🤍 Sharing my thoughts on the 'who pays' debate: I think 'what's comfortable for both' is the best answer
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In this article, I'll be writing about "Sharing my thoughts on the 'who pays' debate🔥 I think 'what's comfortable for both' is the best answer." Please note that the following is strictly my personal opinion. Let's get started☺️
※I have no intention of hurting anyone.
※This article was written with the help of ChatGPT to articulate my thoughts.
It's fine if some people think "paying = love." But that's not everything.
For example, there are people who think "I feel loved when someone pays for me." And if they have clearly communicated that to their partner, I can actually understand, just a little, why they might feel "Am I not loved?" when the partner doesn't pay. But on the other hand, what if the person being paid for starts to think "it's only natural to be paid for"? That's a bit tough in any relationship.
In romance, things don't go well if you force your "common sense" on others.
When I eat out with my boyfriend,
**I use a "pay for my own share"** style.
That said, the timing of the bill can be hectic, so one of us usually pays the total first, and then we settle up later with cash or PayPay🫧
So, does that mean "paying for someone isn't love"?
That's not it.
"Paying = I love you" and
"Not paying = I've lost interest" areboth just assumptionsin my opinion. Rather, what's truly important is knowing "what makes your partner feel loved when you do it?"🍀
For example,
some people feel cherished when someone spends money on them,
while others value heartfelt words or physical affection more.
In other words, "paying or being paid for" isonly one form of love. If you are being paid for, "giving back" properly is also a form of love🫶
Personally, if there is a situation where someone pays for me,
I make sure to say "thank you" properly
I buy drinks on the next date
I give a small snack or gift
…things like that,I want to value "returning the 'thank you' in a tangible way"as well☺️
The most important thing in romance is "whether the two of you are comfortable"
There is no right answer to paying or being paid for.
But I can say one thing:
**"The form that makes both of you feel comfortable is the right answer for the two of you."**
Since the sense of "comfort" differs from person to person,
I think the most wonderful relationship is one where you don't force things on each other and can talk things through properly🫧
One last word.
Money can be a bit difficult to talk about, but
because of that, the sense of trust you feel when you are able to talk about it is huge.
Whether it's the desire to be loved or the desire to cherish someone,
it would be great if we could convey those feelings to each other properly without being bound by conventions.🌷
That's all! I hope this is helpful. Thank you for reading. I would be happy if you read my other articles too.🍀 I accept consultations via X DMs, so please feel free to send me a message.🫧 I'll be waiting.🙇