Consultation from a mother in her 40s: 'My 5th-grade son has been skipping school often'

I received a consultation from a mother in her 40s whose 5th-grade son has been skipping school lately.

She is worried because he doesn't play with friends even when he does go to school, and he plays alone when he comes home.

It became clear that her son has a wonderful personality with very distinct, original thoughts and ideas.

However, the current Japanese school education system is based on group life.

The more he expresses his uniqueness, the more it tends to be viewed with concern as being 'different from everyone else'.

This time, at the mother's strong request, I also talked to her son about his personality.

The 5th-grade son answered my questions politely about his friends and how he is doing at school, even though we were meeting for the first time.

Moreover, I was surprised by how articulate his responses were, far exceeding my expectations.

When I asked him what he thought of himself, he replied that he was 'self-centered'.

He clearly understood that he values his own world and also understood the differences between himself and his friends.

He was accepting the differences between himself and his friends and facing himself as best he could. It is truly admirable that he understands these differences.

While calling himself self-centered, he also possessed the essential quality of being able to perceive his friends' feelings. That is precisely why he doesn't want to do things that would upset his friends and doesn't want to cause trouble.

He told me, 'I couldn't say anything to Mom because she cries right away if I do.'

For him, the hardest part was holding everything in because he didn't want to worry his mother.

His mother also revealed that she had been having sleepless nights.

The son said, 'It was interesting to learn about my strengths and the parts inside me. It gave me confidence!'

The mother said, 'I'm glad I could learn about my child's personality that I didn't know before. And I feel like everything that had been bothering me—like why he thinks the way he does—has finally connected, and I feel so relieved!'

I was happy to see that the mother also felt a weight lifted off her heart.

Children are facing themselves seriously in their own way.

It warmed my heart to see the love they have for each other.

A very hardworking son, and a mother whose face was beaming with smiles by the time she left.

I am truly looking forward to your son's growth. I would like to continue supporting you both forever.

When my son turned 30, I learned his true nature for the first time and was stunned.

I blamed myself, thinking that if I had known sooner, I could have been there for my son, who was never good with words.

There is a reason why young children fuss.

Please understand that the reason is completely different depending on the child's personality.

In our parent-child personality analysis, we convey the delicate inner voices of such children.

Please enjoy the time you have with your child, which you can only experience now, to the fullest.

I would be happy if this article is also helpful to you.

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