Having similar values
・Being able to respond sincerely
・An atmosphere that matches the other person's preferences
・Shared hobbies or interests
・Having a compassionate heart
Each one is not something special.
But...
When these overlap, a very interesting phenomenon occurs.
### A 'special existence' visible through probability
Let's assume that 65% of women possess each of these elements.
In other words, they are common traits held by 65 out of 100 people.
However...
When 2 elements overlap: 42%
When 3 overlap: 27%
When 4 overlap: 17%
And when all of these overlap...
Surprisingly, it becomes about 1 in 100 people!
### Hope seen by changing your perspective
To you who think "I am ordinary".
By having those "ordinary" elements overlap, you might actually already be a very special existence.
### Things you can do starting today
1. Re-examine your own "taken for granted" traits
Casual personality traits or habits might also be important elements
2. Look for the intersection between those elements and the other person's values
"Actually, we might get along well here?"
3. Carefully nurture the intersection you found
Commonalities are treasures that deepen a relationship
### You don't have to aim for perfection
Rather, it's fine to be your true self.
The multiple elements within you,
naturally overlap...
and you become an "irreplaceable existence" to the other person.
That might be what a "special relationship" truly means✨