December 10, 2025 / Winning Without Fighting

Hexagram of the Year: Kun (The Receptive)
Hexagram of the Month: Bi (Holding Together)
Hexagram of the Day: Shi (The Army)

To You, the Mother

It goes without saying, but raising children is not a battle. However, have you ever felt like you were fighting an invisible enemy before you even realized it?

The times when you can spend time peacefully with your child versus the times when you cannot. What exactly is the difference? Confucius teaches us that the key lies in whether or not you can forgive yourself.

You are doing your best every day. Even if you haven't been able to do everything you wanted to do for your child, or even if there are days when you couldn't do anything at all, please tell yourself before you go to sleep, 'I did a great job today!'

To You, Who Is in Love

When you are in love, whether it is a happy time or a painful one, isn't the hardest part maintaining your composure? Perhaps your partner's tone was a bit harsher than usual, or you didn't get any consideration when you were feeling unwell or exhausted, or they forgot something you had promised. There are many situations where you might get angry, feel frustrated, or feel uneasy.

If you felt such anger today, try practicing how to calm that anger and maintain your composure tonight.

Practice abdominal breathing, drink something warm, read a book, listen to music, or watch your favorite YouTuber. Anything is fine. If you live with your partner, it is also recommended to spend some time alone. Try to put some distance between yourself and your anger.

To You, Who Is Working

If you are a leader of an organization, what is needed to bring the organization together is not money, nor the number of successful projects, but humanity.

So, where should you approach and improve this humanity? While there are many elements, Confucius preaches that being able to maintain composure is a characteristic of a leader with mature humanity.

Every leader must experience ups and downs, anxiety and excitement, feeling great joy at times and disappointment at others. However, don't the leaders you want to follow always have a steady, generous atmosphere that makes you think, 'With this person, everything will be okay'?

I believe today was a day where you fought many things. Please reassure yourself before you go to sleep by saying, 'I am okay.' Adding a note to your diary is also recommended.